can someone help me with my 2 yr old she's grown?

Question

i have no control over my 2 yr old going on 25. when i go to put her in timeout i feel i'm there instead of her she's screams at me like she's the mother do these kids act this way because of the breast milk should i stop breastfeeding her now since she's two my other 2 kids didn't act as bad as she do lol she's a monster

and she answers the phone and says mommy not here should she be on her on now

Answer 1

terrible terrible 2's!! omg I dont even know where my daughter learned to behave such ways when she went through them. Just have a really great sense of humour about it all. Laugh and understand their little phases and ALWAYS ALWAYS remember that you are molding another person in this society if she is behaving innappropriate it is your duty to set it right now not shake your head in shame when she is going through her teens. They learning boundries and right and wrong appropriate innappropriate. Dont always give in She will never always get her way in real life.Ummm? as far as the breastfeeding I dont think your milk has any special "Monster" juice in it. Each child is different. SHe may just be a little more rambucious than the others. Have fun with her learn new techniques the old ones might not work on her

Answer 2

She's crying out for discipline! Don't let her talk to you that way! If she screams at you, pop her mouth. She won't do it again. And if she does, pop her mouth again. She will get the picture. If you don't believe in that sort of discipline, you need to figure something else out that works because she is going to run all over you if you don't stop it NOW! I know this because I have a four year old that just started acting like she's 20 and I've had to put my foot down a LOT. I take away her priveleges. All of them if I have to. She had to lay in her bed from 7PM on until bedtime the other night. She hated that. Don't let her get away with a smart mouth. And breastfeeding doesn't make kids brats but at 2 years old she shouldn't be breast OR bottle feeding.

Answer 3

I don't think it has anything to do with breastfeeding....
breastfeeding is one of the best things you can do for the health of your child. though I think that at 2, it's time to start weaning her.

As far as discipline, I'm a firm believer in "spare the rod, spoil the child". she needs her rear-end popped a few times. and if timeout isn't working then start taking toys or privileges away.
I know when I was about three, i did something terrible and my mom took my favorite baby doll and put her in the top of the closet for 3 days...i was devestated, but don't you know, I never did anything that bad again.

but the most important thing is to be firm and be consistent. if you take away a toy because of her behavior and you say "You did _________ and it was wrong and now you can't play with this toy for 3 days, then don't cave in the next day and give it to her.
if you put her in time-out tell her she has to stay in timeout for 3 minutes AFTER she stops screaming. if she has been screaming, then DO NOT let her out of timeout. and if she gets quiet and then starts up again, then start the 3 minutes over.

Firm and consistent. You are the boss.

Answer 4

My two year old (three next month) is in about the same place. Does she nap? My 2yo has not 'napped' in over a year; but I have recently worked out this trick where I can get him to lie on the couch and watch a cartoon "quiet time" -never called nap time- while a timer runs- with the promise of reward after if he behaves. Probably one time out of 3 he falls asleep, and rarely does he get up before the timer dings. This helps a little. I'm also learning to pick my battles- my 4yo was so easy!! I am still having trouble adjusting to a kid who has an iron will!

I don't know your specific battles with your kid, but here are some solutions that work (sometimes) for us:

problem: begging for treats; response: popsicle (made from actual juice, not the kool-aid type)

problem: misbehavior with a toy (whether it's fighting over it, throwing it, whatever); solution: toy goes in a box (in the closet) for a while, usually he will tell me after a while, "Mom, I think I can be nice with my ____ now."

Problem: tantrum; solution: pick him up, under my arm so it cannot be mistaken for embrace, put him on his bed, then ignore until he is done. If he gets up still tanting (I'm sure that's not a word but I like the sound of it so I use it) I put him back again, and make sure to return to some other activity so he doesn't think I'm taking much notice.

Also- we try to give him tons of attention when he is being good so he doesn't think he has to be bad to get attention.

Of course, as I say, these work 'sometimes'....

Answer 5

I'm the father of 4 (two adults, one teen, and one 4yr. old) and if you have a husband, boyfriend, or male figure, he needs to step up. Women can discipline, but men are more suited for the task. If you don't have help, you can still be successful. My mother raised me alone and she too had 4 (including me) and she was strict and no nonsense. She warned you once, and the next time you were being punished (sometimes physically). If you don't have male partner to assist you, you have to become firm and true to your word. Warn her once, and punish her and immediately. Most mothers threaten and threaten and allow themselves to be pushed to their limit. Kids begin to know how far they can push-it's time to become unpredictable. Keep her off balance, she should never know what your next move is. Right now, she knows just how far to push you. She knows that eventually you'll give up. If it takes all you night, you show her that you're in charge and you won't give up.

Parents need to do the pushing. I have a step son who is 8. Last year he light a fire in the bathroom. After an extensive interrogation, and an admission of guilt (which is critical-he had to know that he wouldn't be let off the hook until I got a complete confession). Then he was forced to hold a phone book off and on for what was almost 30 minutes. To this day, he will not touch a lighter or a book of matches.

This type of punishment isn't appropriate for a 2 year old, but you have to make the situation like quick sand, the more you struggle, the worse it gets. The worse she acts, the deeper her punishment goes-and don't let up. If you put her in her room without television for 20 minutes, make it 20 minutes. If she continues to misbehave, increase the time. My favorite line is "We'll do this until I get tired" and if the child is holding a book, standing in a corner, or put to bed, it's virtually impossible for me to get tired.

Trust me, if you get firm now and don't relent, your parenting will become easier because she will know that you mean business. Right now, you're a joke to her. Show her how bad things can get and she'll wise up. It's less her and more you.

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Answer 6

I have a two year old too, timeouts aren't working for us either. There's a book called Love and Logic it helps us to help kids make good decisions. I used the ideas for a while and they worked, but then she got in to a new phase of hitting me. I have yet to learn how to deal with that one. This book puts parents in control in an interesting way and makes tantrums fun for parents. It really is a good book, as long as you practice the principles. And by the way... stop breastfeeding, she's using it against you for control.

Answer 7

OK breast milk does not make kids have bad behavior. I would set limits, stay calm, no screaming, and keep putting her on the time-out spot and not let her get up. she sounds strong-willed and will try to frustrate you to a point of giving up. once you do she wins, she then learns next time to do the same thing and act worse to get her way. I think loving and yet firm are the ways to go. discipline is something you do for your children NOT to your children. The will be better adults from consistency and discipline growing up.

Answer 8

Give your daughter a warning and then if she does the behavior again, put her in time out for 2 minutes. If she screams or cries, don't pay her any attention. She does it because your paying attention to her is a reward! At this age any attention (even negative) is their goal. We only give our daughter attention for good behavior and constantly remind her of that. She is 2 and, of course, has her bad moments but on the whole, she is a really good girl. You just have to show her that you are the boss, and teach her what types of behavior will get her attention and which ones won't. It will be really hard at first, but in the end, it will pay off.

Answer 9

my 9 yrs old do the same thing but she know that i don't play with her that i will put her in timeout and that i am the mother , u just need to show her that u are the mother and she is the child , if u don't when u get older she is going to do whatever she wants to do , u need her to stop now .

Answer 10

You need to discipline her! A pop on the butt goes a long way! There's nothing worse than seeing a child be the boss over the parent. I think it's probably a good time to start weaning her off the breast milk, too. She has already reaped the benefits from it & to continue to do it will probably hold her back.