What can i do with my parents?

Question

Im 16 years old and im close to becoming 17. My relationship with my parents is bad. All they want me to do is stay at home do h.w. and clean the house!...What kind of life is that....im the kind of person who likes to go out and have fun but they are always treating me like if i was 9!!!...Recently i went out with a couple of friends who i havent seen in a long time....once i got home they were yelling at me...and i got home at 10!...I swear its not like im a bad person...im actually good in school and at home but this whole thing about my parents wanting me at the house is killing me!!! I feel like my teenage years are being wasted here in my own home....PLZ WHAT DO I DO?

Answer 1

Someday when my children are old enough to understand the logic that
motivates a parent, I will tell them, as my Mean Mom told me:

I loved you enough . . . to ask where you were going, with whom, and
what time you would be home.

I loved you enough to be silent and let you discover that your new best
friend was a creep.

I loved you enough to stand over you for two hours while you cleaned
your room, a job that should have taken 15 minutes.

I loved you enough to let you see anger, disappointment, and tears in my
eyes. Children must learn that their parents aren't perfect.

I loved you enough to let you assume the responsibility for your actions
even when the penalties were so harsh they almost broke my heart.

But most of all, I loved you enough . . .. to say NO when I knew you
would hate me for it.

Those were the most difficult battles of all. I'm glad I won them,
because in the end you won, too.

And someday when your children are old enough to understand the logic
that motivates parents, you will tell them.

Was your Mom mean? I know mine was. We had the meanest mother in the
whole world! While other kids ate candy for breakfast, we had to have
cereal, eggs, and toast.

When others had a Pepsi and a Twinkie for lunch, we had to eat
sandwiches.

And you can guess our mother fixed us a dinner that was
different from what other kids had, too.

Mother insisted on knowing where we were at all times. You'd think we
were convicts in a prison. She had to know who our friends were, and
what we were doing with them. She insisted that if we said we would be
gone for an hour, we would be gone for an hour or less.

We were ashamed to admit it, but she had the nerve to break the Child
Labor Laws by making us work. We had to wash the dishes, make the beds,
learn to cook, vacuum the floor, do laundry, empty the trash and all
sorts of cruel jobs. I think she would lie awake at night thinking of
more things for us to do.

She always insisted on us telling the truth, the whole truth, and
nothing but the truth. By the time we were teenagers, she could read our
minds and had eyes in the back of her head. Then, life was really tough!


Mother wouldn't let our friends just honk the horn when they drove up.
They had to come up to the door so she could meet them. While everyone
else could date when they were 12 or 13, we had to wait until we were
16.

Because of our mother we missed out on lots of things other kids
experienced. None of us have ever been caught shoplifting, vandalizing
other's property or ever arrested for any crime. It was all her fault.

Now that we have left home, we are all educated, honest adults. We are
doing our best to be mean parents just like Mom was.

I think that is what's wrong with the world today. It just doesn't have
enough mean moms!

Answer 2

This is a difficult time for you. You are at an age that frighten parents. With all that is shown on TV and such with rapes, murders, drugs and such, your parents are having a hard time with letting you grow up. 16-17 is still very young but it is also time for your folks to lossen the grip a little.

Understand that your parent love you and want only the best you. What I would sugguest is this. try to sit down in a formal manner and explain exactly as you have here your frustrations? You will need to do this in a manner that is not confrontational as your goal is not to get into an arguement but a mature conversation about what you can do to gain their trust so that you can gain more freedom. It will be a slow process but it will eventually get where you want it to go, just be patient.

Answer 3

You follow your parents rules, since you live in their house, eat the food they buy you, wear the clothes they buy you, etc., etc., etc. I also think you're exaggerating a bit on the "all they want me to do is stay at home, do h.w. and clean" bit. I have a 16 year old daughter, and she has rules that she must follow. She has a 10 pm curfew on weeknights, midnight on weekends. Her father and I have to know where she is, who she is with, and what time she'll be home (yes, even knowing that she has curfews). We do this because even tough she feels she's an adult, we know better. At 16, neither one of you has the wisdom to make adult decisions, you just flat haven't lived long enough, and yet you're old enough to get yourselves into some pretty adult situations, heck, my daughter is driving a car. Your parents make the rules in the house because they love you. One day you will see this. Best of luck to you in the meantime, and try not to be too hard on your parents, they really love you alot and want only the best for you.

Answer 4

I'm a parent and they are just worried about you. I know you feel closed in and want to enjoy friendships and frankly just want to explore some independence. All us old people remember going throught that as well. Your parents are just afraid. Because even though they went through that as teenagers, you are their baby and they love you. Maybe this isn't what you wanted to hear. I have a 19 year old daughter. Every time she is out with friends--I know she needs to be with friends, feel independence, and have fun--But I worry the whole time she is out that she will come home safely and warmly and securely. Your parents just love you. The decisions they make may not always be right, but just know that they worry and love you.

Answer 5

Your teenage years don't matter when you're older. Your parents just want you to be safe and for you to become a reasonable human being when you are a legal adult.

I think, as a parent myself, that your parents are more worried about who and what you'll come in contact with out there without them. They've spent your whole life protecting you and it's hard to let go and let you do your own thing and learn from your own mistakes.

Give 'em a break, they're as new at this as you are. We don't remember this time of life (teenhood) as clearly as we used to (we, meaning parents in general).

It gets better. Really!!

Answer 6

I am not saying that you are bad or anything of course you need to have fun, since you are almost going to be an adult. (I know it sounds scary, what idiot came up with 18 legal age anyway) I think that your parents just want to protect you. Are you sure that you haven't given them motives for them to treat you that way? Remember that sometimes mommies and daddies get worried that you are going in the wrong pathway. Be careful. Why not have this talk with them. Tell, them that you will never do any wrong and that they can be calm because your friends are not influencing me in other bad things that might cause them to get worriend or harm. Good Luck and God Bless. :)

Answer 7

Get a job, get emancipated and move out on your own pay your own bills and find out what it's REALLY like getting your own way. Or you can live by their rules since you're living under their roof and thank the stars that you have parents who care about where you are and what you do rather than being out on your own trying to make ends meet on a part time job.

Answer 8

confront your parents with the issue. present arguements as to why you should be allowed to go out and come home at a reasonable hour (i.e., good grades, do your chores, etc.). be sure to mention that you understand their concern but that you have not given them any reason not to trust you. try to work out a trial system where you can show them that a social life does not affect your school or home life. be positive and present your case in a constructive way.

Answer 9

Yo girl!! im 14 Turning 15 next month.......we got the same problem dude.....i told that 2 my parents.....and they just want their daughter to be rotected because they don't want ther girl to get raped, kidnapped or having a baby in an early age !!!! and all Our parents just want 2 Protect us!!!

Answer 10

Let them love you and care about you the way they do. It's when the parents don't care where their children are that problems arise. Good parenting always means you're going to piss your kids off. Too bad, so sad, I'd rather have my kids mad at me and alive them not and dead.