how do you teach a young child to show respect to his parents and others?

Question

i cant decide which answer is best because most of them are equally good. i'll put to vote and let everyone else decide. thx guys

Answer 1

I'd say the best way is by role modeling. A young child is going to "act" the way they see their parents and other close family members behaving. An impression is permanently planted much sooner than "telling" someone "how to" act.

Answer 2

First of all , by being a good role model yourself.
Parenting is a difficult job, that many of us try to get right. so be careful that you don't get too strict. after all ,adults do not allways behave perfectly, especially if they are having a bad day.
Treat your children like people , not like semi-humans.that means speak to them and explain why life is easier and more pleasant if they learn social skills, instead of threatening etc. the reason many of us use threatening tactics( punishments) is because we
are scared of the situation being out of control.
Allways explain why they can or can't do or say certain things, and tell them the consequences, e.g it is mean to hit your friend or shout at him, because you will hurt his feelings , and he may not like to play with you anymore.
there are some good movies which reflect morals about respect and friendship etc, watch them with the child.
If you enjoy reading to your young child use books as well,as there are many out there specially designed for this.
lastly don't stop here, read up on these things from books or the net, if you don't allready. I have read many books as my children have grown and even though you may not agree with everything, you will have your mind opened up by other aspects,so that you are not just free-wheeling and/or relying solely on the way you have been brought up.
it is certainly worth the effort to get it right while the child is young, as you will have better communication once he/she is older, and they will have learnt valuable skills to get through life.

Answer 3

Ohh this is a hard one. But very do-able. My kids are 7 and 8. Both are pretty decent but only after I've harped on and on and on at them. Its like everything else you have to teach to kids. They just don't get it for ages but then one day they will. "Training" my pair took and takes lots of time and talking one on one about why its important to respect others and the consequences of not doing that. It really depends how old your little one(s) are as to how well they understand what you're telling them. Good luck xx

Answer 4

Its a tough one. But basically you just have to drum it in to them (not violence i mean keep going on and on and on at them)

My little boy is almost four and i have to say hes very well mannerd, but this is purely because i stand there and make him say his pleases and thanksyous, if he doesnt say please he doesnt gget, if he doesnt say thank you i keep on until he does.

I have to say the naughty spot works a treat, if hes naughty i warn him, if he continues to be anughty he gets another warning that he will go on it if he continues, if he continues then i just out him there for 3 min tell him why and walk away, when i go back he has to say sorry but also what hes sorry for.

I also find counting down from 5 works well, if i say right tv off now and he doesnt i just say im giving you til iv got to 1 to turn the tv off or mummy will do it and if mummy does it then theres no tv for the rest of the day. It works well and you can use it or aot of thing, also handy when you're out and about. Come here, he refuses, im giving you til i get to one or we will go back to the car, guarenteed hes by my side by 2!

The naughty spot i find works well when you're out with a small child still with a pushchair, he'd climb in and out and wonder about but if he ran off or was playing up id warn him that he'd be strapped in if he didnt stay by mummys side if he ignored me after 2nd warning hed be straight in and strpped in, ok he'd scream for a good minute and cry but once calm i could then reason with him and be back to normal.

Everything just takes time and you have to persevere. My son isnt an angel, he can be naughty but i know how to control him now.
Im not saying it works for everyone but its helped me.

Just persevere, and the end of the day kids will be kids.

Answer 5

If you are the parent, you start by setting firm limits on what is acceptable and is not acceptable. You also have consequences that you enforce if those limits are breached. Second of all, you lead by example. Your child will learn alot by watching the way you treat others. If you show disrespect for others and then try to tell your child not to, you are sending mixed signals.

Answer 6

Show your child love and respect and set a good example,it works for me-I have 2 boys age 5 and 2 yrs old and they are good polite caring kids-I hope they have learned it from me and my husband and how we deal with the world.

Answer 7

Try talking, persuading, if it doesn't work, get the belt. Just kidding, but a slap is sometimes necessary i'm afraid. Never done me any harm, and done me a lot of good. Discipline is what is missing in the society, but thats another topic.

Answer 8

lay down the law (and do it immeadiately) and don't budge and inch... if he wants to scream a shout about it, let him do it in his room (or where ever is safe to leave him... if out, on your knee facing out) where you don't have to put up with it, making it clear to him that you will not put up with that kind of behaviour. once the boundries are clear... he will be much happier and start to respect you more for it.
don't smack... if you get angry... then walk away for five minutes... he can wait.
don't appeal to his sense of reason, he won't understand you (the gentle tone of voice will affirm his actions if anything)... and will get really upset 'cos he won't understand why you get upset because he hasn't responded to the appeals.

Answer 9

I got a nanny who taught me to do that with her actions. I saw she was respectful to others so I learned from her. You waste your time trying to teach them to be respectful to others if you don't educate them with your example. I meant if they see you are rude, they will be the same way. Beating up is not solution because you won't have their respect, you will have their fear, they will be afraid from you but you will never have their respect.

Answer 10

By respecting the child, of course!! Lead by example.