I don't know how.....help please...this isn't meant to be a perverted question.?

Question

I am wondering guys especially....how does a girl give a bj? What makes it really good for you. i'm not exeperienced so i need to know thanks. What to do and what not to do?thanx

Answer 1

this is an answer someone gave me and my man loved it

1 - Explore him. While it's ALL good, he's going to have some places that he likes better than others. Find the spots he REALLY likes, and pay special attention to them. (Doesn't mean you ONLY do those; it's weird, but too much stimulation to the same spot almost makes it go numb, which is NOT what you want.)

2 - Vary the speed and pressure. Sometimes use long, slow strokes, sometimes short quick ones; sometimes squeeze hard (or put your hand around the base as the tip is in your mouth), sometimes touch sooooo lightly that it's like a feather in the breeze.

3 - Deep throating: Relax, hold your tongue low along the floor of your jaw, and take in only as much as you can. Believe me, he'll love helping you practice.

4 - And the most important: When his back arches and he stiffens up from head to toe and you can tell he's about to explode, put your hand around the base to guide it (and maybe do a little pumping, too), place his head just far enough into your mouth that it's past the middle of your tongue but not too close to the back of your throat, slide your tongue back and forth against the spot just below the head, and everything will land on the back of your tongue where it's easy to swallow (but not so far back in your throat that it sets off your gag reflex). But be careful -- don't touch the very tip, the opening itself, once he starts to climax; something happens to the nerves there when he climaxes that makes it almost painful to be touched. (That's the other reason you want to keep the tip fairly far back on your tongue, so that you won't accidentally rub on it with anything as you swallow.)

When you can do that without a hitch, here are some things to experiment with:

5 - Some men, I'm told, don't like to have their testicles touched. Personally, I can't understand why. Start by stroking them gently and see how he reacts; if it bothers him, he'll tell you. If he likes it, you should know. From there, try a very gentle massage, moving the testicles themselves around gently inside the sac of skin. When he's about to come, or has just started, lightly press them up against his body with the palm of one hand (you can use the other to squeeze and pump the base of his penis, while you're doing #4, above).

6 - Try stroking the space under (or behind, if he's in a standing position) his testicles -- called the perineum, it's very rich in nerve endings and can be very sensitive. Try just lightly running your fingertips along the ridge of skin, looking almost like a scar, in the center.

7 - If he liked #5, try using your mouth on his testicles. Start gently, again, with licking and kissing; if that meets with his approval, see if you can take one of them in your mouth, very gently. If you can, try rolling it around with your tongue, sliding your tongue on the skin as well. You can make it easier for yourself by using one hand to guide him into your mouth and hold everything in place while you move your tongue on him; use your other hand on his shaft to keep him moving toward climax. (Stimulating the testicles, in my experience, builds the intensity of the eventual orgasm; stimulating the penis actually achieves it. Doing both at the same time is exquisite.)

The next step is something of an advanced technique, but can be performed by anyone who has mastered #4.

8 - Because stimulating the testicles increases the intensity of the orgasm and stimulating the penis brings it about, this one is really most effective if he liked #5 and #7: Spend a long time -- a good 15-20 minutes or so -- warming up his testicles while also providing stimulation to his penis (doing one, then the other, is just fine). Then, when he's close to finishing, switch to #4 -- but don't stop when his flow stops. Keep doing everything -- light pressure on his testicles holding them against his body, sliding your hand up and down the base of his shaft, and sliding your tongue back and forth just behind the head. (Again, don't touch the tip after he's started his climax; keep the opening in the space at the back of your mouth.) In about 15-20 seconds, he will stiffen up again, start bucking again, and ejaculate again (two or three small bursts). Keep doing everything... in about anotther 15-20 seconds it will all cycle through yet again. (The amount that comes out with each burst will drop significantly after the first cycle, so it gets easier on you.)

I don't know how many times you can keep repeating the cycle before he faints; personally, I've never managed more than six or seven before I beg her to stop. :-)

When he recovers a little, look him in the eyes, take his face in your hands gently, and say, "Any woman can HAVE multiple orgasms, but it takes a really special woman to GIVE them."

He'll like it, I guarantee.

Answer 2

buy an issue of cosmo and read up. seriously, just practice and remember what makes him moan or whatever he does when something feels good and work on doing it the next time with a little twist--literally! i've been told hand action along with mouth feels good to a man as well as lots and lots of wetness... have fun!

also, use the underside of your tongue and switch it up. feel it--the texture is different from the other side of your tongue. and try holding some cold water in your mouth (just have some water near, take a drink and dont let on you're holding it in your mouth) then go down on him w the water in your mouth. keep it in your mouth as you start pleasing him. the water gradually warms up as you go and men have told me this feels great.

Answer 3

It came as a surprise to me to find that most women enjoy giving a bj to a man. Before, I thought they did it just to please the man. I guess its similar to us guys loving to kiss, caress, and suck a woman's breasts. What I find most stimulating is for the woman to caress the lower part of my penis (just behind the head) with her tongue. Just seeing her enjoying what she is doing is very erotic! Also, the smaller her mouth, the better it is!

Answer 4

The passion and intimacy, eye contact and the fact that the woman truly enjoys giving me pleasure, and cant wait for me to return the favor.

Answer 5

There r so many replying in a great deal of details.
Just remeber, u can do it if and only if u like it.
And the guy would guide u, what exactly he wants.

Answer 6

don't use teeth, take a little at first and gradually take more or as much as you can handle. dont gag yourself, you dont want to throw up on him lol. lots of saliva helps, but not too much. other than that, it takes practice. you'll get better once you figure out what your partner likes and does'nt like.

Answer 7

well you just got to give it a shot and try it everyguy is different and going to like different things. I would think the only thing to not do would be bite.

Answer 8

1 - Explore him. While it's ALL good, he's going to have some places that he likes better than others. Find the spots he REALLY likes, and pay special attention to them. (Doesn't mean you ONLY do those; it's weird, but too much stimulation to the same spot almost makes it go numb, which is NOT what you want.)

2 - Vary the speed and pressure. Sometimes use long, slow strokes, sometimes short quick ones; sometimes squeeze hard (or put your hand around the base as the tip is in your mouth), sometimes touch sooooo lightly that it's like a feather in the breeze.

3 - Deep throating: Relax, hold your tongue low along the floor of your jaw, and take in only as much as you can. Believe me, he'll love helping you practice.

4 - And the most important: When his back arches and he stiffens up from head to toe and you can tell he's about to explode, put your hand around the base to guide it (and maybe do a little pumping, too), place his head just far enough into your mouth that it's past the middle of your tongue but not too close to the back of your throat, slide your tongue back and forth against the spot just below the head, and everything will land on the back of your tongue where it's easy to swallow (but not so far back in your throat that it sets off your gag reflex). But be careful -- don't touch the very tip, the opening itself, once he starts to climax; something happens to the nerves there when he climaxes that makes it almost painful to be touched. (That's the other reason you want to keep the tip fairly far back on your tongue, so that you won't accidentally rub on it with anything as you swallow.)

When you can do that without a hitch, here are some things to experiment with:

5 - Some men, I'm told, don't like to have their testicles touched. Personally, I can't understand why. Start by stroking them gently and see how he reacts; if it bothers him, he'll tell you. If he likes it, you should know. From there, try a very gentle massage, moving the testicles themselves around gently inside the sac of skin. When he's about to come, or has just started, lightly press them up against his body with the palm of one hand (you can use the other to squeeze and pump the base of his penis, while you're doing #4, above).

6 - Try stroking the space under (or behind, if he's in a standing position) his testicles -- called the perineum, it's very rich in nerve endings and can be very sensitive. Try just lightly running your fingertips along the ridge of skin, looking almost like a scar, in the center.

7 - If he liked #5, try using your mouth on his testicles. Start gently, again, with licking and kissing; if that meets with his approval, see if you can take one of them in your mouth, very gently. If you can, try rolling it around with your tongue, sliding your tongue on the skin as well. You can make it easier for yourself by using one hand to guide him into your mouth and hold everything in place while you move your tongue on him; use your other hand on his shaft to keep him moving toward climax. (Stimulating the testicles, in my experience, builds the intensity of the eventual orgasm; stimulating the penis actually achieves it. Doing both at the same time is exquisite.)

The next step is something of an advanced technique, but can be performed by anyone who has mastered #4.

8 - Because stimulating the testicles increases the intensity of the orgasm and stimulating the penis brings it about, this one is really most effective if he liked #5 and #7: Spend a long time -- a good 15-20 minutes or so -- warming up his testicles while also providing stimulation to his penis (doing one, then the other, is just fine). Then, when he's close to finishing, switch to #4 -- but don't stop when his flow stops. Keep doing everything -- light pressure on his testicles holding them against his body, sliding your hand up and down the base of his shaft, and sliding your tongue back and forth just behind the head. (Again, don't touch the tip after he's started his climax; keep the opening in the space at the back of your mouth.) In about 15-20 seconds, he will stiffen up again, start bucking again, and ejaculate again (two or three small bursts). Keep doing everything... in about anotther 15-20 seconds it will all cycle through yet again. (The amount that comes out with each burst will drop significantly after the first cycle, so it gets easier on you.)

I don't know how many times you can keep repeating the cycle before he faints; personally, I've never managed more than six or seven before I beg her to stop. :-)

When he recovers a little, look him in the eyes, take his face in your hands gently, and say, "Any woman can HAVE multiple orgasms, but it takes a really special woman to GIVE them."

He'll like it, I guarantee.

Answer 9

Guy's really like it when you nip it with your teeth alittle,then blow air in the hole at the end,kinda like blowing up a ballon,And squeeze and twist there testicles.

Answer 10

what is wrong with aeval_anu & shockwave, you're just confusing her more.....hey girl i got two words for you: ....... "deep throat"