A loser in my class was being bully all the time, she was ugly, and not getting good grades(lowest in class), and not good at sport, and the shortest in class.
My problem is , I was really nice to her, I get good grades, a lot of friends and I'm pretty and good at sport.BUT, when I'm nice to her she was not nice to me at all, infact she called me blind, death, short(but she was shorter than me)and nice to everyone who had bullyed her.I really need some suggestions!
Am I doing the right thing?
2006-07-28 18:16:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
I treat her like a girl, others treat her like a hot dog(worse than dog)
2006-07-28 18:31:58 · update #1
Nice as I'm sure you are, you can't be blind to the fact that some people are mere savages---and you can NEVER be nice to such trash. Some sick miserable people delve so deep into trashy savagery, they can't rise above it. This sounds pretty much like your "friend", someone whos best left alone.
You did the right thing being nice to her. But it simply will NEVER work. You can do the SMART thing and stay clear away from her....before you open up to get hurt--literally--by her.
2006-07-28 18:23:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mr. Wizard 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, YOU are doing the right thing! Always be nice to someone, even when they are mean to you. If someone insults you, just smile or say thank you...it will really confuse them, and they will probably leave you alone. Or, if you ignore them, they will probably leave you alone. Most bullies only pick on people they know will react the way they want them to react: by getting mad and starting a fight. All they want is attention. So always be the more classy, the one on the higher level, especially in terms of morals! People will respect you and realize you are nice to everyone, but you don't let people walk all over you, either. Keep up the kindness and the better attitude...you will win in the end.
2006-07-28 18:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by Appaloosa88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably senses that you are patronizing her and it sounds like you are if you refer to her as "a loser".
Just remember, 20 years from now she could be the female judge that decides how much your traffic fine will be. Or she could be the cop that gives you the ticket. Or she could be the rich, gazillionaire that gets all kind of plastic surgery and looks better than everyone else at your class reunion.
Just be nice and tell your friends to quit being mean to her.
Show some class.
2006-07-28 18:22:12 · answer #3 · answered by shoppingontherun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that this girl really has a problem, then you have two real options. Your first option, the one I would reccomend, is going to talk privately to a school counselor about her. It really sounds like something is going on with her, and whether it's something smaller like the common tribulations of being different in a social setting or possibly some problem at home. If it's as bad as you seem to make it, then someone else has probably noticed it, too.
Your other option is to try to reach out to her yourself again. Don't give up, but don't seem patronizing. If she lashed out at you, she likely saw the effort patronizing, insincere, or threatening in some way. While this might not be your fault, you don't seem to be the most observant person there is. You listed her as a person utterly without qualities, whom you pitied enough to try to reach out to her. That puts the person you're reaching out to in an akward and uncomfortable situation. Try not to come off as so perfect and wonderful as you seem to exeude here... As honestly, you come off as quite a bit of a snob.
2006-07-28 18:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by Meredia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone always told me to kill them with kindness.
It seems that this girl has been bullied and she bullies others to make herself feel better. If it's a continuous thing then you may just need to ignore her and go on with your business.
Also you shouldn't judge people based on all the things you've listed. People grow into their bodies at different times. It's called maturing.
You don't sound like your very old either.
2006-07-28 18:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by I'll Be Your Sweet Escape 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are doing a great thing. Most bullies are dealing with a problem and they take it out on everyone else. The only thing you can do is to keep being nice to her and hopefully befriending her. Then if you are lucky she will confine in you. You cannot give up.
2006-07-28 18:21:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally the rule of thumb is treat others as you would like to be treated. If this person is not treating you with the same respect and kindness that you have bestowed upon her then maybe this is a lost cause.
2006-07-28 18:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by tormyra2002 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just stay away. She is probably wondering why you are nice and the others are not. Just don't be in the mix that makes fun. Give her her distance. SHe may come around.
2006-07-28 18:20:54 · answer #8 · answered by davis9592 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You gave her a chance, and she snubbed you. You could be as immature as everyone else and make fun of her, or you can be the better person and just stay away from her. If she makes it a point to hound you, tell her to piss off.
2006-07-28 18:22:02 · answer #9 · answered by lightningviper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore her for awhile:-)
2006-07-28 18:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by amy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋