i have a boy friend from the past 10yrs but i am not happy with him.now i am in love with a boy who is 5 yrs younger to me (21yrs).we go out and have fun.he gives me lots of attention and love.he is a smart boy and has most of the qualities that i need from a boy.the thing is that we cant get married bcoz my boyfriend wont spare me.also my family will not agree with me getting married to this boy who is younger to me bcoz his father has a bad reputation in the village.i dont know what to do.i wonder if whatever he tells me is about being in future is genuine or not coz he is still young to decide for marriage.please advice.
2006-07-28 16:40:58 · 18 answers · asked by monvina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whoa...
Well, here's an American city guy talkin' so take the answer as just an opinion....
10 years is no small amount of time to spend with someone. Anyone would seem like fresh air to someone in a relationship that isn't working out after that long of a time.
So assuming you can throw your life to fate - dump the 10 year relationship and try things out with the 21 year old.
BUT, I say that not knowing if it will mark you in some negative way with your village. There IS the chance you'll find out the younger guy is uninteresting after some period of time.. then what?
IF that happens what do you do? Are you able to leave your village and find another man to date/marry a 26 year old woman?
Sorry if that comes off as Amerocentric or stupid, just saying, my advice is from an American point of view and you mentioned your current boyfriend won't "spare you".
Why would that matter? (Again, an American idea.)
2006-07-28 16:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by abesfate 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would advice to get rid of the 10yrs relationship, since you are stock and have found new love. The age difference is not such a big deal nowadays. Give yourself some time and a chance with this new love, forget about what others have to say and follow your heart and work things out. Take care and god bless. By the way do not waist your time with your current boyfriend it sounds like he is not ready for commitment after so many years.
2006-07-28 16:46:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honey if you love him and he loves thats all that matters to true love time is but an illusion if you think he is the one and he feels the same way well than you should be together you don't need any blessing from your family they should be happy for you true love doesn't come a knockin evryday so take this oppurtunity with your head held SKY HIGH!!.I hope i was of help to you today.
2006-07-28 16:47:34 · answer #3 · answered by alfred v 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be with someone you wanna be with. Your life will be a disaster if you marry the other guy and you don't love him. Unless you are already marry to him. Then you don't have another choice but to divorce him and be with the younger guy.I would the least worry about my parents. yo need to decide what's best for you. Just be careful. Good luck.
2006-07-28 16:47:39 · answer #4 · answered by Donna M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From dis much information I can say FREAKS like u not only destroy their lives bt also people around them!!!
man, u r with ur bf from last 10 yrs..isnt that gr8...he might not be able to express his love publicly, bt he is at least honest and loves u!!
The person younger than u, cares for u, just b'coz he goes out with u, bunking his classes coz he's a kid, he entertains u and blah blah blah.............girls like u must be dumped severely, coz even after spending 10 yrs u hve to choose, and to keep options!!!!!
before taking ne decision, just think dat dis "attractive" dude, wat if after 10 yrs of marriage he thinks dat, u're too old and he needs s'one younger and leaves u...........................the problem with u girls is u don think how this "move-on"s and break-ups may affect a person, but cry out loud if same happens with u!!
ur bf must teach u a lesson!!
2006-07-28 16:50:09 · answer #5 · answered by friend 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you need to do is break up with the current bf if you don't love him. It's not fair to either of you to stay together.
Secondly, forget about the 21 year old! Been there, done him! Move on.
2006-07-28 16:47:17 · answer #6 · answered by Mandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, you're 26 and still write things like "bcoz" and "plz." You apparently would do much better with the younger man as he would understand your handwriting. You know, I'm still not sure what the hell you're talking about.
2006-07-28 16:45:04 · answer #7 · answered by spolie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're willing to date on your boyfriend then do the right thing and leave him. Maybe the 21 year old will appreciate your infidelity; it's a good quality for people who don't value their relationships.
2006-07-28 16:44:17 · answer #8 · answered by Keith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stick with the one you have. Ten year's down the drain is what I see for you if you don't. The younger guy is just a kid. He is after you because he loves...The Chase. Stop being dumb,and get your life back to normal. If you don't...your headed for big trouble...a life time of trouble.
2006-07-28 16:48:42 · answer #9 · answered by Wishee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regarding your boyfriend...are you sure you aren't in love with him anymore?...that you feeling this way doesn't have anything to do with this new guy giving you all this attention?....you've been with your boyfriend for ten years...you don't want to throw all that away on someone who you just feel attracted to at the moment...if i were you i'd really think about how i feel and what i want to do...and honestly if you'd rather be with the twenty-one year old then be with him and who cares what your family thinks or says...they don't have to live with him you do...you can't let your family stand in the way of how you feel about someone because then in the end you're only going to make yourself miserable...
2006-07-28 16:46:54 · answer #10 · answered by chelley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋