what do you do when your mom is a control freak and is completly unreasonable when you want to go places?

Answer 1

Would you rather have a mother that does not care whether you come or go?

Answer 2

It depends on your age, and how controlling she is. You would have to be more specific. The things that seem controlling between 12-18, will make much more sense, when you have moved out, and grown up a bit. Wanting to know where you are/whom you are with? Normal. Wanting to personally know the person who is driving, if you don't have a license? Normal. Setting a curfew? Normal. Wanting to have met the parents of the friend whose house you will be spending the night at? VERY normal. There are too many weirdos and creeps out there. Your children are precious, and once you have one of your own, you will understand. You may hate it now, but you will appreciate it later. Trust me, I was there a few short years ago (I am 24, with a six month old daughter). Feel free to contact me if you have any specific questions!

Answer 3

First where do you want to go? Listen to you mom she only has your best interest at heart. You may think she is a control freak now but wait till you have your own children. You turn into your mom and your children will be saying the same thing about you

Answer 4

If your Mom is a control-freak, play along with her. Its really not hard to do once you figure it out. First, introduce her to all your friends. Invite them in and just hang out with them and your mom for a while until they are all comfortable with each other.

Another thing you can do is let her know where you are going when you leave the house, and when you expect to be back home. Make sure you choose to go to places where you will be safe and engaging in healthy activities.

Some moms get to be control-freaks when their kids won't talk to them about stuff. Moms like to talk with their kids - at least most moms do. Most moms really love their kids and want to make sure they are safe.

Answer 5

Where's your Dad?
If you have two parents you should be sitting down with both of them to discuss this in a calm and reasonable manner.

How old are you?
There's a world of difference between fourteen and seventeen - if you are 14 you have to accept that your Mother is acting in your best interest and you have to do what she says. Instead of carping about it, or adding it to your mental list of grievances, ask why you are not permitted to go somewhere/see someone/buysomething etc etc. Remember not to be antagonistic. You Mom might enlighten you about dangers you never considered, because your Mom has a lot more living under her belt than you do.

Now let's say you are 17-18-etc. and living at home. Guess it is time for a sensible, adult, calm, reasonable discussion about your maturity and your Mother's need to adjust her control to take account of this fact.

Answer 6

my mom was like that. just deal with it until you can move out. there is no sense in arguing or sneaking around - you'll just make her feel the need to be more controlling. I hate to say this and I know you don't want to hear it ( and neither did I when I was younger), but once you get a little older, you'll understand why she is the way she is.

Answer 7

It depends on your age dear. I'm 21 and my step mom was like that so I moved out. If you can't move out hang in there. Maybe a family member or friend that knows you well can help you talk to your mom. Be thankful you have one!!! My mom died when I was 7 and I didn't have a stepmom until I was 21!!

Answer 8

Listen to her. As irrational as she may seem it's driven by her love for you. You have your agenda and you think you know what's best for you, but she's lived twice as long & has twice the experience and is laying out a framework for you to succeed. It will make you miserable now and quite frankly you'll not want to do it ... but if you do you'll not only save yourself grief eventually when things go bad ... you'll also grow closer to her.

Answer 9

Where do u want to go? I let my two teenagers go places but not everywhere. It is hard to be a mom these days but if what you say is true and she will not let you go anywhere than that just sucks!! Tell her how you feel.

Answer 10

thank her everyday for caring enough to be a pain in your neck i have 4 sons and i am a huge pain lol but they are now old enough to understand why i did the crazy things like keeping tabs on where the went and with who as a matter of fact one of them now has 2 children of his own and i am proud to say he is a pain to them too.

Answer 11

i would say she cares about you but is over protective and that is dangerous cos it will drive you to do some bad stuff just so you may pay her back for all the bad things she's done to you. Try and understand her and you two need to talk.