A loser in my class was being bully all the time, she was ugly, and not getting good grades(lowest in class), and not good at sport, and the shortest in class.
My problem is , I was really nice to her, I get good grades, a lot of friends and I'm pretty and good at sport.BUT, when I'm nice to her she was not nice to me at all, infact she called me blind, death, short(but she was shorter than me)and nice to everyone who had bullyed her.I really need some suggestions!
Am I doing the right thing?
I treat her like a girl, others treat her like a hot dog(worse than a dog)
2006-07-28 18:36:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
you have tried your best to improve her, but she has not responded.to your good deeds. let her go to hell and face the music you should concentrate on your studies & maintain a little gap.
2006-07-28 18:44:41 · answer #1 · answered by raaj1111 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely doing the right thing. This girl is probably trying to look better in front of those other kids by dissing you. She's being nice to them to try to make them like her, but since you're being civil, she feels like she can pick on you. She is trying to look cool. Just let her know that you're the good guy in all this. Keep being a nice girl. Eventually, she'll understand that you're the real friend. Good for you!!
2006-07-28 18:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by *AstrosChick* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You call her ugly, dunce, short and a bully. no wonder she can see through your facade. Even though you are nice to her to her face she's not stupid, she must has been sussing you out to see if you are genuine and she is not convinced.
You have to erase all those negative adjectives for a start. See her for all the positive things and not the negatives and her behaviour towards you will change to positive.
2006-07-28 19:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by olayinka o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she feels bad about herself she probably agrees with the rest of your class that only a loser could like her. Sad, isn't it. She is also pushing you away to test how far she can go before you act like all the others who don't like her. And, if you are popular and good in school, she probably dislikes you from jealousy too, and thinks your attempt to be friendly is shallow. You will have to decide if you are willing to put up with her behavior and attitude. It is possible that she could end up your friend, but it's hard to say. Consider openly telling her: "I really would like to be friends with you, but when you say those things it's really hard. It seems like you don't want to be my friend..." See what she has to say about it.
2006-07-28 18:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by surlygurl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what you think is right in your heart. She may be used to the abuse and doesn't know how to take a compliment.
You should be nice to her. It's true, you can't save everyone, but it's fun to try.
2006-07-28 18:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Deb 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you are popular she may think and feel you are being sarcastic towards her. I was in your position at school too and just strove to prove that I was genuine to the less popular or cool others.
2006-07-28 18:41:32 · answer #6 · answered by camshy0078 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be proud of how you are your a nice person, but don't stop being nice to her she needs you, she just does'nt know how to react to your kindness, she's only experienced these nasty people, she'll realise what a good friend you are in the end, good luck.
2006-07-28 18:47:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing the right thing, she's just a hardheaded, keep being nice it might brake through some day. who know you guys could become best budds ;)
2006-07-28 18:42:33 · answer #8 · answered by girlperson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you ignore her - she sounds like what we would call in England a TROG short for troglodite, or if you like throw her some lettuce !
2006-07-28 18:41:45 · answer #9 · answered by beiterspace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She' a loser dump her &get going.No need to stick with girls like these.Becomes a blot on your personality.
2006-07-28 18:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by Havoac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋