2006-07-28 15:38:53 · 38 answers · asked by Michelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Parents do understand. I'm not a parent, but I'm going to college to be an English teacher/writer. So I've taken several classes that involve studying the different phases kids go through. Teenagers are always described as "knowing what's best for them/knowing it all". It drives parents insane because they do know what's best for their child (in most cases), and even better yet, it drives them insane because they acted the same way toward their parents.
I don't know what you're going through right now, but I'm sure your parents are on top of it.
2006-07-28 15:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Ken 2 · 4⤊ 3⤋
It depends on what you are going through. I'm far from being a parent, and I'm not ready to be one either. I have realized though that as I get older there are some things that I have done, when I was younger and I saw as was completely justified. Now though I can't imagine why my parents ever let me do it. I can't help but say stuff to my younger friends some times. As you get older you might see what you see today differently. I'm sure your parents love you very much and just remember that, cause in the end that is all that truly matters.
2006-07-28 15:43:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many parents forget what it was like to be a teenager. This is true for every stage of a child's life I think. Many forget what it was truly like to be a child, then a teen.... They're clouded by adult experiences. The best thing for both parties is to just learn to listen, and accept each other for who they are.
It's only in the past few years that my mother and I have a decent relationship. For the most part, we accept each other for who we are, and we make the most of that.
They will understand the way you "need" them to when you get older. Growing up will change the way you see things, and your parents will relate to you as an adult.
I hope this helps, I was there once too :)
2006-07-28 15:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by xian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They do understand. You have to understand that they have been there done that and know what you are getting in and what could happen. I've felt how you feel now and then I became a mother myself and you tend to want the best for your children and you don't want them to have to go through what you did and you want to protect them from everything. No is a hard word to hear and whether you believe it or not, they are acting the way they are because they love you.
2006-07-28 15:54:25 · answer #4 · answered by Moon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes their solution doesn't seem like the best one until you get older and look back. You'll probably thank them for the advice. Some parents on the other hand haven't been through some of the same situations that you have.
2006-07-28 15:41:12 · answer #5 · answered by Maxable 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm old, but even when my kids were young, I understood. I hated school; I was miserable. I wanted to run away. I would not go back to being a kid for any amount of money. It's the worst time of my life, and I am guessing it is for many of you as well.
I never bugged my kids for good grades in school. They would tell their friends that, and the friends were disbelievers. I told my kids its hard enough just surviving as a kid without having someone in your face about something as meaningless as grades.
I did tell them that as long as they weren't in trouble, their grades were their concern. I did define failing and not passing as being in trouble, but other than that, their grades were their business, not mine. If they weren't ashamed of a C- or D, I didn't care.
Once, it was in the paper, when the greatest daughter in the world was in Middle School, a girl her age from that same school committed suicide. I asked her if that girl's parents fussed over her grades. She said, yes, if she only got a C, she forged a higher grade. Those parents were not even able to understand that girl didn't even want to live, but they were torturing her about stupid, meaningless grades. That was tragic to me.
Guess what? Of my four kids, one is a math professor. One is in medical school. The greatest daughter in the world, a dyslexic, is nearly done with her second master's degree. The 4th one has a bachelor's degree. This may not mean much, but I was the first college graduate in my family, and all four of my kids made it. too. Without me bugging them for better grades.
I do understand. Being a kid is hell!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-28 15:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by retiredslashescaped1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They DO understand what you are going through. You will figure that out when your kids are your age and you are your parents age that in most cases, your parents were right AFTER ALL.
2006-07-28 15:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by NC_Pianist 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because they are pre-occupied with your happiness and safety. Also, chances are that it was a long time ago when they were the age you are now. i can assure you, however, that you and your generation have not cornered the market on angst. A lot of what you are going through that you think is so unique is the same kind of thing they went through in the past.
2006-07-28 15:42:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am also a parent of four and agree that we as parents tend to forget what it is like to be young!!
I try to keep the lines of communication open between my kids and I hope when they do need me to understand I will!!
2006-07-28 15:45:35 · answer #9 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents undertand more then u know sweetie, After all they wasn't born parents they were kids too and they went through whatever ur going through.
And when u have kids ur kids will say and think the same about u 2
2006-07-28 15:41:56 · answer #10 · answered by itspink22@sbcglobal.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋