Is this normal?

Question

My dad passed away in March, but i still think about him everyday. I feel like i'm not moving on if i still think about him everyday, sometimes i even cry myself to bed. By the way, i'm 16

Answer 1

Sweetie, your father was a big part of your life....he is and always will be. You thinking of him is perfectly normal. I am very sorry that you lost your dad, so young...go ahead and cry if you want too, it is a necessary part of grieving.

It is not a question of moving on...in time you will be "moving" on; however, your memories of your dad will always give you that "warm and fuzzy" feeling....embrace these feelings and keep your dad close in your heart.

God Bless you little one...remember your dad loved you very much and would want you to remember that. Don't be in a hurry to move on...take your time and move on when you believe that you are ready....much love to you....

Answer 2

I am so sorry for your loss. My Mom passed away 7 years ago and my Dad passed away 4 years ago. I am in my 40's, but the sense of loss is the same, no matter what your age is. You don't have to worry about moving on, that will happen naturally. You will still miss him, but you will also begin to think about all the great memories and wonderful times you had together. I have still had moments when I will think that I would like to call my parents, or visit them; just like I always did when they were here on Earth with me, and then in the next split second I think I can't do that! I do believe that they are in heaven and I will see them again there. Don't be hard on yourself, talk to your Mom and other family members or friends about it, they are dealing with their own loss also and you can all help each other. God bless you.

Answer 3

Oh boy you are so normal! You haven't had hardly any time at all to grieve and be upset over this loss. Take your time, it's usually pretty tough for the first year. Just know it's really hard and you're fine.
Cry all the time if you need to and don't care where you are or what you're doing. It's really healthy for you. Poor thing.
I understand as I lost my mom, it's a deep place that just kind of aches all the time, and believe it or not, it will get better after awhile, it's very normal to be really sad for a long time. Just do what you have to do to get thru it right now, within reason of course!

Answer 4

Completely normal. 16 is a rough age to lose someone so close to you and I think that several months is the very least that you should be feeling this way. i have heard that it takes about a year to move past this stage and that you should start to worry if it takes longer than that. However, if you are feeling depressed beyond what you think is appropriate - you may need a counselor to help you get through this.

Answer 5

Yes. It's completely normal. My mom passed away 24 years ago and I still think about her all the time. They it's normal for you not to feel like your same old self for a year after someone that close to you dies. If your mom is still alive, be happy about that.

Answer 6

!6 is a young age to to loose a parent. You are still missing him, thats normal, especially if it was from an accident, ect. Have you talked to your mum or auntie.? Try writing your dad a letter of what you are feeling right now. Make a copy of it, keeping the copy. Buy a couple helium ballons and fill them. Tie your letter to them and let it go up heaven-ward. Your dad wouldnt want you to grieve forever, so dedicate your lifr to helping mom, ect god bless ya hon, good luck

Answer 7

My dad passed away on March 3rd of this year, my sister died 3 years before in 2003 and my last living grandparent, my grandmother died in 2002. Hospice was helpful to me. Grieving is a personal process and you will go through it on your own timetable. Be kind to yourself and give yourself permission to grieve. Journaling your feelings can help you.

SURVIVOR'S BILL OF RIGHTS

I have the right to live my life "guilt free".

I have the right to feel my emotions, at the time they occur, as long as they do no infringe on the rights of others.

I have the right to peace, because I have suffered enough.

I have a right to the truth--not to "have my feelings shared" whether it be family or others involved.

I have the right to seek help for myself through whatever means necessary--psychiatric, support group, etc.

I have the right to talk about the death and circumstances around it, when necessary.

I have the right to feel devastated--because I am.

I have the right to feel angry--as long as that anger is not all consuming or harmful to myself or others.

I have the right to take the time to grieve.

I have the right to take the time to fully recover and heal.

I have the right to feel hopeful in future endeavors, although there may be "bleak" days ahead.

I have the right not to feel responsible for my loved one's death.

I have the right to go on.

I have the right to a new beginning in my life.

I have the right to love and be loved again.

I have the right TO BE!

-----FROM: The Ultimate Rejection, Sept. 1984 (printed in a hospice newsletter sent to me from Hospice after my sister died)

You will be okay.

Answer 8

We would be more worried if you didn't. It is as our parents say that time heals wounds and this is a big wound so it will take alot of time. If you feel depressed or are always sad then you should talk to a doctor otherwise it is just a normal part of grief. Please don't ever feel shame or embarrasement for your feelings to you Dad. There is nothing wrong. Remember him always with love and kindness.

Answer 9

Of course it's normal! You must allow yourself time to mourn. Time will ease the sharpness of the pain and loss you feel, but you will always miss him. You mustn't worry about the fact that you cry because you miss him. People cry when they are in pain and the loss of a loved onee (especially a parent) is really a biggie!

Answer 10

Yes, perfectly normal. My Dad passed away more than a few years ago when I was younger than you and I still find myself doing that sometimes. If you ever want to talk about it please feel free to message me back.