I've been dating this guy over the internet and we're engaged and all but lately we've been at each others throats....Wfter we found out that he had to get an operation we've had fights then we were lovey dovey then we get into another fight and lately its been like that and I'm scared cause this boy is my WHOLE world! I really don't wanna lose him he means everything to me! please anyone that has any advice please give it to me!
2006-07-28 14:15:11 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-07-28 14:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by Tommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool down girl. If this boy is your whole life, you have already gone wrong. That is no good especially with someone you just know from the internet. You only think you know him because there is no way you can know if anything he is saying is the truth. At least in person you can see the person and get a better judging You know nothing concrete or real about this guy.
No guy, I repeat for those way in the back NO GUY IS WORTH MAKING THEM YOUR WHOLE LIFE. Even when you marry making your husband your whole life is a mistake. Do not marry this boy Stop this engagement and get off the computer and get out in the real world and live a real life and find a real love.
2006-07-28 21:20:29 · answer #2 · answered by digimutt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would honestly sit down with your boyfriend...or call depending how far you are both located and have a heart to heart. See what he is thinking. It's great that you are so deeply in love but sometimes couples do fight. But to contiously fight? That means there is some tention there. Sit down and get it out in the open. Start out like "Look ever since you got your operation we have been fighting alot and I would really want to hear what you think about everything. A solid relationship is about open and honest communication no matter where you live or how you met. It is also a great foundation for a good marriage. Sit down and talk and see hold what the future holds. But you won't know unless you talk. Whatever happens best of luck.
2006-07-28 21:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by sweetcaraline_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all. how do you date over the internet??? Have you ever really met this person?? Second of all.. dont ever make another human being (unless its your kid) your whole world. Thats a common mistake. It all seems so nice and comfy now.. but in 10 years from now.. when you want to "be yourself" and not be his maid.. then.. you are pretty much stuck.. still having him on this pedestal.. and you are tired of it... its too late then. Third.. if you are having some problems... then work it out.. either for the good or bad of the relationship.. prior to getting married.. even if it means losing him. You might think being married to him will give you the "happily ever after " fairytale. However if you are having some issues now.. you will certainly have them then.
2006-07-28 21:29:16 · answer #4 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are hard enough to day, you need to be strong for yourself, Their is enough arguing and fighting amongst couples today to blow the world up without the aid of nuclear weapons.
Please don't lose YOU in the relationship,
You said that you are engaged, please think it over seriously before getting married, maybe if you two just took a break from one another for a short time, and see how you feel.maybe you could mend the relationship.
2006-07-28 21:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by brown.gloria@yahoo.com 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, NO MAN should be your Whole World. Thats your first problem. If you continue to worship your man--you will always end up being used and abused. Never love anyone, more than you love yourself. Be a strong woman. Never be afraid of losing a man, especially this jerk.
2006-07-28 21:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have been dating him over the internet ? Then you say your getting married.
I suggest a face to face and get to know the real him and he should get to know the real you. It is hard to fight over the phone and internet :) Remember it take two to fight, two to make up, two to make a baby and two to be happy in a relatlionship :)
So that is what I say, meet each other face to face and spend quality time with each other and who knows what it will bring :)
2006-07-28 21:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Word of advice from an old lady. Never make a man your world. Live for you. Being co-dependent is no way to live!
2006-07-28 21:24:53 · answer #8 · answered by L B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to visit him in his homeland and spend sometime with him
he needs to know that your there for him and physically he needs you TO SEE YOU
he just don't know how to tell you
so he is picking fights
he is just as afraid of losing you as you are of him
he don't want you to go through any pain dealing for when he goes in for the operation
so he is finding it easier to push you away
you need to tell him that your there for him no matter what the outcome
and that you will be waiting for him when the operations ends
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2006-07-28 21:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over the Internet, how stupid. there are singles clubs, some churches have single groups or take a course at a college at night.most people like to look at their choices.
2006-07-28 21:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by chapes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married if ur not 100% sure it's the perfect match fo u....cause it's FOREVER.....and u'll regret it for the rest of ur life.
2006-07-28 21:18:31 · answer #11 · answered by badhair92 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋