I can believe this, should I disown him from the family or beat him until he becomes straight again?
2006-07-28 19:22:31 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
beat him
2006-07-28 19:26:39 · answer #1 · answered by lc_firefighter 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
How long have you been afraid? It sounds like most of your life and that is so sad. Did you have an "experience" at some time in your past and the realization that you too, may be gay but it was not an option? You must have been so confused and angry. Your insecurity regarding your own "curiosity" most assuredly pushed you towards the extreme, and now your own flesh and blood,... You must really feel, deep down in your soul like some sort of freak who is inadequate to father a "normal" son. Your fears of your own inner desires must create some serious guilt for you. Your guilt had nothing to do with your son being gay, you know. It was the dynamics of your genes and his mothers genes, he was born this way and nothing you can do, say, or your fear, try, intimidate, or wish will change that.
At this point in your life, it is likely that it was your genes ,not his moms were the factor that mutated fully in your son, and as a result he is the only one who may be honest here. Maybe you should seek some therapy, so that you, as well as your son may be happy, instead of denying what very well may be true: Your gay as well and hiding a desire that for some unknown reason you can't express.
There are plenty of men out in the world that have gone what you have gone through, had son's and daughters and when they finally realized they were homosexuals as well, they really had a wonderful parent/child relationship.
In the meantime, while you think about this, why don't you simply accept what you can't change, and change the things you can, like yourself.
2006-07-29 08:33:12 · answer #2 · answered by jv1104 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should anyone hate gays. I am sorry but they say if a person fears a homosexual then he/she is one themselves but afraid to admit it. There is nothing wrong with gays and you should respect your sons choice and sexuality. Let him know you will stand by him even if you are not sure. Apart from the fact you would be sent to prison for beating him up- you cant beat someones sexuality out of them it isnt a physical thing. Just think how you would feel if you had to pick up the nerve to tell your dad you are a gay after he knows how much you hate them. i respect him for having some guts. The world is trying to rid people who hate gays and and i dont know how anyone could build up so much hate that they would disown a member of their family for something as petty as sexuality. STAND BY HIM!
2006-07-28 20:33:18 · answer #3 · answered by stef x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't disown him and don't beat him. Take him to counseling to find out why he hates himself. I thinks it's interesting that he has become the very thing you taught him to hate, don't you?
Your main concern should be for his health, mental and physical. I worry about the gay people I care about because I am afraid they will get AIDS. I've seen this happen, and it's devastating to look into the eyes of someone I care about and know that they are dying.
Be nice to the kid. He is your flesh and blood, you know.
2006-07-28 19:32:44 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm tryng REALLY hard not to judge you.
First off ,you can not beat a person straight. If you are not sure about that, go look up Matthew Shepard.
Your son needs your love regardless of if he is straight or gay. My advice to you is get beyond it and realize that he is the same son you loved before the words "I'm gay" ever came out of his mouth.
2006-07-28 19:29:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
for one, you should be ashamed for teaching your son to hate "gays" they are people with feelings that live a different lifestyle.
now about beating him or disowning him......for one, if you disown him, you could face the rest of your life of not seeing him anymore, but do you really want to torture yourself? and second, would you want to go to jail for beating him? if your answer is 'no' to these questions, the best advise that i could truly give you, is if you apologize for you to teach him to not like a certain lifestyle.
that's your choice for not liking 'gays' but why would you teach your son that, without letting him think for himself?
good luck....
2006-07-28 19:32:27 · answer #6 · answered by blaquepanther88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your son that you were wrong, that it is wrong to hate people who are gay. You tell him that you love him no matter what, because he is your son, and his happiness is your primary concern. You get him counseling if he needs it so that he can accept himself.
If you cannot do these things, then stay the heck out of his life. He's better off without you.
2006-07-28 19:46:17 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not blame yourself for this..This has nothing to do with u teaching him to hate guys..
Disowning him or beating him will not solve the problem..
Take help from a Doctor.(Psychiatrist)
2006-07-28 20:21:29 · answer #8 · answered by kulkarnidg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It you son is gay you must be interesting and to chance
him. Do you remember Nobody is perfect. Every must be
something is not good in themself. what is the important
in our life?
Thought,He is a gay. I'm sure, He is good guy.
2006-07-28 19:34:03 · answer #9 · answered by vassana p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Accept him and love him... He's from you, You nourished and care him from birth... Encourage him to act and do what the normal norms do. There are a lot of gays who made names on their ability and talents. And create an environment of acceptance in the family and friends...
2006-07-28 19:29:13 · answer #10 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you love him anyway gay or not gay and see if you can give a gentle push in the direction to being striaght again.
2006-07-28 19:29:04 · answer #11 · answered by Fatima A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋