ok my ex boyfriend who I dated 4 years is giving me mixed signals!! He says he doesn't want a serious relationship with me at this time in his life but then every time I see him he wants to kiss me. Well I found out that he has kissed another girl a few times that he's been kind of seeing for a few months....Isn't that a big deal?? I mean I was hurt by that because he has been giving mixed signals making me think that in the future we could get back together. He said that the kiss with this girl didn't mean anything. Am I stupid to believe him?
2006-07-28 15:50:54 · 41 answers · asked by lucky*star 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A kiss is a kiss and is meant to hold meaning. He's a player, BACK AWAY
2006-07-28 15:52:47 · answer #1 · answered by mat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A kiss can be just a kiss. But if there is feeling being exchanges between two people then it differs. A kiss can be a feeling of trust being exchanged or comfor. It just depends on how the two parties feel. But, normally his kiss with the other girl did mean something- most likely he feels that she is a good pass time, but not neccessarily. it just depends. I would dump him though, if you
re feeling hurt now what makes you think that you;ll better in the future, like you get what I mean. Please don't take offense to any of this. However, I believe that once you dump someone getting back together is a bad idea because the rift in the relationship is still there.
2006-07-28 15:56:17 · answer #2 · answered by hitechmal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something you might have to judge for yourself, sometimes it is what you believe, If he is really into you however then he will see you more then he will see of the other you say he is seeing. It can be difficult to figure out what signals he is sending you. If he says the kiss witht he other girl didn't mean anything and he is truthful about and you believe him then give it a run. You won't be losing anything. If you think other wise then you could talk to him about what is going and see what his reaction is. Sometimes a detailed explanation is better then just straight short answers.
2006-07-28 15:57:10 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, a kiss is not just a kiss and Yes you are stupid to believe him. It all feels good. Only to us woman we want it to mean something. Let it go, he's playing, so let him play with everyone else and stand your ground. There are a few hot ones out there, usually who have been burned before, and take having a good woman a little more seriously. Don't waste your time. Trust me. He'll use you as long as he can, till you finally get your head straight and realize he's playing.
2006-07-28 16:00:41 · answer #4 · answered by 123..WAIT! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A kiss can be just a kiss. But, it can also mean something. In your case I hate to say it but, it is a BIG deal. He has been seeing her. It was not just a kiss and then nothing. I understand his feeling the need to explore other girls if you were his first girlfriend. Maybe you and he will work out in the future. Just remember that he will lose respect for you if you don't respect yourself. Good luck and God bless.
2006-07-28 15:55:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you asked. Yes you are stupid to believe him. He is trying to have his cake and eat it too, if you know what that means. After 4 years he doesn't want a serious relationship with you? Move on honey. He might like kissing and playing around without the responsibility. Doesn't sound like you gave much up, move on and find someone to treat you the way you should be treated. Let him know you can get someone else.
2006-07-28 15:54:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mixed signal's? He's just playing you for a second fiddle. Dump your X and find someone who's not seeing another girl on the side. There isn't a future...just a lot of grief.
2006-07-28 15:57:50 · answer #7 · answered by citywolf57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes a player.
1st of all if hes saying he doesnt want n e thing serious with you, that means he probably wants "friends with benefits"
DONT fall 4 him. the reason hes kissing other girls is because hes only looking 4 people 2 kiss, makeout, ect. hes not looking 4 a relationship, JUST fun. like most guys. I say MOVE ON!!! well good luck!
2006-07-28 16:00:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me as if you want a serious relationship. If a kiss with this girl didn't mean anything, how can a kiss with YOU mean anything either? Lose this l/user.
2006-07-28 15:55:53 · answer #9 · answered by JayD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men know...the easiest way to have sex with someone is to go to the ex-gf. It is sad but true. Unless you feel like being used and have the "mixed signals" continue...just leave him alone. You aren't stupid...you have feelings for him and he is taking advantage of that. Stop talking to him and being with him before things get to a point that you get more confused and hurt!!!!
2006-07-28 15:55:39 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋