I've known 2 of my guy friends for a year, and since then I've been hanging out with both of them, becoming good friends...until recently. Unfortunately, they know each other from highschool, but they were never really friends with each other. I didn't realize it until later on, when my friend told me. I thought it wouldn't be a big deal if I hung out with them, (not together) because they weren't that good of friends. Well one guy I'll call "jake" told me he wanted to be my bf. The other guy "darren" showed me he cared about me but never really came out & said that he liked me, although sometimes actions speak louder than words. Anyways, I liked "darren" more because he's more of the bad boy type, and "jake" is the good guy. Well they found out that I was seeing both of them, and they both got jealous. Since I wanted to win "darren"s attention back, I told him that I never liked "jake" because he was a dweeb (good guy). I haven't talked to "jake" for awhile.
2006-07-28 19:26:26 · 14 answers · asked by feisty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long story short...I'm starting to have feelings for "jake" again because "darren" is involved with bad stuff, so he's always moody, and "jake" is a really nice guy, just not as attractive as the "bad boy type" ya know? BUT I don't want to look like an idiot if "darren" finds out that I'm talking to "jake" again, especially if I called him names and everything. But what should I do since they both see each other on occasion? They've talked about me before, trying to brag to each other, so I know they have conflict about me. But I don't want to make "darren" mad especially since I'd be saying one thing and doing the other...does that make sense? Please help!
2006-07-28 19:32:19 · update #1
Hey girl,
You don't have guy problems, you have self esteem problems. Be honest with what you and who you want to be with. Don't play head games with men. The hurt they feel last longer and turns to hate and anger if you prolong and lie. My advice, leave them both and collect your thoughts. Tell them that very thing, "I need to sort my feelings out for awhile and please be patient with this process" Do NOT give reasons as they are your reasons and yours alone, by giving them reasons you are opening yourself up to explainations that are none of their business. They will not understand and berate you for this. Be strong, ultimately you will find a better man that understands you and connects with you. Honest and for truly girl. Do not lie to these guy or put the other down it comes back on you negitively ten fold.
Be honest and let your conceous be your guide.
Hugs to you,
Jeffrey
2006-07-28 19:45:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well...you definitely got yourself in a pickle...my first question to you is: Who do you really like? Are you sure you like him? Second, if both guys kinda know each other, then fact is even if they don't get a long the most likely will talk to each other....to figure out what is going on.
My recommendation is if you like Darren then maybe you should be honest, and tell him that you like him and want to be bf/gf. Then I recommend you tell Jake that you only saw him as a friend and that you didn't mean to lead him on to think you liked him romantically. Furthermore, if both guys feel that you were playing them, then most likely they won't want to get involved with you because they don't or won't trust you.
2006-07-28 19:47:06 · answer #2 · answered by monavyas15 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your the one that's being the dweeb, because you are seeing two men at once, and you don't have the courage to tell Jake that there will never be anything between y'all. Darren seems like the type to let you down easy! (that is the way I c it from your text), and Jake seems to be the sweet guy that will be there 4 you when u need it. You need to make better judgment and MATURE more!
2006-07-28 19:36:57 · answer #3 · answered by hello_citty_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date Jake. Darren m8 b more attractive 2 u cuz he's a bad boy but any bet Jake probably more trustable. What ever u do make sure you dont lose Jake he sounds sweet
2006-07-28 19:37:06 · answer #4 · answered by sav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to those stupid negative pple, u should tell "darren" how you feel and tell him straight out that u want to be w. him and that yea u were talking to "jake" but maybe u can be w. "darren" and either still be friends w. "jake" or tell him how u feel, u need to talk it out w. both guys separately and from there just follow ur heart. but dont put "jake" down just to save urself, u can end up really hurting a good friend.
2006-07-28 19:34:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well allot of times those bad boy type guys like good girls. So if you want to win his attention back show him how good of a girl you can really be. I'm talking about at heart. Solid.
2006-07-28 19:31:00 · answer #6 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move to a secluded location in Argentina.
2006-07-28 19:28:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
females/women are in many cases bi-curious, and arent afraid to particular thoughts to a minimum of one yet another. They hug, kiss, circulate to the bathing room jointly, and stuff like that. yet while adult men do it, this is incorrect, and gay.
2016-11-03 06:01:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read your whole question twice, and I'm still not sure what you're asking. What exactly is the problem?
2006-07-28 19:31:13 · answer #9 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wellz dont hurt jake.juss tell him there nutin between u and go bac 2 beeing frends.....
2006-07-28 19:30:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋