My parents are racist and I don't know how to deal with it...?

Question

I am 27 years old and have recently moved back to my home town...I do not want to cut them out of my life, but they are TERRIBLY, embarrassingly racist......what do i do?

Answer 1

my parents r too when I was single my mom actually told me that she'd rather I be with a white man that beat me than one of another race even if he was good to me.
I grew up with black friends but we had to be friends mostly at school. My parents would be nice to them to their face but talk about them behing their backs.
It's just not brought up now. They know I won't hear it.

Answer 2

Sit down and talk to them. One of the best things to probably do is go to a restaraunt and buy them a nice coffee before telling them, they'll probably listen more. Or just go over to their house and have a chat. Tell them how you feel. Tell them everything that's on your mind, but try to be a tiny bit friendly too. Say it in the kindest way you possibly can, but try to be firm and stick to your subject. Tell them racism is wrong. If they are good parents, they will most likely understand your point of view. Otherwise, maybe everytime they say something racist you should say: "I don't know you people. But racism is wrong." and walk away. Sooner or later, they may just change their ways. Good luck :)

Answer 3

Unfortunately, there's probably not a lot you can do except explain to them how you feel and how it is affecting your life. You don't necessarily need to cut them out of your life, but you do have to determine how you are going to deal with them when their racism rears its ugly head. Set your limits and let them know what you can and can't tolerate. Is their racism actually affecting you personally, or is it that their racism is just plain wrong?

Answer 4

God created us all in His image--ALL of us! We're all special, in some ways diiferent from everyone else, and in some ways the same. I think being a racist is a really bad thing! All I can say is that you should try and talk some sense into those parents of yours!

Answer 5

Avoid going out in social situation's; ie: dinner. My father used to put out fire's in D.C. back in the late 50's during the riot's. He was shot at. He was also raised in a bad neighborhood.

We went out to a nice seafood restaurant when we moved down to FL. In the middle of the meal, a black couple sat down at a nearby table....embarrassing, wouldn't begin to describe what happened!

Answer 6

man, that's tough, I say, just, if your going out with a different race, or whatever, try not to tell anyone that might tell them, I don't anything about this, but a kid in my class is racist, and my friend's black, i'm white, I just swear at him and beat the s*** out of him. (the racist)

Answer 7

Try to educate them or plan to spend as much time as you can outside the house. I have that problem (thought not nearly as bad as you) and I don't let mom get away with it all the time. I speak up. SOmeone has to.

Answer 8

my dad "pretends" hes not racist but the truth is that he is.whenever we watch t.v hes always like it got any black people in there and we're like no and hes like change the channel.and its rubbing off on my little sister.my advice to u is to try and talk them out of their views and if that doesnt work then dont bring your friends around them

Answer 9

Need some idea's? Download that song by BODY COUNT called "Mommas gonna die tonight". That will send you in the right direction. Good luck.

Answer 10

Let them know how u feel lmao u know what better yet bring a black person home to meet them and say ure engaged.