2006-07-28 14:34:57 · 11 answers · asked by michelle e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him, there are better guys out there.
2006-07-28 14:37:47 · answer #1 · answered by JFra472449 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well let me start by saying that he does this because you have allowed him to. Having said that, you need to lay down the law and tell him exactly how you will and will not be spoken to in front of your children or not. You have to establish boundaries!! If he does not respect your boundaries then he does not respect you and you need not be with someone like that. What kind of message are you sending to your children by taking this abuse? If you have a son then he will learn that it is ok to treat women this way and if you have a daughter then she will learn that it is ok to be abused. Is that what you want for them? Of course not! Take control, take back your dignity, and be a role model to your kids - they need that. And you do not deserve to be treated this way so find your voice and speak up! Best to you!
2006-07-28 21:45:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
KNowing what you should do and doing it are going to be 2 different things for you. I have kids and I don't know what it is like to be talked to badly by my bf infront of them because I won't tolorate it. I have all girls and I don't want my girls accepting that type of behavior even with each other. This is about you and your kids and if he can't recognize what he's doing in front of them then you need to make some big decisions. It's also not good for you being a moom. You would stick up for your kids if someone spoke to them badly infront of you so don't allow someone no matter who it is to speak badly infront of them about you. Gather the stregnth and tell him NO you will not talk to me that way in front of my children!!! Start sticking up for YOU!!!
2006-07-28 21:43:08 · answer #3 · answered by favoritecolorsblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get rid of him.
If you don't your children will learn to do the same and will lose respect for you.
No one has the right to act like that in front of kids. In some states it's illegal for couples to confrontation in the presences of children, check onto it by calling your local Children Services Division and find out and then tell your crappy bf to chill out or get out if he's not going to respect you and your kids. If you're afraid because you live w/ him and it's his house. Don't be, a mother and her children will not be remove from the house .
Ask your family to talk to him and that he needs to learn that you have the moral support from them. You need to put some fear in this abuser.
You need to do something for the sake of your children otherwise you're as much fault as he .
PS If you have brothers tell them to take him out and beat some sense into him till he learns to appreciate you.
best of luck. it's the truth. 'nuff said!
2006-07-28 21:58:05 · answer #4 · answered by curious rudy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF THE BOYFRIEND!!! He shouldn't talk really bad to you at any time. You are worthy of respect! If he can't treat you right you don't need him. He's also teaching your children that you aren't worthy of respect and you're teaching them that he's right by putting up with it. And I'm not saying that you aren't worthy, it's just that that's the impression this will leave with your children over time.
2006-07-28 21:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him because your kids are witnesses of violence and after if you have boys, they will think it is ok talking in that way to a woman and if they are girls they will think men must talk to them in that way. Your kids will not respect you so leave him. You can be on your own, you don't need a man specially someone who uses emotional violence against you
2006-07-28 23:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
homegirl ,sounds like he don't respect you at all. what the hell girl, you never let a man put you down in front of YOUR kids !!! if he had something to say to you so bad he would pull you to another room,right? lose him look for a good male figure for your kids.
2006-07-28 21:44:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out of the relationship now! verbal abuse leads to physical abuse so get out NOW before things get worse. There is a great guy out there for you- who is going to also be great for your kids. The boyfriend you have now is not only bad for you but he is influencing your children. Good luck and God bless!
2006-07-28 21:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How sad for your kids to have to see their mommy get disrespected. For the sake of your children dump pig boy.
2006-07-28 21:39:31 · answer #9 · answered by Contesta 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the boyfriend.
2006-07-28 21:42:03 · answer #10 · answered by homeschoolmama 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋