Guys can you help a girl out, please?

Question

I need some help. Just put your self in this guys place.
Your a guy thats been emailing a girl for a couple of months and then she asked

where is this going ?
or

where do you see me as, a friend or someone you would be interested in dating ?

What would you think about that and what would your reaction would be?

Answer 1

For me That would put the biggest smile on my face, cause seriously I wouldn't be emailing you just to be friends there would have to be an attraction there. And some interests, I would really hope for you to say that. If That's what you plan on doing, that's awesome,

Answer 2

I would totally flip out. Dude, that would catch me off guard. When you're talking to him, you should suggest that you like him. You know, the way you talk, whatever. Anyway, see how he takes it and if you feel he has the same feelings towards you. You should ask him, "Where is this going" in a casual conversation and make him tell you his emotions, but don't put him on trial or anything! See where that response takes you and how he handles it. If you can tell he's with holding info., he might like you and not be sure if you like him. Then, you could talk about dating. Oh, I forgot about you talking for 3 months. In that case, he probably likes you and this shouldn't be a problem, but I still believe my advice holds true.

Answer 3

You have no way of controlling the way he will take your question. It is, under the circumstances, a reasonable question to ask. I assume from your question that you are interested in cultivating a relationship with him. If you are, you might consider telling him that you would be interested in exploring the possibility of dating. I know it isn't the traditional way men and women behave, but it would be direct and, very likely, would get you an answer. If he is just shy, then you would take a lot of the pressure off of him. If he is interested in pursuing you, he would know from your telling him how you feel that the risks of embarrassment would be minimized because you are not likely to reject his advance. If you ask him "where is this going?", and he doesn't know how you feel, he may freak out.

Answer 4

My reaction would be totally dependent on my feelings.

If I was just chatting with you, I may be blindsided and shocked. But still glad you were forthcoming.

If I was into you, I'd be thrilled that you asked.

If I was on the fence, you'd have made me think about it.

I would go one better. Don't ask. Speak. Say something like "I'd like to go on a date with you."

That way, there is no mixed message.

Good luck!!

Answer 5

I think that would be a very reasonable question after a couple of months. He may only want you as a friend, but you certainly can ask after 2 months of e-mail.

Answer 6

if i have been emailing her for a couple of months, im pretty sure im interested. so why not go out with the guy? hopefully he's all that he says he is in these emails. good luck and dont be afraid to go for it.

Answer 7

i will seriously consider if i want to date u or not. i will think about how the consequences will prolly be.

there must be some reasons why this emailing thing goes on for couple of months and yet no dating, meetups (i reckon) happened?

Answer 8

Where is this going is a good question. Be direct and leave it open for him to respond without prompting various categories. You want to hear in his own words and ideas where he sees the relationship going. Give him time to think about it and respond.

Maybe, "where would you like this relationship to go" might be even better.

Answer 9

OH MY GOD this really happened to me!! there was this girl my friend was interested in. one day while he and i are at another friends house she calls Justin( that is the name of my friend that like her) and asks him if I'm there because she wanted thank me for getting something for her that she couldn't find. as mike and Justin played pool ( we ar rich ) she asks me if i like her. i was so surprised that i forgot to keep my voice down when i said "of course i like" Justin looks up at me and mike just stands around smiling. then i got a little nervous. then she asks me how i like as a friend a women or as a girlfriend ( she said that last part with a hint of anticipation in her voice yet it was still seductive) i was so taken aback than i shout out as a girlfriend. Justin beats the **** out of me mike laughs his *** off and me and her go ou for a long time before we break up. but i guess if this was in an e-mail i guess i would have more time to think out my responses.

Answer 10

Seems like a natural question that explores, or expresses interest in, a potential shift from a platonic to a romantic relationship.