I have a 17 year old cousin that just found out she is pregnant. Her mother is very upset and said in her day it was an embarrassment and disgrace to the family and now it seems that everyone is doing it and thinks it's ok. Her father is upset also. I don't know if this was an accident or not, but my cousin is going to keep it. What do you guys think?
2006-07-28 16:17:32 · 8 answers · asked by devinshell 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I think how sad this is that she is giving up so much of her life to have a baby at such a young age. God bless her and her baby and hope all goes well.
2006-07-28 16:21:57 · answer #1 · answered by AnGeL4EvEr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,we are no doubt not living in those times anymore.It is very common these days to see a family with an unwed parent.She needs her familys support now more than ever,she doesnt need something else to bring her down.She is going to be going through a hard time,and her family should support her even if they do not agree with her decision right at this moment later down the road they will look back and see that she made the choice she thought was in the best interest of her and the baby.They may question whether she is capable of making a decision like that.The answer is yes,she may not be legally an adult,but this baby is inside of her and she is making a choice that she thinks she can deal with.I am sure she is having a hard time dealing as are her parents.It doesnt make them bad parents.She made a mistake the baby isnt a mistake her action was a mistake,this result of that action isnt a mistake.This baby didnt asked to be brought into this world,but they shouldnt punish the daughter for it as she has a long road ahead of her with this baby.Just be there for her,even tho you are a cousin doesnt mean that she doesnt need your support to.her parents im sure will eventually come around,she just needs support and people to talk to right now tho,so i think her family needs to do that.
2006-07-28 23:25:21 · answer #2 · answered by ~♡~Moon Goddess~♡~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 20 and unmarried when I found out I was pregnant with my first child. The father and I went back and forth between keeping it, and having an abortion.... We took too long deciding, and before we knew it, abortion was no longer an option. Now, our daughter is almost 4 years old and the love of our lives.... We are also now married..to each other.... and have a beautiful 9 month old daughter as well. I was 21 when I gave birth to my first daughter.... I was young, naive, and stupid.... But becoming a mother was the best thing that has ever happened to me. My oldest daughter was not planned... either was the youngest.... But I love my daughters more than life itself. I was not ready to be a mom, but now I could never imagine my life without them.
Your cousin is a lot younger than I was.... I wasn't even having sex yet at that age.... But she deserves support and respect. People need to let her be the best mother she can be. And once that baby is born, her parents will look at their grandchild, and fall in love. My parents were mad at me too.... But their grandchildren are the most important things in their lives.... Your cousin's parents will feel the same way too.... Give your cousin my regards.... I've been there.... It's tough.... But she can do it. Everyone just has to let her.
2006-07-29 00:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that she is taking responsibility for the baby. That is sad that girls get pregnant that early. It would be nice if she could marry the father of the baby, but if they dont love each other then there is no use. Its better to just have the baby and not be married then to get married just because you have a baby. That can lead to divorce. Babies out of wedlock are common now. Her parents have every right to be upset. Wouldnt you? She has ruined her life basically. She will probably be raising this child herself. Believe that me that isnt easy.
2006-07-28 23:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by cynthia_0516 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Times sure have changed, but fortunately, people haven't.......I hope she has a good job if she plans on supporting the baby, if not then her parents will be raising it........Please tell her that it's great that she is not having an abortion, but having a baby is no easy task (I had one when I was 19 and raised her alone......Thank God, my parents were there to help)........I can understand why her parents are upset (they are probably shocked that their "baby" would do such a thing..........Completely normal.........They'll get over it and fall in love with the child....) Take care, honey and stay on the right track.............
2006-07-28 23:24:17 · answer #5 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad that at her age she is going through this. I AM glad to hear that she IS taking responsibility and giving the baby life. I hope all young people reading this learns something from it instead of just thinking abortion is an alternative.
2006-07-28 23:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by da dude 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ITS HER LIFE! SHES DAMN NEAR AN ADULT. ITS NOT AS COMMON TO BE WED AS IT WAS BACK IN THE DAY, JUST LIKE ITS NOT AS COMMON TO HAVE NUMEROUS CHILDREN AS IT WAS BACK IN THE DAY. THINGS CHANGE SOMETIME AND LIFE GIVES YOU WANT YOU CAN HANDLE. THEY MAYBE BE FEELING THIS WAY NOW, BUT ONCE THE BABY COME INTO THE WORLD THOSE FEELINGS WILL EITHER FADE AWAY OR BUILD A WALL BETWEEN THE NEW EDITION TO THE FAMILY! I THINK IT WILL WORK ITS SELF OUT IN THE END..
2006-07-29 04:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by msbrandnew02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my son is out of wedlock and i believe alot of people these days are having babies out of wedlock...whats wrong with it...just add a peice of paper and everthing is ok?
2006-07-28 23:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by Deshawn & Keshawn's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋