someone I know has a wife whos husband died from cancer abt 7/8 years ago. They have been married to her for 6 yrs now and unfortunately EVERY SINGLE day since then without fail she has something "Wrong" with her be it...bad knee, colon probs, etc If she reads bout it she has it. She always Has to have something wrong, and when she gets doc tests and the docs says A OK. She find something else. She really "asks" for attention. But when you give it to her..It encourages it. When you dont, She gets mad like you dont care. We have tried all kinds of tactics. Some others have even been blunt about telling her its in her head. Some have given all thier attention. It truly is a sickness and I know she needs Therapy, but you cant get someone to go to therapy unless they believe they have a problem. Right now she has every side effect from meds she is on for something else. Not healthy. We care.It is wearing on this mans marriage. What to do? SIX YEARS everyday.victim, pessimist..
2006-07-28 17:29:03 · 8 answers · asked by Al 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
She is in her mid 50's.
2006-07-28 17:38:44 · update #1
She also says I must be a bad person for these things to happen to me. And sadly she thrives off of "something wrong"
2006-07-28 17:43:21 · update #2
Tell her she's right she's going to die lol.
Just ignore her, let her be mad. Part of living in the real world with society is realizing that it's ok for others to judge you when you act out. Don't say anything negative or positive just treat her like the selfish immature child she is being and ignore her when these topics come up.
2006-07-28 17:34:29 · answer #1 · answered by gnomes31 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like she may be lonely, depressed or both.
What alot of people do not understand about hypochondria is that the symptoms are REAL. The problem just STARTS in the mind, rather than having a physical source. They really do feel the pain, and they can actually MAKE themselves sick over time. This can be very unhealthy.
Perhaps she was very traumatized by her husband's death from cancer. She could probably use a good therapist to talk to so that she can find out why she is having these problems. OR it might be that she is paranoid about every little ache and pain since her husband's death.
There could be alot of reasons for the way that she is acting, and without talking to her directly it would be hard to say why she is the way she is. I suggest psychotherapy.
2006-07-28 17:41:13 · answer #2 · answered by Oblivia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similar experience after my daughter went though a lot of invasive tests and three surgeries...she felt that every ache and pain meant she was dying. Thankfully I found a Doctor that said, and I quote..."Knock it off! There is nothing wrong with you!"
She has been fabulous ever since...I suggest talking to the physician ahead of time, letting them know both your concerns and the patients, if they have a full vision they have a better view.
I know this sounds cheesy but I also feel my daughter went through sooo many tests she never needed because I didn't want to negate her feelings
Stay Great
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2006-07-28 17:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by Nancy S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a big fan of the psychiatric community but in this case, it is necessary. Her husband needs to tell her that if she does not seek "a second opinion" from a mental health professional, then he will leave. Most likely she will find another person to listen to her complaints. I am usually a very compassionate person, but she sounds like someone I know who will NEVER get it, as many won't. I have been trying to help him seek help for twelve years and he is more effed up than ever. If she was on here asking questions for herself she might have hope, but if she refuses to consider that she may need help she is lost. Sometimes we need to be driven as far down as we can go to realize we need help. Placating her or ridiculing her won't help. If the pain of being dumped does not wake her up to the fact she needs help I don't know what will.
2006-07-28 17:55:06 · answer #4 · answered by crct2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my profession sometimes I feel like I'm surrounded by hypochondriacs. There isn't too much you can do with them. It's like their whole world revolves around how they feel, and if they're not feeling something then they get scared. I think its an identity thing. For some reason, that's what they've latched onto. Boggles my mind, but there is a lot of them!
2006-07-28 18:09:01 · answer #5 · answered by Ariel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is dealing with her sin of wanting a male to be with her. The doctor is legal and not a sin but he is very expensive. Your friend may want another wife. But she may have money that your Friend wants .
2006-07-28 18:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she starts talking about medical problems, just say mm hmm, nod your head and change the subject.
2006-07-28 17:41:50 · answer #7 · answered by short stuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HER THAT SICKNESS WONT KILL HER BUT JUST HER LUCK A CAR WILL HIT HER...MANY WAYS TO DIE NOT JUST FROM DISEASES.
I BEEN THROUGH WITH HYPOCHONDRIAC THEY DON'T LISTEN IT IS LIKE TALKING THROUGH A BRICK WALL! MAYBE THE MEDICINE SHE IS TAKING IS AFFECTING HER REASONING. YOU HAVE TO STEP BACK AND LET HER FIGURE OUT.
2006-07-28 17:39:10 · answer #8 · answered by +++++ SPOOK ++++ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋