is it just me?

Question

i spent 6 year's takeing care of my husband he had cancer and died i feel now i have no one that can pamper and care for me i spent 1 year takeing care of my son after he was hit by a truck now i have a daughter with 2 rare deseas's one of the brain she just got out of surgery and i feel like that is all my life is about takeing care of everyone else but me there is no way i can trun my back on my own has anyone else been there and how do you deal with it i love the lord and i try to do his will everyday i know i'am not perfect but i need tender loveing care myself

Answer 1

These are unquestionably hard things you've been through and are still going through. Not many people can really understand what it must be like. But if you do love the Lord (Jesus Christ) as you say, you also have to realize that He is giving you a great opportunity and a great blessing. The opportunity is to be as He is - completely selfless and completely giving. He is the One who poured Himself out for the sake of the world without ever thinking of being comforted Himself. In fact, when someone said they wanted to follow Him, He replied: "The birds of the air have nests and foxes have holes, but the Son of Man has no place to lay his head." In other words, there is no rest or comfort in this life for anyone who truly wants to "take up (their) cross and follow (Him)".

Yes, you are only human, still living on earth and still in a body - and of course you need consolation and support and attention and everything else. But just remember the above when things are tough and remind yourself that the Lord is indeed giving you a great gift - the opportunity to be "perfect" as your Father in heaven is perfect.

Maybe this is not exactly what you want to hear right now - and who can blame you? - but try to persevere and know that by giving selflessly you will be numbered with the "sheep" of His flock at His right hand on the Awesome Day of Judgment, and then "no one will take their joy away".

Answer 2

Hi
I am sorry because the first answerer mocked on you.
I had the same situation about my mom, she had cancer and no one was around to help me or taking care of me. But I forgot of myself and thought she was needing and I had no time to feel bad for me. Then I knew I was not alone, God is always beside me. He was always there conforting me. Once in a while try to do something you like, once at week. One friend told me that little things can make people happy. Enjoy those little things, like the simple pleasure of opening a window and smell morning air.

Answer 3

Try to make some time for yourself. Remember that if you don't take care of yourself, you're no good to anyone.And yeah, I've been there.Try looking into respite care.It can be a real life saver.I'd say start with the Visiting Nurses Association.

Answer 4

The pain and suffering you have, is just life. Dont worry, life just lasts about 80 years, im positive God will reward you greatly in Heaven, for the caring deeds you have done, eternally. Hang in there, God doesnt let good and loving deeds, go unrewarded. Even in your current life, he will reward you. Think of it like this, the more you work hard for other people, the more of a great reward you will recieve on Earth and in Heaven. God is proud of you =)

Answer 5

Ignore the horrible, nasty creature that posted first. Ugh!

Now, to your valid concerns--
We are ALL deserving of love and nurturing. (except "Stevie")
I would suggest a support group for caregivers--
try this link, or do your own search...
http://www.helpguide.org/elder/caregiver_support_groups.htm
It is exhausting to do all that you have done!
There is nothing wrong with what you are feeling.
Your body is letting you know you must take care of yourself.
That is natural and normal.
If you get sick from stress, you won't be good for your self or anyone.
Hope things work out for you.
Blessings!

Answer 6

It sounds as if your life has been very challenging. We are never given more than we can truly bear. Have you considered some counseling or a support group?

Blessings to you )O(

Answer 7

The Bible tells you to take care of your own vineyard.
Take care of yourself.
You sound so nice.
I wish I could give you a hug!
Spoil yourself whenever possible.
You are important.

Answer 8

think of the story of Job. he lost everything, including his family and then got a horrible disease. Satan was just testing him. Job never cursed God. Keep trusting in God and show Satan no matter what you'll live for God! God will reward you in the end. keep praying! God Bless

Answer 9

Don't you worry there will be a right person that God prepare for you to care and love as well.

Answer 10

you have no right to feel sorry for yourself when it was your husband that died
when it was your son that died
when it is your daughter who is sick

your alive and probably well

so suck it up or put yourself in their place honey cause until you are the one dying you should consider yourself lucky