Is this right or wrong????

Question

I have been going around wih my bf for 9 months now and its been all good...btu i met one of his friends and we went out to one day to get to know eachother. And then my bf found out that we went out for a night and he wont talk to me anymore nither his friend that i met and i have tried talking to the both of them and they just wont listen to. And now my bf doesnt want to answer my calls or my text mesg. and i think that he wants me to leave him alone but im goin out with him and i dont know what to do. Should i break up with him or keep on tryin to figure this out. I love too much to let him go but this is like a horror movie for me right now that killing me from the inside out now.

Answer 1

It was WRONG for you to do what you did. OK...you met one of his friends, but why in the world would you go out with him for a night just to get to know him. You could have waited till your boyfriend was around, and all 3 of you could have gotten together. Your boyfriend doens't trust you. His friend is now ignoring you because he was friends with your boyfriend first....and he probably knows just how mad your boyfriend is about it. He has a guilt trip because of what he did....and now he's avoiding you. There's nothing to figure out....what you did was wrong. The trust in your relationship is gone! Sorry....but I'm only calling it as I see it!!!

Answer 2

there's nothing wrong with hanging out with and getting to know a guy other than your bf , just as long as it is in just a friend way.
your boyfriend is being pretty immature about the situation.
it's understandable how he can feel a little insecure but maybe he's being a little too protective.
try talking to him on a serious note, like start it out by letting him know that you want to have a serious talk.
if he won't listen to you, then maybe wait it out for a little while and try again.
if he is just going to be a complete ****** then i would say just dump him and find someone thats not going to freak over you talking to another guy.

Answer 3

Are you asking if what you did was wrong or if what your bf's friend did was wrong or if your bf's reaction is wrong?

You went out with someone while dating your boyfriend. He is naturally upset and hurt by your actions. How would you feel if he went out with another girl, especially one of your friends? Why would you expect his friend not to tell him or him to find out? There is nothing to figure out. You hurt him and he is angry. Males generally are not as forgiving as females, so you might not ever have a chance to redeem this. Think about your actions and try to learn from all this. Don't treat people the way you would hate to be treated.

Answer 4

Well if he really loved you he would trust you. You can try to tell him the truth as much as he will listen but sonner or later you need to move on. What he is doing is very wrong, why would he act this way when all you wanted to do is get to know HIS friends. There might be more going on then you know, he might have had issues with this friend before, but he should still talk to you about it.

Answer 5

Both.
In a relationship it is not only important to not play your man but is also important to not look like you are playing him.
However, he is taking it a bit far.
BTW: why would you love a man that treats you this way? Men don’t get better with age, they get meaner. If he started out this mean, just imagine him ten years from now when you actually give him a good reason to get pissy.

Answer 6

sounds like he has already broke up with you. If you wanted to get to know his friend better then you should have told bf that you wanted to and you were going to try to know his friends. You say he found out, that means you were trying to hide it in the first place. Get you head on and learn from your mistakes so you don't make them again

Answer 7

why would you be the one doing the breaking up? it's obvious that you hurt him by going out with his friend behind his back. maybe you didn't consider it a date, but in his mind it seemed like it. if he took out your friend without telling you for a night out, I don't think you'd like it too mcuh either. you probably didn't do anything wrong and you just wanted to get to know the guy as a friend but you should have let him know before...tell him that it meant nothing more to you than going out with a girlfriend and that you love him and that you two can work through anything together if he just gives it a chance. hear him out. let him hear you out. talk it through. don't give up.

Answer 8

well i think you did wrong for going out with his friend! you should of never done that. remember that boyfriend friends are all off limits !! its an act of respect towards your man. I understand your BF for not wanting to talk to you anymore because he probrally feels disrespected and feels betrayed by not only you but his friend also. I think you should stop calling him and give him time to heal from it. if he doesnt call back then i think its time for you to move on. and remember for future realtionships. the friends are OFF LIMITS!

Answer 9

Well unless you slept with his friend he'll probley come around and call you after he makes you sweat awhile. And his friend just fells like **** for going out with you. Leave him alone for now and let him cool off.

Answer 10

Sweety, you crossed a major line. you messed with your bf best friend (any friend is no no) and you did it while involve with him. I would write him a letter begging for his forgivness, if you love him enough to do that. and an apoligy to the friend would be in order too, it put him in a situation with your bf too.