i need some kind of help... can someone tell me what kind of help i DO need?

Question

sometimes i feel empty inside feeling nothing but pain and sometimes that pain is so strong i feel like something has got to be wrong with some orgin inside. but i like that better than what i feel when i do have my mind. i'm dying inside.i need someone but their is no one that can help me. i'm 16.don't tell me to talk to my parents cause they are part of it all and they might as well be trees with a face... live and produce and thats it. don't think bad of me for saying that i do love my mother but it's so hard to. and my dad... i hate him for abusing my mother and i and my sisters... i just want out of here to start a new life where i know no one and no one knows me. i can't do anything myself cause i have no money and thats not cause i don't work. i buy my own food, cloths, and everything else i need. i go to a very good christian school that has become like my family and i'v never felt that before and now my parents are trying to take me out cause they don't teach what they beleave

Answer 1

Get emancipated and stay away from religion

Answer 2

I found your question very interesting. What i found the most interesting was the part where you posted:
"sometimes i feel empty inside feeling nothing but pain and sometimes that pain is so strong i feel like something has got to be wrong with some origin inside. but i like that better than what i feel when i do have my mind." In my opinion i interpreted this as the pain is something that is comfortable to you and something familiar and what you meant by it is better than what i feel when i do have my mind, to me, meant, that when you don't feel empty inside you start to feel the real pain your home environment is causing you. If you can find the courage I think it would be a good time to go to someone in the good christian school you attend and ask them for guidance. Yes, you do love your parents but you don't like how you are being treated and there is nothing wrong with the way you feel. If you find the strength to go to someone at your school, you never know, you may end up helping the whole family.

Answer 3

You need a confidant and a mentor. Preferably a mature older woman, or more than one! If you cannot confide in your mother, try your grandmother or an aunt, or at least your school psychologist. Any talks you have with a certified counselor will be confidential. So too is anything you say to a priest in confession!

If there is physical abuse in your house, somebody needs to do something to stop it! I'm not suggesting you find somebody to beat the crap out of an abuser, far from it. Abuse is wrong, and if the abuser won't stop hurting people, then the household has to change: somebody needs to leave. Yes, it will be hard, and yes, it will be scary, but then change always is. Beware of what you now think of as "normal"; it may not be right!

Be forewarned: whomever you choose as a confidant may be required to take action on some of the information you reveal. For example, if you tell your school counselor that your Dad beat you up the night before, and she sees the bruises he left, she will be required to call the authorities. THESE AUTHORITIES ARE THERE TO HELP AND PROTECT YOU.

It sounds like you need some of that. Peace be with you.

Answer 4

I'm so sorry that you are going through such a difficult time. I understand that at 16y/o and going to school, that you can't afford to move out on your own. When you say your father is abusing you and your sisters, is he sexually abusing you or physically abusing you? If so, you need to report him and get him out of the house. I would start by talking to your school nurse, psychologist, or counselor.

I don't know what state you live in but in my state a 16y/o has a lot of rights. It's possible that your parents can't make you leave your Christian school. Your school counselor should be able to tell you about this. Please don't listen to that jerk who said to give up religion. I have had many serious troubles in my life and no one has been a bigger help than God. A friend that is a true Christian is a huge blessing!

If your father isn't sexually or physically abusing you, find and take advantage of every support available to you and look forward to when you graduate from high school, can get a full time job, and can move out of the house. If you want to go to college you can still do that by living with a roommate to reduce expenses and going to school part time.

You sound like a wonderful young woman, remember, God loves you and is on your side. I will pray for you and God bless you. Many people (me too) have had very difficult childhoods and overcame that and had very happy and productive adult lives.

Answer 5

Getting emancipated would be a wise idea - you already know how to take care of yourself. You can't make your Mom leave, but if your sisters are younger than you, then you need to turn your Dad in for abuse. You wouldn't want to leave them behind to continue getting abused - you'd never feel good about that. You need to talk to someone who can help like a school counselor, or even a doctor can help (legally) if you go and show them bruises or proof of the abuse.

Good luck

Answer 6

What you feel is normal. The pain is real. It is time you speak with a professional. If your school has a councilor, stop in an talk. Nothing more. You could have depression - A chemical imbalance. The pain you feel really needs to be looked at.

Your age is hard... Your life is hard... Make sure you stay connected to your friends.

Your body and mind are growing. Your home life seems in flux. Find a professional to talk to. Don't forget your mom. If you are close.... talk to her about how you feel!!!! You appear to need to talk.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Honey, I think it's all part of being 16. Although, if you're feeling this strongly, maybe you should talk to a counselor at school.
Try hanging out with your friends more. My friends kept me sane when I was down like that. I, also, did not get along with my parents and still don't. Some people just aren't good parents. Good luck hun!!!

Answer 8

I'm sorry that you are going through this tough period in your life, I hope you know that we parents are in no way perfect,however I don't believe there is any reason for one human being to abuse another one. So I suggest Pray and Ask God to Help you,

Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,saith the LORD, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end.

Have A Blessed Life & read your Bible everyday

Answer 9

Try to talk to a close friend or psychiatrist. You're going through a pretty rough time and your gonna need a friend to lean on. You are a good, independent young woman, and that's a good thing, but maybe you should try to save a little money so that when you graduate, you can get out asap. I'll pray for you're security (mentally and physically) to be okay. I'm really sorry that you are going through this, it's a shame. But still, it would be good to share this with a friend, teacher, etc...

Answer 10

I am sorry about the pain . Friends and family are the center of depression. You will need one new friend. You will need to learn that society is mostly about controlled groups sexually and you will have to chose one. Remember suicide is group murder so learn to fight back. There is a geographical cure but i think it will be hard for a young person to do it as you need to finish school and have a place to stay . Maybe get your first marriage and tell him why you need a short term marriage. Good luck.

Answer 11

Sounds like the beginning of depression. I highly recommend this book: "The Feeling Good Handbook" by Dr. David Burns, MD

It got me out of suicidal depression. It's easy to read and makes a lot of sense. It will help you to control your thoughts which will lead to a much happier life. It works. Read my story, if you like:

http://www.geocities.com/seabulls69/AntidepressantThatWorks.html