We have a mutual attraction between us - there is certain sexual chemistry. Should I have sex with her?
I cannot help staring at her...
2006-07-28 14:13:15 · 44 answers · asked by Me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do you have kids? Ask yourself whether a fling with this girl is worth losing your family. If the answer is yes, then your marraige is pretty much screwed anyway, so you have nothing to lose by banging the little tart.
On the other hand, if the answer is no, then don't be a moron.
2006-07-28 14:18:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm no...u must not really love your wife because that is very disrespectful! im not married but i do have a boyfriend and even in my case which is obviously not as serious as marriage there are times when maybe i might come along a person who i might think is attractive but thats all it is and i wouldnt actually go ahead and have sex with this person! i think that u should seriously rethink your marriage because if your sexual attraction to somebody else is greater than the love u have for your wife, then u two shouldnt be together and u should spare your wife by being truthful with her and not by having an affair behind her back and have her find out some other way...
2006-07-28 17:03:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO, you are married and I bet your hitting the mid life crisis :) Your gonna be ok, cherish your marriage and go home and give it to your wife that much more :)
Attraction is one thing, being married is you !
So create the chemistry with your wife. Stop and remember the way you both use to have sex without all the stress and worries :) Then make sweet passionate love to your wife :) Chick at work is a conflict of interest :) Sorry thumbs down from me
2006-07-28 14:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by young at heart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband cheated on me when I was nearly 6 months pregnant and it hurt like hell.... we (actually I) couldn't move past it and we are now separated.....
If your marriage is unhappy, then leave it... don't cause any unncessary hurt to your wife or this lady that you are finding attractive, as she will not want to be your mistress forever, she will want your commitment too.
I understand its very flattering when you've been with the same person for a long time and others start paying you attention..... when I got some outside attention when I was married, it was nice, but I never acted on it, and I had plenty of opportunity....
No one can tell you the answer to this question, you have to decide for yourself whats right for all concerned... good luck.
2006-07-28 20:49:00 · answer #4 · answered by dirtyminx82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've been in exactly the same situation - i am 24 and had a mutual attraction with a married guy in 40's. was difficult to resist - we could not stop staring at each other! however, nothing happened between us.... sometimes the fantasy can be more fun than the reality. keep it that way.
2006-07-29 12:43:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You are married, and you did not mention it, but you may have children. To say that one finds another sexually attractive, or "feels the chemistry" does not change the fact that adultery is wrong. And, it could cost you your marriage. Is it really worth one moment of foolishness to experience a life of regret (assuming you are in love with your wife)?
2006-07-28 14:20:42 · answer #6 · answered by Don H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look do you really think it is worth risking your marrage for a fling cause i doubt a 24 year old really want a long term relationship and what about your wife do you love her i geuss not if you prepared to hurt her like this.We all see people every day we are attracted to thats part of life you have to live wuth the choices you make, i bet your wife see's people every day she would fancy jumping into bed with but i bet she does'nt do it.
2006-07-28 21:28:02 · answer #7 · answered by sister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...what would your wife think?
put this way dude, and this is my honest opinion,
if u have never played the field in your life, if u were one those guys that didnt get laid when u was young, found your love and married her, then this 24 year old chick may be the fling u always deserved, but keep it on the qt u know.
but...if u were a player, and u screwed every living thing walking around in a skirt when u was young, then for gawd's sake! haven't u had enough? leave some for the rest of us please dude.
2006-07-28 14:18:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! Unless you want to destroy your marriage. And women will always find out if you have cheated . Are you prepared for a divorce and possible seperation from any children you have, not to mention loss of at least 50% of your assets? Stop thinking with your 3rd leg!!! If you do sleep with this girl you will regret it one way or another. Not to mention it would be terribly awkward it would be at work should things go badly. Haven't you ever heard its unwise to dip your nib in the office ink?????
2006-07-28 16:38:10 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's that bad with your wife that you want to screw around on her..just leave her. At least give the woman that much...doesn't she deserve at least to NOT have her head messed with? Ok so you are attracted to a 24 year old lady at work. People are physically attracted to people everyday..that doesn't mean you act on every tempation. I find my neighbor to be LUSHH but I'd not try to get some from him! Come on man...act like an adult.
2006-07-28 15:34:37 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋