Kids throwing trantrum in store? 2?

Question

In first one: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/?qid=20060728235152AAUcBUX&r=w

Some people say they believe parents take kid out of store or restaturant if they throw fits because they don't want to bother others surrounding them.

So I'm wondering what go through your mind if you see parents take their kid out of store or restaturant because the kid throw fits? What do you perfer them to do?

I'm deaf so I can't hear them throw fits, however my eyes is very easily distracted by anything out of place. So when I see parents with kid who throw fit, I usually have to hold back a small chuckle. However it don't really bother me if parents do something to teach kid to not throw fits because I understand that sometime kid misbehave. However it really get on my nerve if parents cave in and give kid what they want or take them out of store because then I will feel like "gee I really gotta to deal with those type of brat in future because their parents are too much of a santa claus to do it?"

Redfernkitty, you didn't offend me in any way :-)

Answer 1

I am a parent of three. I do not give into to my children and i don't take them out of the store. For the simple fact that if i were to do that they would never learn how to act in public. I take my children to the bathroom so they won't disturb anyone if its a big fit and talk to them about what they are doing wrong until they calm down. If its a huge fit i take them to the bathroom and they get a spat on the behind with an open palm (which isn't much considering they are still in pull-ups) to get there attention and then we talk it out. Small fits they usually get a warning that they will go to the bathroom. They don't misbehave that often so when they get in trouble they act as if its something new to them. hen they do throw fits it really upsets me to see people stare like i have horrible children because they are generally good kids it makes me wonder if they have kids and if they do were there kids born perfect. It also ticks me off to see parents give into there children because i wonder if one day those are the going to be the delinquents robbing my house or bullying my children in school.There parents who leave the store completely make me wonder if there beating there children out in the parking lot.

Answer 2

Well, I hope this isn't tasteless...but if you see a child throwing a tantrum, you should be very grateful at the precise moment that you are deaf (perhaps you weren't always deaf and have heard them before...then you know what I am talking about)

I hope I didn't offend you...sometimes you never know.

I've heard that a good way to stop a tantrum is to start throwing one yourself...even throw yourself on the floor and start kicking and screaming. I hear it's very effective...but I think most adults (myself included) probably wouldn't have the nerves to do that in public...and the tactic should probably be reserved for kids who throw them all the time and nothing else works.

Probably taking the child outside would be best...but that isn't always feasible or fair to expect of a parent...and of course leaving the store is the last thing you want to do if the child is throwing the tantrum because he doesn't want to be there.

It irritates me to no end to see a parent give a child what he wants when he throws a tantrum...I'd rather listen to the screaming than see a parent give him the candy or whatever(which usually only shuts them up for a short while)

Similar thing happened to me today at work...I work with toddlers and we have one that is prone to tantrums if she doesn't get her way and I was working with a new girl who was sitting there trying to talk to her and teach her a lesson and I'm like, 'just ignore her...she'll stop)...the screaming lasted almost five minutes!!! AHHHHHH

Answer 3

not sure how old these kids are- if they are old enough to understand let them know that if they through a fit they can't go with you to the store again for a week. Keep all this written down.
If they tend to throw fits when both of them around. Then take just one of them. Make there be consquenses for their behavior.
Best thing is avoid triggers that lead to fits......tired, hungrey, kids are a sure thing for a fit.
some people let the kids lay and throw a fit. others pick up and take them out to the car.
Best of all prevent those fits.

Answer 4

i dont think the parents take their kids out of a public place becasue they dont want to bother the other people i think its because its a punishment if the child isnt behaving. I would say its time to go home to my kid although kids seem to do what i ask them to anyways. I always treat kids good and explain the reasoning behind every option. Give them choices and communicate and you shouldn't have problems like this. Unless they are tired and grumpy ( which can happen to an adult too) and then it should be time to go home. Parents need to have patience and talk with their children.

Answer 5

It is much worse when parents cave in. I'd rather see a parent discipline a misbehaving child. The worst part is these kids are the same ones that will be in YOUR childs classroom beating the crap out of everyone and nothing will be done about it.

Answer 6

i do no longer think of this is nice in any thank you to in basic terms enable your baby throw a tantrum in public. If a verify enables it to expand to their little ones crumpling to the floor, screaming, kicking or working then the mothers and dads have not accomplished their jobs as mothers and dads. as quickly as a baby gets to tantrum mode, then this is acceptable to get right down to their eye point and tell them to knock it off and straighten up now or there'll be a effect for misbehaving. some human beings say placed them in day holiday interior the shop, yet that doesn't artwork with each and every baby. Take them to the lavatory or out to the vehicle and placed them in day holiday, supply them a spanking, or what ever your effect could be there in privateness. I truly have walked out of the shop and are available decrease back in a while many events. in case you do no longer something or merely wait till they get homestead, then they have already gotten away with it. just to additionally upload, babies would have moments while they cry and whine. babies have desires that would desire to be dealt with and that's a thoroughly diverse ball park. *you're saying your son has on no account thrown a tantrum in public? I truly have a hard time believing that, till he's decrease than one twelve months previous. in case you have yet to adventure it then get waiting through fact this is coming. be certain which you do have a plan of action in ideas to coach in progressed.

Answer 7

I think they feel embarrassed for the incident. Kids today's are not brought up with iron hand, I've seen incidents where the parents are the children and the children are the parents.

Answer 8

If I take my kids outside, it's to spank them. But I give them a firm warning that the bad behavior better stop now or we can take it ouside.

Answer 9

i have a child and she knows better than that cuz my foot will be deep in something and it won't be a shoe. some kids are just SPOILED the parents spoiled them after a while they can't handle it.

Answer 10

I UNDERSTAND I HAVE A NIECE AND NEPHEW AND THEY THROW FITS IF THEY CAN'T HAVE WHAT THEY WANT IN THE STORE OR DON'T GET THERE WAY.