Abusive Neighbour?

Question

I am a mum to a 14 y/o boy and one of my neighbours is severely abusive towards him and his friends. She says nothing to me or the other mums, just concentrates her abuse to the boys. Tonight my son came in in tears because she had called him an f****** little c***, now, I am extremely angry so I haven't knocked at her door to speak to her about it yet. To be honest I don't really know what to do. Do I report her to the police? I live in a housing association accomodation so do I report her to that? I'd be grateful for any advice you can give me. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

Report her to all of them. I'm sure you pay good money to live where you live and your kids shouldn't have to put up with that. Also speak to the other mothers in the neighborhood and see if she does it to their kids too, then all of you file a joint petition to have something done about her.

Answer 2

Call the police every time this woman is abusive to your son and his friends. The police will have to make up a report and these reports are to be sent to housing association. Next make a complaint to the housing association. Make sure you write down date and time police arrived at you home. If the housing has no reports from the police, then get out your dates and times you called the police. If you have a small tape recorder, have you son tape the neighbor. This won't hold up in court, but it will hold up with the housing association. Don't forget to get the policemans name, that way you can have him back you up on the calls.
Hope this will be of help to you. Good Luck!
Really sounds like something needs to be done.

Answer 3

Hmmm - well - he's 14 - What has he been doing to annoy your neighbour - you say she's abusive towards him "&" his friends - perhaps its the friends & he's just getting tared by the same brush..

Have a "Nice" word with her - find out whats really happening - if she says he's doing something - get her to record him - your little angel might not be such an angel..

On the other hand - he might be innocent - Just make sure you dont just believe one side or other - get a propper view...

And as for reporting - wait until its really necessary - so many people do it these days over nothing - talking usually works best - if it doesnt - tell both..

Have fun!

Answer 4

Report it to the housing association and if they don't warn her or if u don't notice any change in her behavior towards the children i would contact the police..

Or u can just approach her and let her know what ur gonna do to her if she keeps harrassing the children... Children have a right to be free of harrassment from an adult or any other children.

Tell her she's a grown woman and that she needs to find something better else to do w/her time..

Answer 5

Report her to the council, the police and the housing association. Tackle her directly and if that doesn't work punch her in the face, not very PC but some people will not conform to polite society and only understand physical action. At 14 your son should not cry at name calling, make sure that he does not antagonise her.

Answer 6

Firstly, I would make your Housing Association aware of the problem and then log every incident. This would come under Anti social behaviour and you or you son should not have to put up with this. I would have a word with the police as at many stations they have officers that specifically deal with Anti-social behaviour. Good luck I know what its like to have bad neighbours.

Answer 7

I would report her to housing and the police just so that it's on record. After that if she keeps doing it or if nothing is done about it and she keeps on abusing the boys I would have to take matters into my own hands. Maybe you and the other parents should try to get her removed out of the neighborhod.

Answer 8

GO OVER THERE AND KNOCK ( POUND) on ther door and tell her who you are and in no uncertain terms if she has an issue with your boy to come see you and you will take care of it.If she makes any more viscous overtones towards him you will deal with her using all lawful means neccasary.and then do it if she does it again.Call the cops because you feel she is threatening your son. This happened in Cincinnati a couple mo. ago and the offensive neighbor shot the boy. Don't let this happen to your son. Stick up for him and bust his a-- if it turns out he is pestering your neighbor

Answer 9

this seems to be your neighbours big issue and not yours. the first thing i would do is to talk to your boy and explain to him as an adult that when people are abusive to others, they are in actul fact abusing themselves and reflecting their own negative energy. when that is done, i am sure a degree of confidence will grow between you. if then the abuse continues to a point that warrants the police , then make a call. however if parents got together and gave a warning, i am sure this person will shut up.

Answer 10

I went to the mediation service and that has potential, but didn't work for me because my neighbour has the fashionable 'attitude' illness and she wants her son to have the same.
A gun turret in my garden is illegal, but that would be the ideal solution in my case.
I've been to their landlord (housing association/council) and it was a waste of my time. But I am a single man and you may benefit.
I've also been fobbed off by the noise nuisance department, who limit their help.
My answer has been to wait for it to stop, they have turned others against them and the woman who is at the heart of it, was once attractive but now looks horrible (honestly). There is that as consolation for me, I know that may sound cruel.

Answer 11

this is called anti social behaviour we are having problems with our neighbours and the council anti social behaviour team are on the case and also environmental services are too try this police wont do anything but they will give you and incident number when you report it that would be use full to you later should the case go to court
good luck i know how distressing a time you are going through