How come everything my mom says seems to bug me?

Question

I love my mom, and I want a good relationship with her, but it seems like everything she says annoys me, why is that, and how can I make it not annoy me so that we can have a good relationship?

In case you are wondering, I am 18.

Answer 1

Because you know next to nothing and she knows most of everything............

Answer 2

How old are you? Most younger people don't always get along with their parents, and most hold something against them. When you are older, they become more like friends, than someone just constantly judging you and telling you what to do.

It's frustrating growing up with parents that are overly bossy, or hard to talk to, because they are judgemental, but then again, being a parent is REALLY hard.

I am 22, and my mother is probably my best friend now. I just got married, and now I have a husband and 2 step sons, that are 10 and 11. It's hard, its REALLY hard raising kids and handling new situations. Until you really jump into that, you'll never know. I never did, I know that for sure. I think that I do a very good job with my step sons, and my husband. There are times I don't really know what to say or what to do, but you follow your heart and eventually you'll get it right. I was really confused for a while, and talked to my mom and told her I just don't always know what I am doing. She let me in on a little secret. Parents don't always know what they are doing. . . . even if its not your first kid, it's always going to be living and learning.

It's hard to raise kids, she doesn't try to annoy you, and she definately doesn't try to hurt you. I am sure she just wants to do right, and tries her best with you. Just give it some time, and tell her wha tyou think. If she knows that you want to have a good relationship with her, it might help.

Katie

Answer 3

That's because you are always right and she is always wrong!

Jokes aside, I am guessing you are in early to mid teens?

Around that age, you start to have your own ideas. Around these age, your ideas are based on very limited experiences. Since it is the only idea you have (about the topic), without all the other information that only come with age and experience, you think your idea is the only one, right, and the best.

Your mother, on the other hand, have 20+ ahead of you, already know all other things that comes with your idea, and is already aware, which one works and which one doesn't. I am also guessing she is sharing her insights with you also.

Because from your prospective, where you think your idea is the best and the only right one, anyone who suggests alternative idea appear wrong and annoying.

This is a natural thing. If you didn't start having your own ideas, you REALLY need to worry about yourself.

The only thing I suggest is, just listen to her, and wait few minutes before you reply to her. Think about it. Try to see why yours is right and hers is wrong. You may just answer your own question.

Either way, she can't make you think anything in certain ways, you know...

You can then use her idea to develop the next most important skill - critical thinking. This is where you take a part an idea or ideas, and compare point to point, benefits and consequences.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Some people get annoyed when people aren't telling them what they want to hear. On the other hand , I have an annoying mother. Every ting will be just great and she will start stuff and blame me for things she misplaced as though I took them, like keys and glasses. Sometimes we do not speak for months after she hangs up on me. I put up with a lot. but some day when she is gone, you will wish she was here to annoy you. especially if she is getting on in years, you need to learn to ignore it and be the " bigger man".One day you Will be old an annoying too.

Answer 5

because you're 18 - and she's your mom. it may be because you and her are a lot alike - and the things that annoy you - bug you about yourself too. Someday you will get over this - and slap your forehead and ask yourself how you could be so trite - but for now - hang in there - try to imagine every day with her as your last - and she won't bug you as much.

Answer 6

Everyone goes through this at some point in their life. Just try and respect what she says and know that she is not trying to annoy you. You can also talk to her about the things she says that annoy you,

Answer 7

Talk to her. Let her know your thoughts. She will want to work through this with you. Let her know you love her and that you want to figure this out. The fact that you care about this says that you are on the right path towards having a strong relationship with her. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

I just read an article about a person with the same problem in the anne landers section of the paper today. Go to therapy, that's what they said.

Answer 9

Honestly its the same way with my mom and she is one of the best people on the earth in my life but she is always naggin at me to do stuff that i dont even need to be doing i am solvin my problem by moving out with my Boy. but it really depends on your age and if you are in school if your in school then just try to deal with it for a little bit longer and stick it out. i promise if i can do it for 7 years you can too.

Answer 10

I wonder if you're mad at her about something? Or are you a teenager? lol This may be the answer, it's normal if you are, been there, done that! Just realize if you're irritated with her about everything she says, it's your hormones and not her, so take it easy on her would ya!

Answer 11

your just at that time in your life were you want to be responsible for your self and your feelings and choices and everything your parents say will just get on your nervous....your just changing.....it will be like that until you move out then will be back to normal...there really isn't anything you can do except control what you say back to her and just bite your tongue...