2006-07-28 17:52:46 · 6 answers · asked by bird lover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there is no simple formula...outside of taking him to see a specialist trained to use a lie detector. However...there are a few guidelines......
1. Assess the state of your relationship - Are you happy in the relationship? Is he happy? If the relationship is on the rocks...there may be a greater probability that he is cheating
2. Assess your boyfriend's character - Has he cheated on you in the past? Has he lied to you in the past? Has he been involved in any criminal or unethical activity? If you answered YES to any of this.....there is a greater probability that he is cheating
3. Assess your current mental state - Are you in a state of panic and agitation right now? Are you calm and deliberate, trying to think this through in a rational manner. The more emotional you are feeling right now....the less accurately you will be able to perceive the truth.
4. Talk to your boyfriend in a non-judgmental or non-critical way and simply ask for the truth. Assure him that if he is cheating - that HE will be better off in the long run telling the truth now rather than confessing the truth at a later time
5. Ultimately, if you don't trust the guy....whether he is cheating ot not.....there is something amiss in the relationship....talk to your boyfriend about seeing a counsellor.....If he refuses....go for individual counselling....There are lots of free or low cost counselling services in your area.....Call your local community mental health centre for more information
good luck
2006-07-28 18:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by hersh108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are just asking the 1,000.000.00 dollars question.... you do not have an idea of how much women would like to know that? ...there's no machines or anything invented that can tell you if he is lying or not, each indivudual is different nobody can read their brain and tell us what is in there.....The way i can tell he is cheating ...it's observing the way he's been threating me whatever is more or less than usual is not good
2006-07-28 17:59:06 · answer #2 · answered by Yami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you've questioned him and still don't know if you can trust him, break up because there is no foundation for the relationship any longer. If you have to question a level of trust, it simply does not exist.
2006-07-28 17:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by lil lady 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
deep in your gut, you already know if you can trust him or not. every guy i ever wondered about....i had reason to wonder. the man in my life now - i could send him to spend the night at the playboy mansion and still sleep well knowing he'd never do a thing to disrespect me.
2006-07-28 17:59:23 · answer #4 · answered by browneyedgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just trust him.
that way, even if it turns out he's lying, he'll feel guility for the rest of his life for betraying someone who shows complete trust and love for him.
2006-07-28 17:55:16 · answer #5 · answered by wasabi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u have any doubt he is lying
2006-07-28 17:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by ksneon66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋