My man seems to have a major problem with me hanging out with guys that ive known since i was like 5. is this normal for him to get jealous? he hangs up on me when he hears another guy in the background talking to me. And then he turns off his phone and ignores me for the rest of the day! Is it me or is this not good for a relationship? He seems to have an anger problem and says he loves me and is just protective. But isnt that the same as him saying that he doesnt trust me? He always asks me **** like " did you sleep alone last night?" or says " you kept your legs closed i hope". Guys dont talk to their girlfriends like this right? I mean ive never given him a reason to think that id be unfaithful. Im just confused and sadden by his behavior. I really love this guy and dont want to give up on him. I just dont know how else to make him trust me. He's differnt than the guys im used to dating. I care deeply for him and dont want us to breakup over **** like this.i need some advice pls
2006-07-28 16:34:42 · 7 answers · asked by foreverb18 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
has he met the guys? maybe that will help. i'm kind of having the same problem, except i only have one guy friend and he's flaming gay. but my bf still gets jealous. i know it'll be human nature, but maybe if he's met these guys it would help. also it would help if they had gfs. perhaps you all could double date.
just make sure you aren't hanging out with the guys too much. eventually bf will get over it and realize they are more like big brothers to you. i just wouldn't give up my friends for my bf. so i'd try those things and see how they work.
2006-07-28 16:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by lilgracie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously he has problems on the Trust aspect of a relationship. Maybe unfinished business with previous girlfriends. Now, are you going to give up on each and every male friend you have or will ever have, just to please him? Are you comfortable with that idea?
If he is that insecure, would you still want to keep him by your side? Talk to him, make him understand that you are hurting because of his lack of faith in you. If he still can not trust you, my advice is for you to move on. You deserve better, and he needs to learn to trust.
No love relationship survives without trust.
2006-07-28 16:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by umbralatin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow...my boyfriend doesn't care that i hang with my guy friends. in fact he knows that i have more guy friends than i do gal friends. but usually when i hang with them its a mixture of both. my boyfriend has been there when we hang out and he doesn't have a problem with them. and he doesn't care if they give me gifts or anything as long as they "don't go touching stuff on me or grabbing me" and stuff like that...
does he hang with female? if he does than that makes no sense why you can't.
maybe try hanging out with your guy friends with some of your female friends so he doesn't get mad.
there is no reason for him to asking you if you slept alone last night or you kept you legs closed last night right.
if he truely cared for you then there is no reason for him to be talking to you like this.
but if you can't stand it anymore dump the guy...you had the friends longer....
2006-07-28 16:50:56 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
their nothing wrong with hanging out with his friends, you both are together. he is being very rude to you and disrespecting to you. the boyfriend has a problem and it not you. it not normal for him to act like this. maybe he is cheating on you. the way he acting tore you. if he has a anger problem maybe you should leave before you get hurt. it only takes one time for someone to hit someone. then it gets worse. no person should be take to that way. if he loves you he won't take to you that way. or treat you like that. maybe he is drinking or doing drugs. i think you should leave and find someone better. who will treat you right and talk to you with loving words. not hate words. that is abuse.
2006-07-28 16:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its real love, there would be trust and honesty, and he would have np with it...........everyone should be allowed to have friends, regardless of gender,! Also, alot of times there is insecurity b/c the other person is out doing wrong.....old tale! and most time true!
2006-07-28 16:40:57 · answer #5 · answered by dazed.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i used to have that exact same problem most of my friends are guys and i am dating this one guy who used to get really jealous about then he got over it because he knows i don't have feelings for them but he thinks they have feelings for me but if he is a good boyfriend he will get over and move on
2006-07-28 16:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by luvleylue 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he loves you and doesn't want u with anyother guy i understand him
2006-07-28 16:40:50 · answer #7 · answered by grant_lilmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋