I never like any girl I ever meet, but when I saw and got to know her I finally found someone for me. This girl has goals and plans and wants to really be something when she is older, but she is really pretty and well.... skinny and I am big for my age. And if she did like me I don't want people to laugh at her about me. I really care for her and want to make her happy. I have loss weight but I am still big. At my internship it seems that every one else is in pairs but me, and I'm tired of being lonely and wondering is their something wrong with me. So if there's any one out there that can help me please do beacuse this might be my only chance at true love.
2006-07-28 17:48:42 · 15 answers · asked by chefthephatman959 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How well do you know this girl? Look at what type of guys she's attracted to and maybe you'll find that looks don't matter all that much to her. Or maybe she likes big guys. Some women do. Don't be a stalker, but do your homework.
Also, try to cultivate some confidence. Communicating confidence with your body language and attitude makes you more attractive. If you're going to step to her and ask her out or whatever, stand up straight, speak clearly, smile, make eye contact and go for it.
If that approach is too brazen for you, maybe you could first communicate with her in a way that forces her to pay attention to your mind instead of your looks. It may sound sappy, but maybe you could write her a letter or a poem that describes your feelings for her. If done well, a gesture like that can really sweep a woman off her feet.
Of course, you don't have to listen to me or take my advice. But you should probably do something. If you like her that much, don't let her slip away without giving it a try.
2006-07-28 18:04:48 · answer #1 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 4⤊ 2⤋
First of all you no one can like you or love you if you don't love yourself first. If this girl is really as special as you say she will like you for who you are not what you look like.You can't change for anyone but yourself or you will never be happy. If she is the kind girl who is all about looks you don't want her, trust me other girls will come along. I am a bigger girl myself and i once thought like that and asked the same questions and every time i got the same answer. It took a while for me to finally realize everyone was right. Once i learned how to like my self I started realizing all of a sudden i had more friends and more dates. I even realized i was funnier than i thought. Now i have 3 gorgeous children and a wonderful sexy husband.
Now if just want the basics on how to get a girl here they are :
1. love yourself
2. Show you are sweet and sincere
3. Make her laugh (always keep her smiling
but make sure she knows you can be serious)
4. Most of all be yourself
If that doesn't work she is not worth having and she doesn't deserve you.
2006-07-29 01:26:09 · answer #2 · answered by baby kountry 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try losing some more weight. It takes a bit of discipline, but you can do it! Once you get close to normal mass-wise, you should be in a better position to ask her out. And something else you should know is that there's always girls out there for you. It just happens that only about 5 of every 30 girls you meet will like you, and of those 5, you will only like about two. So you have to be persistent with your searching. Good luck!
2006-07-29 00:56:34 · answer #3 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to think about how your significant other might feel about external jokes.
If the girl trully loves you, she will give a damn about what other ppl thinks about you, and you should too give a damn about those thoughts.
I know it's not an easy thing, but the girl that will be with you will love you because of what you really are in the inside, and not on how you look.
2006-07-29 00:52:44 · answer #4 · answered by Krisztian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think she's not going to like you... then she won't. I've seen hot girls date some guys that... well, you wouldn't expect them to. Why? Probably 'cause these guys weren't jerks and had self-confidence. Be yourself... but believe in yourself.
But, really... if you're only problem is your weight, you can change that. Talk to your doctor about healthy weight-loss. Join a sport. Get healthy, dude. Chicks dig it.
2006-07-29 00:54:12 · answer #5 · answered by bobdmighty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the girl. Most girl's minds can be changed. If they originally had a type, that can easily go out the window once they find someone that makes them feel comforatable to be themselves. Girls want to be made to feel beautiful and appreciated.
2006-07-29 01:01:31 · answer #6 · answered by Francesca M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly dude, girls dont worry bout our looks nearly as much as we do.
If you want to catch this gals fancy, get to know what she likes, spend time around her, TALK with her.
You sound like a young guy, dont confuse infatuation with love.
If she cares for you as much as you seem to for her, DONT worry bout what other think.
Thee are worse things than being lonely.
2006-07-29 00:57:26 · answer #7 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please don't try to hard.You can't make anybody like you.Not even for a friend.Please AM not to hurt anybody but it is the truth.Be yourself You will come out in the long run.My the force be with you.
2006-07-29 00:53:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one dont care about what other people think of you guys together.second,dont lose weight for her,do it for yourself also and just be yourself and if u wanna be with her then tell her
2006-07-29 00:52:45 · answer #9 · answered by tulsagrl18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop eating and get on a treadmill, porky.
2006-07-29 00:53:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋