gay and says..."honey i love you, i am just not in love with you!!!" now that would blow your mind!!!! now tell me would you think..."now i have to stay married...but somehow he grew out of love with me and is now gay....but i took those vows.."NO< NO< NO!!! you would divorce the gay guy!!!if you are straight!!! that's logical!!!
2006-07-28 14:19:58 · 5 answers · asked by sweet 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Other - Education
Yes, I would divorce. And I would be depressed because he wouldn't love me anymore the way he is supposed to.
So, what's your point?
2006-07-28 14:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by Offkey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would divorce the dude. He reneged on those vows that were made. There's no way to have a marriage. A marriage is a commitment, a covenant that includes love, which is an action. I believe that showing love in a marriage includes sex, I'm pretty sure that a gay dude wants sex with other dudes and not a female, and as a female I'd want my man to be with me, and ONLY me, no one else. Being a woman married to a gay guy is not much of a marriage, he turned out to be gay, I'd have to let him go, it would be painful, but there would be no way to connect any deeper besides friendship.
2006-07-28 21:32:40 · answer #2 · answered by tiniri11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd divorce him as much as it would hurt me. if ur talking about vows and all and u got married in a church and u don't want to divorce because of that then u should remember that in the bible homosexuality is not accepted. i'm sure he loves u and cares about u but he is not in love with u because since he is gay he can only fall in love with another man not a woman. thats just the way he is and u can't do anything about it, u can't change him. my friend is in a similar situation. she is best friends with this guy who is totally gay but she doesn't want to accept it because she is so in love with him. she wouldn't listen to others and now he came out and is in love with another guy. she is so hurt but it's like c'mon now everyone told her all along. point of the story is is that she didn't want to accept it and stuck around for so long and ended up falling in love with him more and more. now she is really hurt so my advice to u is to just let him go and just be friends because u don't want to fall in love with him any deeper or u will just be hurting more.
2006-07-28 21:29:35 · answer #3 · answered by chica™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a divorce. sorry. If he is gay and he told you he is not in love with you - you have lost him. Also get an HIV test. People can grow out of love! You took your vows seriously and he has changed - he obviously doesnt feel the same about them or you. leave him and move on!
2006-07-28 21:25:38 · answer #4 · answered by blueeyz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I'd divorce him.. even if it was just for breach of contract... I contracted to be with a heterosexual man, and he wasn't...
2006-07-28 21:26:16 · answer #5 · answered by blkrose65 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋