How did you deal with the feelings that you had?
2006-07-28 17:57:54 · 19 answers · asked by curious 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
Thanks guys for all the responses. I guess I should have worded this differently though. The abuser is gone, the police say probably for a very long time. The feelings I'm talking about dealing with are the ones after the fact. What now?
2006-07-29 01:38:21 · update #1
Yes, I was. I'm out of it now, was a very long process. Read the book "Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft. It is awesome. It talks about how to deal with an abusive man, and how to eventually get out of the relationship. It really opened my eyes. I wish I would have read it sooner.
2006-07-28 18:02:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in an abusive relationship..I had a hard time dealing with the feelings..I did get out of the relationship..and I am in a much better one now..
2006-07-28 18:05:31 · answer #2 · answered by experiment_no_412 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I been there and done that. He never hit me tho and im sure if i would of let things go in the direction that my relationship was heading then maybe it could of gotin worse, who knows. It was more verbal than anything and that doesnt make it any easier cuz it hurts just as bad. Dont waste your time thinking about it tho. Find someone who can treat you better, I did!!! About a month ago i met a guy who is sooo wonderful, treats me soooo good. And i thought that i could never be happy ever again. Dont wast your time on anyone who takes their anger out at you. Its not love, remember that!!
2006-07-28 18:08:51 · answer #3 · answered by Janelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and it started when I was 16....I was covinced he would change and eventually married him....well he changed alright for the worse. In 9 years of marriage I was hospitalized 5 times......I thank God for my dad who got me out..not sure where I would be now. If you are in this situation.. DO NOT do what I did and think he will change.. GET OUT! Go to someone you trust.
Aloha
2006-07-28 18:04:38 · answer #4 · answered by Haleiwa girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't deal with the feelings. You GET OUT!! FAST! Cuz nothing is going to change. You go with guys who abuse you, and your abuser stalks women who tolerate abuse. Get it? You will get it, hopefully NEVER. Get some self esteem. He is not worthy of you, and the longer you stay, the harder it will be to get out. Ask yourself 'Why do I love rejection?'
And Ben might be an idiot.
2006-07-28 18:01:52 · answer #5 · answered by ravin_lunatic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not exactly abusive, but quite aggressive and pressing.
don't know why I allowed that to happen.
eventually I just moved on. no regrets. u cannot be in love with a person who's abusive.
2006-07-28 18:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Lana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and the older child was getting treatment from it and the youngest one was lucky not to get the effect of the abuse . It make you more caution.
2006-07-28 18:24:22 · answer #7 · answered by ssanchez2002 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was insecure and belived it was my problem. Until he threw my kitty 11 stories down our apartment balcony. I left him, and do not regret it. I feel free and proud of my self. No body deserves to be treated with disrespect. You have to ask your self, do you want to live your life like this? HE IS NOT GOING TO CHANGE, no matter how many thimes he/she says I'm sorry.
2006-07-28 18:11:12 · answer #8 · answered by Sammy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was actually in 2 the last one i suffered from post tramatic stress really bad he messed me up for life. i am married and i still have nightmares even tho my hubby is wonderful. i had to get a lot of thearpy and i still talk about it. it never goes away ever
2006-07-28 18:00:30 · answer #9 · answered by oceanlady580 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes. i just decided that i need to get out or die there. i got out. it wasn't easy and there was police involvement, but years l8r i feel so much better!
2006-07-28 18:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋