When I say excluded, his parents no longer claim him as a son, and they have four grown boys. This man took everyone's money in the family, used everyone to gain in business ventures, then after becoming a millionaire, just wrote everyone off. The most recent event that caused this was his treatment of my husband. We moved across the country for a business for him. Once here, the brother-in-law profited while cutting my husband out of the money along with his own father. The person most hurt by this is my husband and he wants to call him. I can't get him to do it, but he needs to so we can close that nasty chapter in our lives. He thinks by never speaking to him again is better than calling him and telling him how much he hurt everyone. He may not get sympathy from his brother, but that is not what it is about. It is about him getting closure on this raw deal. Any ideas for convincing my husband to do this? He has held out 4 years now.
2006-07-28 12:54:33 · 13 answers · asked by Smooch The Pooch 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
It's his decision to make, not yours. If your husband is content with just forgetting it, then let it go.
Generally, women are the ones who feel some need to confront and tell people what they think/feel. Generally, men are good with the pretend they don't exist anymore.
Leave it alone.
2006-07-28 12:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many times does this guy have to screw you/your husband over before you get the point. He is sh*t and you don't need that in your life.
If you have to get some type of closure - write him a letter. Do not under any circumstances let this person back into your life - he will only use you again.
2006-07-28 13:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by kpizura 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with crazed mommy. From what you are saying it is you that can't find closure.
If as you say your brother in law is a millionair now, anything you said to him could land you in court.
In my opinion, you should just let it go, and try to become in millionair yourself.
2006-07-28 13:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its been four years now. i think it time he calls him and lets him know just whats up. and how he feel. just so he can close this chapter. i know it probably killing him inside. so he shouldn't hold It any longer. don't have to let this person in your life anymore. calling with be easier he don't have to look at him. he is just talking to him. your bother-in-law, needs his a s s kick also. what comes around goes around. just take to your husband again. but you have to remember it really up to him. but i think it would be good for him to clear the air. good luck
2006-07-28 13:37:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should respect your husband's wishes, and let him handle this without feeling like he has to handle it your way to keep you from pressuring him. He won't get closure that way.
2006-07-28 13:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by © 2007. Sammy Z. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should push him on this issue. Let him handle it in his own way and his own time. If he is more comfortable simply cutting his brother out of his life for good, then you should abide by his wishes.
2006-07-28 13:00:14 · answer #6 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband doesn't want to talk, don't force him.
If he needs to have 'closure', try sending a letter.
2006-07-28 12:58:38 · answer #7 · answered by Becky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband should call him, let him know that he lost his family and that what goes around comes around...but, im sure that his brother knows that and he probably does not care..if he did, he would not have treated his family so badly
2006-07-28 13:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by bumblebee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not really suggestions to him but for u let it go he will talk tp him when he is ready he is really hurt by this but u can always sue
2006-07-28 13:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by heather f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let your attorney contact him with a lawsuit
2006-07-28 12:59:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋