People, I know this might not be the best place to ask a question BUT please help me. I been married for 12 years to a very nice woman we were very happy, but I meet someone else, then we starting an affair, my wife cought me and gave me a last chance, this was a year ago, then my father died in March 21, this girl send me an e-mail saying how sorry she was, and that she wanted to see me, I gave he a wrong cell number since she ask me number, then my wife saw those e-mails and she tought I was cheatting again, she dump me out of the house in April and since then I have been leaving in a small apartment, she file for divorce, I'm paying child support temporality while divorce is all done, I do not know what to do .... I even went to see a fortune teller, I'm paying 1000 dlls so she can help me, I know this might sound dtupid BUT i do not know what to do, we still have sex and go out I do not know what to do.......PLEASE HELP !
2006-07-28 15:16:13 · 9 answers · asked by John G 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Credit
First of all, STOP GOING TO THE FORTUNE TELLER. She will first ask from you a large sum of money (for example $5000) to save your marriage. However, she will tell you that she'll return it to you, which she will.
As you continue to go, she will ask for a larger sum of money (for example $50 000), and she will promise to return that as well. However, this time she will disappear with your money. (I read about this incident to one woman in the newspaper.)
Prove to your wife that the phone number which you gave that women is NOT your's. Get your wife to call that number to see who answers it. It may not even exist.
Once your wife knows that you did not give this woman your REAL phone number, she just might believe that you were trying to avoid this woman.
However, if you wrote back to this woman that you wanted her and loved her and if your wife read it then you have ALMOST no hope.
When you say you still have sex and go out, do you mean with your wife?? If yes then take her to the places you two used to go when you were dating. Make her think of the good times you two had. Make her want it. Talk about the good times. Look into her eyes when you talk to her during dinner. Look at her like you want her and be truthful about it.
When she yells at you and accuses you of being a cheater, DON'T deny it. Agree to it. Say, "Yes I did cheat on you before. I need your help. What should I do?"
Do NOT say, "Yes I had sex with her but she didn't mean anything to me. I don't love her. I love you." WRONG REPLY.
Be romantic. Women always love flowers. If you're having sex with your wife then think about her needs. Give her a massage.
Good luck.
2006-07-28 15:38:39 · answer #1 · answered by marky m 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It might sound very odd but from where I come from,the marriage is sacred and in it you have to sacrifice something and she has to sacrifice something. It is give and take. After 12 years of marriage you should have known better than to fool around. Kids are the ones to suffer. They will have scars for the rest of their lives.
My sympathies for the loss of your father. But saying sorry is not enough in situations like these. Its your wife who has to answer all the people expressing their condolences not the 'other one'.
I suggest that you keep your distance from her and try to reconcile with your wife. Going to a fortune teller is just plain stupid. I hope I have helped you. Take care and good luck!
2006-07-28 15:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by kuku 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the fortune teller is just taking your money..no need to go back..your already out of the house..you need to face that first to be able to move on..Now if you love your wife as much as you say you do, then quit talking about it and show her..You may have to take a few kicks, but keep at it ..most of the time it works..She needs to know she isn't going to be second anymore..And why do men always wait till it is to late, or cheat when they are supposed to be happy anyways?
2006-07-28 15:23:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just swallow your pride, do whatever it takes to win back her heart; treat her the same way you did when you first met her, sweep her off her feet with romantic gestures, and most importantly, be honest with her. Before you start all this, stay away from each other for a couple of days, don't call so that you can miss each other. The more you beg without bringing anything different to the table, the more you turn her off. So, prepare for the sweetest battle of your life
2006-07-28 15:32:31 · answer #4 · answered by dC4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple advice that I can give you. Life goes on regardless how hard everything seems to be. I will guarantee you that in a matter of time, you'll find happiness again. And that I will guarantee you my friend!!! Hang in there and Goodluck!!
2006-07-30 00:49:35 · answer #5 · answered by Wussupp!!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would break it off with your ex I would stop for the kids because if they found out it would send mixed messages. I'm not sure you could get help from yahoo answers.
2006-07-28 15:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by maxie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a fortune teller.....You need a very good therapist. I mean that sincerely.
2006-07-28 15:21:20 · answer #7 · answered by littleflower_57 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her get the divorce and live with the other woman
2006-07-28 15:22:19 · answer #8 · answered by Neil G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang in there take it as it comes and show her you really want her
2006-07-28 15:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by douglas w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋