I am a successful person by standard of society i live in.Why do i feel depressed ,hopeless & wish leave job

Question

I have good job for 18 more months but the mentality of staff makes it difficult to bring results.Family status is good.family members are happy.Still i feel a sort of depressed,loss of hope for future and feel to leave the job .I will get enough pension to live with the present standard of living.Or I can help my sons (two) after my retirement, in their work abroad as they need my help.I have a happy family life anybody may envy.I believe in God but dont opt for the hypocratic prayers and other religious work where i find people just make a show and neglect the very spirit of the work.I have little interest for games or sports. though I have liking for reading novels, fictions etc.

Answer 1

Have you ever considered career counseling? Nothing long term, but I think a counselor could help you with the administration of some career personality tests, to see what your heart desires. You may feel comfortable in your job, and know the "pension" is there, but is it fulfilling? Maybe you could keep that job, and play the Office Politics game, like we all have to do, and develop outside interests to keep you balanced. But, if your career is not fulfilling your own hierarchy of needs, and it is affecting you to the point of stress and depression, it may be time to move on. And there's nothing wrong with that. We spend half of our lives at work, and I too would want to work somewhere that is fulfilling and rewarding.

Answer 2

I think it is time you weighted your options on staying at a job that is sucking the happiness out of your life or moving on to something fulfilling. You stated everything else is good but the job is bad. I think hobbies like reading will only be a band-aid and will not do enough to make you happy. People spend a majority of their lives at their jobs and it would be nice if it were a place people enjoyed going to. If you have the opportunity to change careers i think it would only help.

Answer 3

I don't know your situation, but if you are getting ready to retire, remember that a lot of people (most in fact) get a touch of depression following this event. It is very difficult to leave your profession after a lifetime of investment in a career.

Find someone (a trusted someone) to talk to to help you sort out your feelings. Find ways to take care of yourself and relax. (You deserve it!) Find ways to share/contribute to others. (It feels good and it's desperately needed in all communities!) Find ways to reconnect with your family - all together or one at a time. Write your own autobiography or trace your family tree... (It will be a special gift to your family.) Join a reading club so you can make friends outside your current circle of friends. Find people who have the same interests/beliefs and support each other. Sometimes just a trip to the bookstore and a cup of coffee with a friend can make a beautiful day out of an otherwise unhappy one.

You sound intelligent and dedicated. Maybe you are just a bit fatigued with the ugliness life can show us sometimes. Take good care of you and nourish your soul a bit. Things will get better.

PS: Please search someone out to talk to. Burdens are lighter when shared. Hang in there.

Answer 4

You're not alone...I loved my job when I first started, but after the past few days I have gotten to the point where I am seriously considering making a decision to leave, but I want another job before I do. I am having a really hard time with some of the staff at my job...in the whole facility all the rules are the same, but there are staff that break the rules...(I work in a correctional youth facility for teen boys) and they break the rules to get the youth to like them, then when hard working ppl like myself try to implement rules, I get tore up from the floor up by these youth and I am fed up with it. It makes me soooo depressed...my life is awesome, have a wonderful marriage of 14 yrs, 3 beautiful children, I have it all but when I am at work I am getting depressed because I am tired of these ppl. When I address these problems to administration it seems like I am getting yelled at for blowing the whistle on corrupt employees because it's easier for administration to deal with the few that are doing the right thing, as opposed to those who slack off and sit on their butt to collect a pay check...it's sickening and sad...makes me want to puke!

Answer 5

I think you should really talk to your Dr. Maybe you have a chemical imbalance and an antidepressant could help you. Maybe you don't "believe" in them. Address that a year from now and if they may help you then try it. Then see how you feel in a year or so. Your Dr. may have to try you on a few different ones before you find one that works. Don't just continue living that way. Keep searching for a resolution. Good start with asking the question!!

Answer 6

You are a classic depressive male. You have a set of bad expectations and will become more and more depressed as your brain sees life and it is not the same as the expectations you hold. Depression is all about friends and family. Find one new friend when you find a safe place to think. Things will get much worse before they start to improve.

Answer 7

Maybe your just lacking some excitement in your life. Jobs can get boring expectally if you are doing the same thing day after day. It just feels like its time repeating itself. Day after day. Try to spice up your life by doing something you normally don't do.

Answer 8

Would 'nt you know the answer to that question , since your the symbole of the prefect citizen in the whole United world , Should'nt you began to start living for yourself and only yourself .

Answer 9

you sound like you are in a rut at work ,at home, and your personal buisness could it be you need to go on a vacation to wind down relax and have fun and get yourself rejuvenated go to a spa get a great massage and send me a postcard lol

Answer 10

what is it you do for a living? I might be able to help you once I know that.