My older sister has been in prison for 2 years now. She will be released on August 1st. She was a drug addict and was stealing to support her habit. She has stole money along with DVD's, video games, and other things from us on 3 different occassions. The 1st time she stole we did not press charges as she entered drug rehab voluntarily. The 2nd time we pressed charges and she was in county jail for 7 months. She got out and she swore she was reformed and we allowed her back into our lives. She was on probation for her last crime when she stole our check book and cleaned out our bank account. We again pressed charges bringing about the current 2 year prison term. My husband and I have been taking care of her three children. She is coming home on the 1st and my husband says that he wants nothing to do with her. I don't want to forsake my sister because she had a problem, but at the same time I want to support my husbands decision. Does anyone have any advice?
2006-07-28 14:13:31 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
We have been deciding on moving away to a different town..She will not be allowed in our home any longer but I want to try to support her recovery if any..
2006-07-28 14:22:18 · update #1
My husband has been very supportive considering all she has done and he is still here. I could not ask for a better husband.
2006-07-28 14:23:49 · update #2
If this was her first offense, I'd say give her a second chance. But she stole from you 3 times: I think your husband has every right to be upset and not trust her. I wouldn't trust her either. Perhaps you can help get her settled somewhere nearby, but not be allowed in your home without you present. I understand you not wanting to turn your back on your sister, but I don't blame your husband at all. Your sister landed herself in this mess.... you're probably going to have to help her without her being in your home.
2006-07-28 14:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by Regularguy 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Husband vs. Sister Dilemma?
2014-12-19 02:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick with your husband, he has been supportive through all of this but enough is enough.
Get her set up in a place of her own, have her prove to you and your husband that she really has reformed.
Do you have legal custody of the kids? If so, set up a visitation schedule and meet away from your home.
I would limit contact until she has proven trustworthy. If after six months she has a job, a place and no problems then talk to your husband about reestablishing a relationship.
Your sister has done nothing but wreak havoc in your personal life, don't allow her to destroy your marriage.
2006-07-28 14:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by TMH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't ruin your marriage over this. Your sister has an illness that will affect your family.If your sister had the plague, you would put her somewhere to get help, but not your home.This is the same. Get custody. get a restraining order. your husband is correct. protect your family first..
2006-07-28 14:33:51 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your husband and sue for permanent custody of her children.
Unfortunately, your sister is a bad egg. She will not change, and her children deserve better than that.
And, you need to decide if you want to keep your marriage or your loser sister.
2006-07-28 14:18:40 · answer #5 · answered by frankiquilts 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can support your sister... by not allowing her to steal from your family again! Don't have her in or around your home, but deal with her somewhere else. Good luck.
2006-07-28 14:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not allow your sister to live with you, give her visitation time in a public place with her children, most likely she has not changed her ways in prison, and most likely will not in the next two years.try to maintain contact with her for her kids, but if things are going back to the same old,i'd cut her off completely.
2006-07-28 14:24:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get custody of the children. husband is right. you don't want her in your house. she will steel again. make her go to county and get help. make sure she get her act together and gets a job. if she want to see the kids let her meet you someplace. but not in your home. if she want the her kid back and raise them just make sure she has a steady job and a place of her own. you have to stand by your husband.
2006-07-28 15:04:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes but it was with my brother in law and and my husband they r brothers, and he stole from us, about 6,000 thousand dollars from us and like u we did not press charges, and then he stole a battery, and we let him back in our home trusting that he had let go of the drugs, but he had not and he stole my wedding set. so i have to agree with ur husband, he is right i don't think u should have anything do to with her because the reason he is in jail now is for attempted murder and he is in there for 25 years. My point is that the next time u let her back in ur life she may hurt one of u, not because she wanted to but because of the drugs!!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-28 14:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by baby girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many time a day do you go to this?
2017-02-04 03:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋