I have been in two weddings but I was so young that I don't remember them. I want to be in the wedding but when I think like that I feel super jelous! What should I do?
2006-07-28 15:37:09 · 14 answers · asked by ♥ DancingQueen♥ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My brother is 8 and he is the ring guy. I have met the bride but only three times.
2006-07-29 06:59:16 · update #1
I'm sure you realize that the focus here is the joy of the Bride and Groom and a memorable wedding day, not how many times you've been in a wedding. However, if you sincerely would like to participate, think of something creative that you can do for the Bride and Groom to make their day special.
Jealousy is a very destructive emotion and a large waste of time.
2006-07-28 15:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by zuzu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember- it's OK to feel jealous sometimes. Try to turn that jealousy into a positive: you're brother is obviously younger than you, and since you've had experience in weddings (even though you may not remember, you're older so you can give advice), give him some tips on how to walk, carry the rings, etc. Be excited for him b/c you get to be there and watch and enjoy yourself- and just think- you'll have plenty of weddings to be in (like your best friends from school) when you get older. Also, if you've only met the bride-to-be a few times, just remember that she probably has a lot of close family/friends that she needs to be in her wedding and don't take it personally b/c you don't know her that well.
2006-08-03 15:23:41 · answer #2 · answered by Some Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be jealous that your brother is in the wedding. You should be happy for him. He may be closer to the bride or groom than you are but there will be times that you will be picked over him and he will likely feel good for you. It is petty to feel jealous of your brother. Ask the bride if there is anything you can do to help maybe she will decide there is a place for you in the wedding but if not let it go.
2006-07-28 23:03:15 · answer #3 · answered by Elwood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the cousin a guy or girl? If it is a guy then your brother probably got picked because he wants fam in the wedding party, but his fiance has a lot of fam and friends for bridesmaids anyway. It's not really your fault...it's just your gender! The groom usually picks the groomsmen and the bride picks the bridesmaids! Don't worry! Just go and look really hot and have a good time : )
2006-07-29 02:01:25 · answer #4 · answered by lotsalove83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there are always way too many girls and not enough guy friends of the groom that the Bride likes (due to height/obnoixiousness etc), you can still be a part of the wedding party, you are family, find out who's throwing the shower or her bachelorette party and get involved! that is more important and much more fun than spending hundreds of dollars on dress/shoes/hair/nails and practicing a dance with a guy who's either related to you, ugly or obnoxious or has a girlfriend anyway.
2006-07-28 23:01:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its hard to feel left out, but I will tell you from experience, that it is harder to be a part of a wedding, when the person doesn't really want you there. My brother's wife and I don't really get along, but I was in her bridal party. It was horrible. Her and her bridesmaids were rude and just plain mean. I would have much rather been watching from a pew.
2006-08-03 15:50:47 · answer #6 · answered by Sara K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming your a girl (because a guy honestly wouldn't care), and your cousin is a guy, hence his asking your brother (who is his cousin) to serve as a groomsman (I'm guessing). You don't know the bride and she doesn't know you, so she's having her friends as her bridesmaids, understand? You shouldn't feel jealous, it's a very horrible emotion to have, and can really be destructive to both you and others. Be happy for your brother, and do something special for your cousin and his bride.
2006-07-29 00:24:15 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not easy for the bride and groom to pick out their wedding party without hurting someone's feelings. You are not the only who may feel jealous or put out. This is part of life...there will be other weddings. They can't please everyone...they had to make choices.
2006-07-29 13:46:48 · answer #8 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These days, in the era of entitlement and me, me, me-ism, it is definitely more of job and monetary expense than an honor. Don't sweat it.
Actually my sister stood up in cousin's wedding and didn't have a lot of say in things and she ended up having to wear an unflattering dress. But then again, so did my cousin(the bride).
2006-07-29 00:17:17 · answer #9 · answered by treday25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, be glad you don't have to be a part of bridezilla's dress picking and such and be there for your cousin no matter what.
2006-07-28 23:34:15 · answer #10 · answered by pixiebdg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋