Kids throwing trantrum in store?

Question

I often notice that when kids throw a tantrum in store or restaturant, the parents tend to pick up the kid and rush out of store or give the kid whatever they want. Why do they do that if it will make their kids really spoiled?

If I was a parent and my kid even dare to do that in public place, he/she will get serious spanking and put in cart and ignored for rest of shopping trip. but that is at least how I see it, but I'm curious about other opinions.

Some very interesting answer here. I am gonna make second one.

For those who say I have never raised kids and have no room in making a comment.

I may never have a child. However I do have been in situtation where I have to work with some really stubborn people include few who tried to throw trantrum. I have been doing it since I was 13.

I don't need any comment on spanking. I'm not asking if spanking is right or wrong. I'm asking why do parents rush out of store and what you think should be done.

Answer 1

I agree with you 110%. I hate going any where and seeing a child act up and then the parents let that child get away with it, they are not doing that child one bit of good doing them that way!!

I do believe in spanking kids. But now days you have these folks out there that if you spank that child, in their eyes, you are beating your child!! For Christ sake, that is what is wrong with these kids now. Plus with the law the way it is, if you do get lucky and get to spank that kid with out some old noisy biddy sticking their nose where it DON'T belong, that child ends up turning you in for child abuse!! Come on now....PLEASE.. what is it with the world today.

That is why there is so much meanness in the world today with these kids. These kids don't even know what a beating is!!! Let's bring back the spanking of "yesteryear" if they think they are getting beat today!! We might not would have as much problems now if it was like it was back then.

Answer 2

First your not a parent you can't truly judge it until your in it. But yes giving a kid what ever they want spoils them. Taking the kid out of the store is what all shrinks and parenting mags say to do. Spanking a child while everyone says it they are the first people on their phones calling the cops if saw someone spaking their kid. Ignoring a yelling child while trying to buy groceries never works because then you have every passer by telling you how bad a parent you are. Unfortunately there really isn't a perfect solution to this. And some children are just the spawn of Satan....

Answer 3

Most will tell you "well if you don't have kids then you can't have an opinion about the raising of kids".

I am not most, I am very glad to see people who will show their progeny that behavior like that is unacceptable. And for those bleeding hearts out there, spanking is a perfect learning tool if the parent is mature enough to know how to use it. I am a father of two boys and even before I had them I made some decisions about how I wanted to raise them. And I have kept most of those decisions, at least I had a plan going into parenting and didn't just wing it because people told me I couldn't have an opinion, I believe thinking about it and looking at how others do things will help people to be better parents.

Answer 4

A lot of patrons in stores give parents nasty looks and even speak up at time when kids throw tantrums. I think that motivates parents to do the "quick fix." If the public didn't seem to get so annoyed at children's tantrums, I don't think there would be the urge just to get the child to be quiet. I'm not saying that giving into the child is a good approach though - it doesn't really teach them very good habits, obviously, to do that.

As for your plan to solve the problem - don't expect it to work - that's what I have to say to that. Generally, spanking a child only makes them scream louder - not to mention the long term effects it may have on them (depending on the child) such as giving them the tendency to hit to get what they want like their parent does. As for ignoring them - that's not a very grown-up approach - the silent treatment? Really.

The best approach to parenting is always talking to your child like a human being and like you want them to talk to other people. If you don't want them screaming, ignoring and hitting to get their way - then you shouldn't either. That's a good motto to go by, in my opinion.

PS - amen Mark C - wish I would have said that >;)

Answer 5

I think the BIG PROBLEM with your whole question is the part where you say "IF I WAS A PARENT".
So...you've watched so many episodes of CSI: Las Vegas that you could conduct a forensic investigation of a triple homicide eh?

Here's my point...reserve your all knowing sage advice until after you actually have racked up some impirical wisdom..and then..when you have the perfect kid..and all is right with the world..you can preach.

I have two kids..and I never "ran out of a store"..or "bought their behavior with toys"..I have seem people do it though and and just thought.."maybe the kids are real nightmares...maybe the kids are mentally challenged or something". I've NEVER thought..."what an a$$hole..I could do it better".
You're an arrogant SOB and somebody should do something about your behavior.

Answer 6

My daughter is 6 years old, and in her life only had one tantrum in the store when she was 2 years old. I simply looked at her and told her no. She threw herself on the floor screaming like she was getting beat, I had security guards coming to check on her. I told her that either she was going to stop being a brat or she was going to stay there all day. Either way I didn't care. I walked away enough to still be able to see her, and she stopped. I have never had to deal with her acting that way again. If we are in the store now and she asks for something (beyond clothes, shoes, food, etc), I tell her that she has her own money and she needs to buy what she wants. If she starts to whine, I walk away. Then she knows I am serious.

But overall, I agree with you. There are many parents that either give in or walk out of the store. I think it is because other shoppers are staring at them to get them to shut their kid up. I hate noisy kids in the store.

Answer 7

Days being the way they are today...you can't hit your kid, full stop....well at least not in public !
As a mother of 5...if and when my kids threw a **** fit...I took them outside to not distrub other people in the store or resturant. It's just being respectful of other people. Outside they were given a smack on the bum and a very dirty looks and then a firm speaking to.
If and when we returned inside the resturant or market and they dare to throw another fit, I would walk out and return home.

The reason the children are rushed away from the situation is simply out of respect of other peoples rights to silence. If you have children, don't hit them in public or some nosey busy body could get the hump and call the social on you.

Answer 8

parents need to reinforce good behaviour, and NOT reward bad behaviour by pacifying the child with a treat. i don't agree with spanking, but the child needs to learn from an early age that no amount of screaming will achieve a thing. the parent could, for example, count to 3 and if the child doesn't behave then they will be taken home and put into "time out". the parent always should carry through their "threat". and be consistent. remember, the parent is boss.

Answer 9

I wouldn't go so far as a spanking or ignoring, but the kid will definitely know that the behavior is wrong. I was raised to have manners inside the house and out, and I'll be raising my kids the same.

Answer 10

yes,

we have observed that when you spank your kids it is now considered "child Abuse" even though it is discipline.
that's y most parents rush out or givem' whatever they wanted.
giving the kid throwing a tantrum what he/she wanted is like giving them a pacifier, a distraction in a way, but they may not always leave the store with it as children have a short attention span.