I want to have a threesome for the first time! Me my hubby and another girl. Should I or not?

Question

Me and my hubby have been together for 6 years and are very much in love but I've always been atracted to other females I think I may be bisexual but I've never been with a girl before I want to have sex with a female and I want to share this experience with my hubby. SHOULD I?

Answer 1

The person you should be asking is your husband. If you are in a healthy, loving relationship, don't let anyone outside of your marriage tell you what to do within it. Talk it over with your husband first. While many men would jump at the chance for a threesome, realistically it most often never works. Feelings of jealousy, resentment, and betrayal often result. If you talked it over with him, you may be surprised to learn he might not want to share you with anyone. And if you think about it, you might not want to share him with anyone either.

Answer 2

NO NO NO NO NO NO! Not yet, and I can't emphasize that enough! I've worked in a strip club the better part of ten years. Being that this is rated the #1 fantasy amongst most men, I've seen this happen a million and two times. Of those times, I have yet to see it work out. Broken relationships, marriages ending, friends lost, etc. It's okay that you are attracted to other females and if you want to explore the threesome as an option, start small. Take your husband to a swingers club or something, even strip clubs offer private dances to women....just to see how you both react. If it doesn't work, you can leave and no harm is done. That's not the case if it's already in the bedroom and it goes bad. Let me put it this way....new swimmers don't run to the deep end of the pool thinking "this is it, sink or swim"....neither should you. It would be disheartening to see six years come to end over a fantasy. Be smart about this. Go slow.

Answer 3

It really isn't for everyone but I try to encourage trying new things. Before you go through with it talk it over with your husband and then with the person who you are considering for the threesome and be sure to have her tested for diseases. I think it would be a good idea if you don't have a strong emotional attachment to the third person and everyone involved knows that it is only for the enjoyment and the experience rather than sex for love. If all involved are mature about it then you won't have to worry about emotional baggage.

Answer 4

Im going to be completely honest with you in answering this question and i hope I dont upset you in anyway, but you have got to know what you are thinking about is wrong very wrong.

If you love your husband as you say you do why on earth would you want to have sex with anyone else for especially a woman? When you marry dont the vows say " forsaking all others for so long as we both shall live" This means that you keep your marriage bed pure by only making love to each other not bringing another woman into it.....that would only lead to alot of problems in the long run.

If you love your husband as you say you do and If he loves you as he says he does.......then why bring someone else into your marriage and your private love life? These thoughts you say you have about other women and feeling as if you are bisexual do you know where they really come from? You might think me nuts, but im gonna tell you anyway........they come from the devil himself.

See, he doesnt want you to have a happy marriage and will try to break you up anyway he knows how and one of those ways is to put lustful thoughts into your mind......in this case its about other women and making you question if you are bi-sexual...........dont you listen to his lies or what he wants you to believe......because the bible tells us " satan is the father of all liars" Dont give into those thoughts he is placing in your mind.

The best advice I can give you is this.......pray long and hard before making any kind of decision like this. God loves you and your husband and wants you to have a happy, fruitful marriage and He will never steer you wrong.

You're in my thoughts and prayers.

Answer 5

Introducing a relationship to polygamy is fraught with problems including trust, self esteem, etc. You risk eroding the fundamental principles of the relationship itself. Some people can make an open lifestyle work for their relationship. However, both people have to be brought into it strongly and both people have to be secure in their love, trust and sexuality.

Answer 6

Does your Husband know that you are a bisexual? If you love your husband very much, I say don't do it. It's just wrong and werid. Plus what if you threesome and your Husband starts liking that girl... I say NO.

Answer 7

No. Never have a threesome with someone you love. It is cheating.

You are married!

You are okay with sharing your husband with another woman? What if she begins to like him and they begin sneaking around without you. Are you willing to throw your marriage away over one night?

Answer 8

only if you think you can emotionally handle everything that comes along with it. can you handle seeing your husband having sex with another woman and not get upset about it a year or two later in the mits of an argument. think about it are you strong enough to handle all the emotions

Answer 9

Where has all the morrals gone in this friggin world? Marriage is a sacred thing and you want to filthy it up with your immorral disgust. NO you should not have a threesome, idiot!

Answer 10

if u invite tis woman n it turn out she's hotter than u in bed n ur hubby loves it don't u think u r giving ur hubby a license 2 go screw around ???