How to meet my boyfriend's parents knowing that they think I'm not good for him?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been going out for 9 months, and from hearing what he tells me, over the phone, etc., his parents think I am a distraction [and basically a mistake ]. We are both 15, and he has traditional asian parents. His parents would much rather him not date me, or anyone at all. How is a way that I could meet them in which I could be myself, but also his parents would be able to see that it is our choice to be together, and we understand that? I'm not asking for a plot so they'd worship me, just a way that we could meet with a good impression.

Him and I are of the same ethnicity, but I don't speak the same dialect as his parents, so I'd only be able to talk with him and his father, since his father knows english and the same dialect that I know.

Answer 1

Well, I think you have the right mind set.

You know his parents don't seem to like you now but if they see that you can be very mature and have good morals, they might change their mind.

I suggest finding out from your boyfriend if they follow any specific customs at their house that you should know about when you meet them so that its not awkward (especially if you have dinner with them or something). Then I suggest you be especially polite. It's ok to be yourself but do it very conservatively so that they can see you have good manners and are respectful.

http://www.bixxo.com/npa/10_com.html
That site should give you some beginning guidelines to keep in mind. But I think if you keep a good mindset and show them that you are mature enough to date their son, they should be more open to your relationship.

Answer 2

Basically when you meet thim and when you talk to them, you should come across as a person who is polite, well mannered , respectful and intelligent enough to know what you are doing.
Since you guys are young and studies should be a top priority right now, his parent are bound to think that a relationship at this stage can distract him.
Help them understand that you are serious abt each other to help each other focus on other critical aspects such as education,

Answer 3

Honestly, you have a tough road ahead of you. All you can do is be very polite and respectful and understand that they probably won't like you no matter what you do, especially if you aren't asian yourself.

Answer 4

FIRST OFF BEING 15 IS MOST LIKELY IT...AT 15 DATING IS A DISTACTION FROM THE PERSUING YOUR FUTURE...ALL YOU CAN DO IS BE RESPECTFUL AND IF YOU ARE REALLY MEANT TO BE TOGETHER YOU WON'T HAVE TO RUSH.. I AM A GETTING MARRIED NEXT MONTH AND HIS MOTHER DOESN'T LIKE ME... I SAY YOU DO NOT HAVE TO LIKE ME OR LOVE ME BUT YOU WILL RESPECT ME.. THAT'S ALL THAT MATTERS...