It is a constant battle with our 6 yr old to get her sleep in her own room/bed at night. we read the books, have the night light. Any suggestions? She ends up sleeping with us after a long battle back & forth we end up giving in and let her sleep with us. We want our bed back and our sleep.
2006-07-28 14:52:34 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sounds like you guys created this problem for yourselves from the beginning. Which now has progressed to this stage. Your 6 year old is old enough to know she belongs in her own bed.
You may need to keep getting up making her get back in her own bed. It's called being consistent..Don't give into her. After all, you are the parents and she is the child. Begin to take toys away, free time, etc.
Unfortunately, you created this problem for yourselves by allowing her to sleep with you, when she was younger.
There's no need to put a TV in her room, especially bribing her to stay in her own bed and certainly way too darn old to be going to sleep with, for her to sleep in her own bed. What kind of mess is that? Again, you are the parent and she's the child. Besides she's way too old to be getting in the bed with her parents~
Parents if you have a newborn or toddler..get them to start sleeping in their own bed. That's what they have cribs and toodler beds for. If you don't they'll be 10 years old trying to sleep in the bed with their parents.
2006-08-01 15:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have had the same problem. It ended when my daughter turned 10.
I have some suggestions but I am not sure if they will work.
Leave a tv on low in her room, let her fall asleep in your living room with the tv on then go to your bedroom, reward her with things she really likes, give her a dollar every night she sleeps in her own room, leave a light on, leave her and your bedroom doors open. Maybe she is just really scared to sleep alone so these things might not work. I remember being really afraid to sleep alone when I was when I was a child. I grew out of it.
2006-07-28 15:04:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm.. I may be "the wuss mom" but...I had this problem with my daughter and in the end what I found worked was a cup of water next to her bed and putting her own tv in her room,the noise made her feel less alone and also the tv acted like a nightlight...a regular nightlight wasnt cuttin it..we would turn the volume down where you could almost not hear it,and told her dont go to sleep,just lay here and watch a movie....she felt like a big girl because she wasnt having to sleep...or so she thought,the dark room with just the light of the tv flickering put her out in minutes...this has worked and still does,she is 9 now and still has to have her tv on...and there is no yelling,no locking her out,no being the parent bully,some nights she picks out a dvd or something,but is still out in minutes! you may make bed time 15 minutes earlier to make sure she isnt stayin up later for a few nights,but hopefully in a few tries,this will work!good luck,I also have a friend whose son fell asleep with his radio on...super low volume,favorite cd and a few minutes,NIGHTY NIGHT!!....
2006-07-28 15:02:32 · answer #3 · answered by adc7492 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really have no suggestions, just wanted to let you know your not alone. I have three kids 9, 5 and 8 months. My two boys (the 9 and 5 yr olds) still come and climb in my bed. The baby can't get out of her crib yet. lol My 5 yr old has gotten so good at climbing in my bed that half the time I don't know he is there until I wake up. I guess patience is the key. Maybe someday we will get our beds back.
2006-07-28 14:59:17 · answer #4 · answered by mommyofthree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something she likes or something she really wants to do. Tell her if she sleeps in her own bed she will get this prize or do the thing she wants. If she sleeps in her own bed for a length of time she will win whatever she has chosen. Put a chart on the refrigerator door and keep track of every night. If she does not sleep in her bed even for one night, she does not get her prize.
2006-07-28 15:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by papricka w 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1: Lay down the law. Lovingly tell her that she is not allowed to come into your room any more at night time.
(allthough it might be exhausting, you MUST enforce it or it wont work)
Step 2: Once she wanders in to your room, gently carry her, or lead her back to her bed. NO TALKING! If she talks, ignore her completely (she will try desparately to get your attention!!). Then leave the room. She knows exactly what things will get your attention- just ignore them. (this is hard).
Step 3: She will probably make a fit over the matter for hours. Every time she gets out of bed (could be 100 times or more), GENTLY lead her back to her bed, without talking! Eventually, she will get the idea that YOU are in charge and holding firm! Don't get frustrated, or she will think she is breaking you!
In order for this to work, you have to commit to this for a while. It might take several days or even a week or more! It will work, as long as you stick to it.
My wife and I had the same problem with our son, who is constantly challenging EVERYTHING. This method worked for us!
2006-07-28 14:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that every time she comes in the bed with you, EVERY SINGLE TIME, that you cannot get to sleep. And when you cannot get sleep and daddy cannot get sleep, you get really cranky and angry. You don't want us angry do you? You are making mommy and daddy not be in love anymore because you are acting like a baby for not sleeping in your own room. We were thinking that if you keep doing this, mommy and daddy are going to sleep in separate rooms because you are making us not sleep together, to be together, which is causing mommy and daddy to have problems. Which would end up being no more mommy or daddy. Do you want to be the cause of mommy and daddy not loving each other anymore because of you?
Well kid, you are starting something. And then, you will be asking, 'Where's daddy?' and I will say, 'Well, remember when you were acting like a brat and would not sleep in your own bed and daddy and I were constantly fighting? It was because of you.
Do that. Let's see what happens.
2006-07-28 15:01:07 · answer #7 · answered by uchaboo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi fellow mom's...I have a 5 yr old boy & a 3 1/2 yr old boy & its a constant battle to make them sleep in their own beds as well...just keep puttin her back in her room & tell her that she has her room to sleep & mommy & daddy have their own room to sleep in...but u have keep puttin her back in her room everytime she gets up...she may throw a fit, but u have to be albe to handle her throwing a tempertantrum & screaming
2006-07-28 14:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by heavynz1976 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well become more forcefull. It seems parents are becomeing less forcull and a child just has to throw a tantrum to get his/her way. Put her in her bed if she comes to your room put her in her bed one more time if she does it again then put her in her bed and warn her if she comes out agian she'll sleep outside then lock your door as a deterent if she throws her tantrum put her outside for a few minutes make sure you can keep an eye on her and eventually she get the message that u r'nt playing and she'll sleep in her own bed
2006-07-28 14:56:33 · answer #9 · answered by millitary007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To put it plainly, you tell her that she's going to sleep in her own bed, and you mean it. There is no negotiating with a child. You are the parent and the child must follow your rules. End of story. You turn a deaf ear to the cries and the whines. She'll get over it, believe me.
2006-07-28 14:56:48 · answer #10 · answered by Taffi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋