2006-07-28 12:48:47 · 26 answers · asked by think2day 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not a good idea, if you are thinking with your brain rather than your hormones or emotions -- which are often stronger, unfortunately....
1. It is a simple fact -- contraception or not, because all forms of protection have a failure rate -- that you risk pregnancy which will lead to abortion (killing your first conceived child -- not good), a child born out of wedlock (into a home without an intact mom / dad, not good), adoption of said child (very responsible and compassionate, but still not ideal way to bring your first-born into the world) or something like a forced marriage with someone you do not really know well so that the child is not born out of wedlock (can turn out OK, but not the ideal way to make a life-long partnership decision, and surely the child would suffer some in a not so stable situation).
2. You risk all sorts of diseases -- won't go into too much detail here... yuck
3. You risk diminishing the special connection and commitment that should come with this act the more you do it with different people or without a serious commitment like marriage... eventually sex will jusu not be as precious to you and you deaden yourself to the idea that our bodies are so valuable and meant to be protected and shared only with the most special person in your life....
4. It will complicate yor life, your relationship and bring fake "meaning" to the relationship b/c so much is now interpreted and expected out of what was just a physical act without the actual committment that should be there....
Good luck -- I hope you cna be strong and make the right decisions for you, taking all of these relaities into account and realizing that real life is not the sex-filled BS that you see on TV!
2006-07-28 12:57:51 · answer #1 · answered by Finnale 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well it depends i see it like this... anybody watch sex and the city? well charlotte never had sex with her first husband before marrying him, turns out he was impotent and she was unhappy and had to try counceling and at the end they divorced... now not that that show influences every part of my life but put it this way, you cant just have sex with just a guy youre dating since few, i would say a couple of months into the relationship yeah why not if you are an adult of course... if youre not they maybe its not a good idea yet... but if youre planning on marrying the guy it would be a would idea to do it in case if youre in a case like charlotte's, because if youre both engages basically means most likely you are into each other a lot and love each other, so at the end you're just testing before fully comitting to him
2006-07-28 20:06:47 · answer #2 · answered by twigounette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL THAT DEPENDS!! That sometimes can be hard! Or you guys planning on getting married, or is this a relationship going no where. Some people will want to find out what the other has to offer. On the other hand some people would like to wait. It depends primarily on you and what the both of you want. GOOD LUCK! Because in the end it won't matter what any of us think.
2006-07-28 19:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by bredambrs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably a good idea but on the other hand it will likely become addictive and lead to no marriage. Why buy a cow when milk is cheap.
2006-07-28 19:59:29 · answer #4 · answered by taurus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a good thing. I think many people make sex out to be something its not. For some people its a romantic thing but at the end of the day its a physical and biological thing. If you are old enough and you want to do it then just do it.
2006-07-28 19:50:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two seperate thoughts on this
1- Why buy the cow when the milk is free? (meaning the guy is less likely to marry you if he gets all the benefits of marriage without having to make that committment)
2- Why buy a pair of shoes without trying them on first? (meaning you might marry and find out it was the wrong thing if you didn't try it on first)
I think you should listen to what SAM said.
2006-07-28 19:54:48 · answer #6 · answered by arvecar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a good idea.
It sounds lovely to have sex for the first time on your wedding night but....
To be real...
You have to have a good sex life with your partner. Its part of the equation in a good relationship.
What if you hold off, then once you DO have sex you find you have no sexual chemistry.
At least, if you know beforehand you know what you're getting yourself into.
2006-07-28 19:51:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you buy a car without test driving it? So why would you decide to spend the rest of your life with someone and not know how sex was going to be for the rest of your life?
2006-07-28 19:52:05 · answer #8 · answered by scottie2h2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is actually a choice but isn't great that you will do it after marriage? because as for me,virginity of a woman a precious gift that you can give to your future husband... imagine,he would be the one to deflower you,it will make him feel like a superman..hheehehee.. which only means that you are only for him.. though you really can't assure that he still virgin but at least you are the last person he'll make love with.
2006-07-28 19:56:36 · answer #9 · answered by weakest Link! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have never driven a car before, you would not know the difference between a good one and a bad one. Sometimes ignorance is bliss!
2006-07-28 19:52:37 · answer #10 · answered by jimbobb1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋