Is this concidered abuse?

Question

My mother and I got into a struggle one day when she tried to force me into the car with her to go somewhere.I wanted to see my dad but she wouldn't let me.We fought for a long time and during that time,she bent my thumb backwards trying to get my to let go of the door and I called her a few dirty names because of what she said to me,She hit me in the back of the head about 3 times with her hand and grabbed me by pressure points on my neck.The next day she had bruises from where i kicked her trying to get away.Who was right? And Is this abuse?

Answer 1

Yes she abused you but you had no right to do what you did to her. So really you are both at fault. If you would do what she tells you to then that wouldnt happen.

Answer 2

Sounds like both of you could benefit from some family counseling. I'm not going to say who was right or wrong because I don't think you were able to describe the whole situation. I do not think she was right not letting you see your dad however, you better decide if you want to cry wolf to the authorities. It may get you taken away from everyone you know. I've seen it happen, a girl gets into a fight with her mom, calls the cops on her mom, mom goes to jail and the girl goes to a foster family. She didn't think that would happen and nothing has been the same in that household since.

Answer 3

this is definetly not healthy! you AND your mother need to learn some better communications skills. I don't know the circumstances and I didn't see what happend - but from the sound of it you BOTH were in the wrong. I know how hard it can be to have an adult conversation with your mother. Mom's can have a hard time hearing what their children are saying. I have a suggestion. Clear your mind, and write her a letter. Don't be whiny or mean in it. Tell her how you feel and why you got so 'out of control' that day. Admit you were wrong (because you do know that you were) and that will help her to take what you have to say seriously. By writing a letter, you can say what you need to say and she can't interupt you. Just be careful with your words. Good luck!!

Answer 4

I don't know how old you are , but i remember after moving out of the house my mother often refused me to talk or see my father.
It took many years to realize that she was jealous of our relationship.
I don't care what other people say. It does not matter how old you are no one has a right to lay a hand on you yes this was abuse.
My mother once tried to hit me after i even had a kid and was older then 20. i did and would again do just what you did. It was hard but I would not be abused any longer.
If you are young being involved with child welfare is not that bad. There their for you and I don't believe it would be that bad.
You will know what the right thing to do in time.
Keep safe and if you need to talk again then please feel free.
God bless

Answer 5

Neither of you were right ya'll were both wrong!!
you and your Mom let the situation get totally out of hand!!
Hitting never solves anything!!!
In that particular situation YOU should have let the situation calm down and then talk to your Mom.. I'm sure the events leading up to the confrontation were just as heated but were by words from both of you!!
Until you are the age of 18 and on your own it is your "Moms way or the Highway" so to speak and within reason!!
So to answer your question NO abuse and NO one was right!!
Good Luck!! Sweetie...

Answer 6

How old are you? It is not abuse if you do not have marks for over twenty four hours. I do not think that who was "right" is the issue. Your mother is the person in charge. If you want to do something it is best to wait until the situation calms down and if you go to her calmly and have a discussion you could probably get what you wanted. Why would she want you to have your way when you were beating on her, leaving bruises, and throwing a tantrum?

Answer 7

She was right, listen to your mother and quit being such a little punk, who do you think you are to get in to a phsycial altercation with your mother anyway? Tough beans you wanted to see your dad, thats for them to decide not you. If you ask me she should have kicked your butt to the next town! If you would just listen to her like you should it wouldn't have happened in the first place, a brat like you deserves to have his butt kicked. You need to realize you don't always know everything that is going on, especially between adults. If he is an abusive person and you delayed her getting away you could have gotten her killed! And trust me you may think you know the answer to that but you don't!

Answer 8

You didn't say how old you are. But it is mental and physical abuse on both of you. You both abused each other physically and mentally.

There is always two sides to every story, where or what is the other side of this story? Where was your dad during this time? You did say that you wanted to see your dad, but she wouldn't let you. So where is he at, are they together? You haven't told the whole story here yet.

Answer 9

lots of people who have been abused as little ones advance as much as be abusers. in case you're apprehensive approximately your parenting skills through fact of your previous trauma, you owe it to your self, your baby and your destiny little ones to get some counseling approximately your previous hurts and additionally on parenting. no longer comprehend-how the line between assisting and abuse is a topic. on the only hand, you do certainly no longer want to over-react out of anger, yet going to delicate additionally isn't the respond. possibly no longer for the "assisting up stairs situation", yet for different severe situations surrounding discipline that arise on a on a regular basis foundation, this in basic terms gets greater substantial and complicated as your baby grows, curiously such as you ought to apply greater coaching than what you will detect on Yahoo.solutions. For what it became nicely worth, the two my brother and particularly I have been abused as little ones. We the two have little ones and characteristic gotten help so as that we are able to stay CONSCIOUSLY and comprehend the thank you to handle our very own discomfort so as that our young ones have mothers and dads who won't UNCONSCIOUSLY fall into previous styles of abuse. Breaking the cycle starts with you as a verify. Get some help.

Answer 10

In order to give an opinion on who was right,Id have to know more of the story.As for whether abuse took place,the answer is yes.Verbal abuse and physical abuse (from both parties).You and your mother should seek counsel,whether it be seperate or family. Good Luck.

Answer 11

I believe it depends

1. How old you are.
2. Who landed the first blow

A parent has the right to prevent a child from harming themselves and to give out discipline when needed.

There is always the right to defend oneself from an attacker, usually the first one that throws the blow is the one that gets in trouble. That is considered assault.

You could always call the child protective office and report it they'll come out and check it out, that would be the best way to get revenge on your mother, or harm yourself in my opinion.