How come nice guys always finish last? how come girls always talk about how they wish they could meet a nice guy and how they will never find one. so girls always end up with assholes that screw everything else up for the one actually nice guy that is interested or will be interested in her. and if there single then the nice guy thinks he may actually have a chance. but then something happens, the girls start playing games with the nice guy because he has a sign on him that says " he's a nice guy, lets **** with him" why do girls do this? and ive had some girls say this to me so many times its crazy. when a nice guy finally gets enough guts in him to tell her how he feels about her she goes and says, " i dont deserve you." or " your sweet" or " your just not my type" this to me feel like a slap in the face, its like you see their next bf and he is a total *** and treats her like **** but shes still says i wish i could find a nice guy, while your still in the same situation you were before. still single and still screwed. how do those guys do it? they are straight up assholes and the girls are still with them. i just dont get it. so if you girls can help us out by why you play games with the guys that truly care for you, and would never want to hurt you. of course there is a whole other side for guys to talk about but mybe i will get to that some other time.
**Here us some other things that i have THOUGHT of but didnt understand.**
Don't assume that guys won't care where you are, because we do.
IT MAKES US FEEL SO SECURE TO KNOW THAT OUR GIRLFRIEND ISNT OFF FLIRTING WITH GUYS WE'VE NEVER HEARD OF!!
We don't care if you talk to other guys.
We don't care if you're friends with other guys.
But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off.
It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.
Also, when we tell you you're pretty/ beautiful/ gorgeous/ cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it.
Don't tell us we're wrong.
We'll stop trying to convince you.
The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence.
Don't be mad when we hold the door open.
Smile and say "thank you."
LET US PAY FOR YOU!
DON'T "FEEL BAD"
We enjoy doing it.
It's expected.
Smile and say - everybody together now - "thank you."
Kiss us when no one's watching.
If you kiss us when you know nobody's looking we'll be more impressed.
You don't have to get dressed up for us.
If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have, put on every kind of makeup you own.
We like you for WHO you are and not WHAT you are.
don't flirt with guys when we're not with you.
We have eyes everywhere.
And when we find out, we're pissed.
Not necessarily with the guys you flirted with, more-so with YOU.
Don't take everything we say seriously.
Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it.
Don't get angry easily.
Stop using magazines/media as your bible.
Don't talk about how hot Morris Chesnutt, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartny is in front of us.
It's boring, and we don't care.
You have girlfriends for that.
Whatever happened to the word "handsome"/"beautiful"
I'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with "Hey
handsome!" instead of "Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy" or whatever else you can think of.
Girls, IF YOU AREN'T BEING TREATED RIGHT BY A GUY, DON'T WAIT FOR HIM TO CHANGE. DITCH HIS SORRY, DISCRACE-TO-THE-MALE-POPULATION ***, AND FIND SOMEONE WHO WILL TREAT YOU WITH UTTER RESPECT
Someone who will honor your morals.
Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest.
Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes.
Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel.
Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the
eyes....and say "i love you" ...
....AND ACTUALLY MEAN IT!
Give the nice guys a chance
Every Guy who isn't a jerk will agree with this.
2006-07-28 17:12:44 · 25 answers · asked by thanat c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are a lot of reasons why...a nice guy just has to meet a nice girl but obviously there aren't that many of us around these days.....and just to let you know....nice girls often finish last too......
2006-07-28 17:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with this you for the most part. You're on the right track, now just learn to tone down the jealousy a mite and although I'm sure you know this but anyway, if a girl really loves you she'll let you know. It may be just that she treats you ever so slightly different or maybe just the way she acts. Trust in her and she'll trust you. Be good to her and she'll be good to you. Rely on her and she'll rely on you. You must work together to form a loving and lasting relationship. Today, many women are sceptical of guys who are nice as a lot of the jerks out there use these same 'gentlemanly' concepts to lure a girl into the bed and then leave her to sort things out on her own or abuse her. Though being a nice guy has caused a lot of girls to over look me and the guys who don't understand this to call me every insult under the sun, it is the RIGHT way. I had a girlfriend for ~3 yrs (2 years give or take a few days and off-and-on for 2 and 1/2 years) and I treated her good but in the end, she wound up with a guy just because he has an expensive car and money, even though he doesn't treat her right. So I know where you are coming from, just remember to keep doing things the way you are and sooner-or-later your bound to find a girl who loves you.
2006-07-28 17:38:26 · answer #2 · answered by morman620570 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you've got a long row to hoe. I couldn't even get through the question.
I'm like you, without all the words, and drama, and feelings, and sounding like a whining chick, but, I hear ya. I'm a nice guy, too. I know the chicks that you're talking about. QUIT FALLING IN LOVE WITH THEM. ****** while you can and move on.
Dating is different than love. When you find the right one, she won't do all those things that piss you off. You will feel secure.
I have never had a second of worry or jealousy since I met my wife 16 years ago. She Is very cute and worked in a convenience store when we first met. I never had any concern, whatsoever, about all the guys who would hit on her. I never gave it a second thought. That's when you know. If you don't feel that, just consider them a lay while you're looking for the right one. Who cares if someone else is laying them, too?
BTW, the older you get, the older your girlfriends get. Eventually they catch on. After having been shiton by the 'bad boys' long enough, they learn to appreciate nice guys.
2006-07-28 17:29:14 · answer #3 · answered by normobrian 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all, thank you for some of the comments....yes, I can tell that you are angry, so I'll let it slide. These are comments I'll save. I am a nice girl with good morals and values, I've always been faithful to my boyfriends, I've never cheated, I am compassionate, caring, loving, fun, and sweet. I always treat others as I wish to be treated and treat my boyfriends like kings. My question is I am a nice girl, where are the nice guys at? I have had every dirty trick in the book done to me. My point is don't stereotype all women as being this way. I am not and when I'm with my man, I only have eyes for him....he's all I want. I wouldn't even dream of flirting with another man because it is disrespectful. Yes, nice girls do exist, we are out here!!
2006-07-28 17:26:08 · answer #4 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well uve been through alot, not all girls r like that we r not all stupid and sensless like the girl ur describing , u seem like a nice guy but dont wait around for her if she chooses to do the same ting 2 u over and over again then just forget about her and move on, u will find a girl out there dont worry
2006-07-28 17:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by emaria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, your totally right. It's a shame. But the fact is, that girls just don't want to move on whenever they get something, even if they can hae something better. Seriously dude, you should think about writing a book (or at least a pamphlet) to help guys with girls.
2006-07-28 17:18:18 · answer #6 · answered by Sonico 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Everything you have said is valid...and that is from a woman's point of view. If you are truly like this...then you will meet a special girl and lead a happy life. Not all girls are idiot magnets...you will find the right one
2006-07-28 17:19:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girls typically fall for the bad boy god only knows why . i know i wish to god there were more guys like you and if there are where were they 12years ago. i hope some day you find some one who truly deserves you and who can appreciate you. and who will be as devoted to you as you will be to her. good luck
2006-07-28 17:22:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I admire u dude, ur totally right, nice guys always finish last, don`t know why though
good question.
2006-07-28 17:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by Your best friend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOMEN READ ALL OF WHAT HE IS SAYING LIVE BY IT AND STUDY IT COPY AND PASTE IT AND SEND IT TO YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS AND REMEMBER IT WORD FOR WORD i've been saying the EXACT same things FOREVER im glad i dont have to address this problem myself
2006-07-28 17:18:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋