How to get your 16 year old to stop cussing?

Question

My 16 year old son cusses when he thinks I can't hear him. But he is doing it in front of my 9 & 10 year olds.I am not a saint. I am sure a bad word or two has been said by me. But I don't do it in front of my children at home. I just can't get him to stop! And I am sure it goes on alot, when I am not home. Any advice out there?

It would be hard to spank him. he is 6 feet tall.

Answer 1

The chances of you being able to stop your 16 year old from swearing are slim to none unfortunately. It is a phase which probably all of your children will go through as they probably think it makes them sound tough. All you can do is remind the child that it's your house and you don't tolerate swearing. Another thing to do is try an tell him that the younger two look up to him and you need him to be a good role model for them. Find a way to make him more of a man without the swear words. If he continues to swear, then punishments may be in order. Allowance cuts, or grounding etc generally meant I didn't need telling again when I did something wrong. Also, let him know that he's not far off the age where he could be living on his own if he wants to live in that manner, and as soon as he realises how much the luxuries he has at your home cost, he'll probably make a valid attempt to respect your wishes.
Also make SURE you don't swear in front of your kids if you don't want them doing it, however I'm sure you know this already.

Answer 2

When just the two of you go out somewhere...preferably where his peers might be- embarass him by trying to use teenage lingo. When he gets irritated or beet red with embarrassment and begs you to stop (you may have to keep doing it), tell him this is what it is like to hear him cuss. But wait...this may not hit the mark completely with a 16 year old.
Use the cuss jar. For every word, a dollar goes in, if he doesnt have the dollar, deduct it from allowance for the following week. And of course, make sure the smaller kids see that the bad words are not appropriate and that there are repercussions for it. If they get small allowances, maybe make their penalty a nickel, dime, or a quarter. Worth a try! Plus, if the smaller kids are aware there is a penalty, the little angels will tell you ALL about what went on at home when you get there. Eventually, he will have to stop around the little ones.

Answer 3

You did not say why you have been round your ex female friend initially so Bryanna could not have identified that. You sound very immature as does your youngsters mother. Try looking a few episodes of supernanny. The youngsters are more youthful, however neither of you found out how one can mum or dad. Words do not do whatever, movements do! If she does not punish the habits ie. grounding, chores, and so forth. then do not anticipate whatever to difference. Next time get married first so you'll elevate your youngsters. Or bigger but wouldn't have anymore youngsters and be a well daddy to this one most effective. Good good fortune.

Answer 4

Put a locked cash box on the kitchen table, and make it a house rule that whenever anyone cusses, they have to pay a fine. Of course, if you or the younger kids slip up, you or they will have to pay up as well. that way it's fair, not personally about him, and he's more likely to cooperate. If he cusses in front of the younger kids, they'll probably be happy to enforce the fine. When the money in the box gets to be enough, use it for a family treat, or give it to a favorite charity, or whatever you all decide.

Answer 5

You continually tell him and his siblings that cursing is wrong. it's offensive and it shows how low-class a person is. You can't control what he does when he's not at home but in the home you're the boss. When he curses around you don't acknowledge him except to say calmly "there is to be no cursing in this house". Then you take away something like the computer, car keys, computer games etc. You have to be persistent because doing it once or twice means nothing to him. In the long-run you'll be doing your son a big favor.

Answer 6

make him get a part time job.
and at my employment, for kids cussing, we have a cup and each time one cusses they have to give a quarter ,
yes, it got filled up quick about 2 months straight till they stopped. and didnt want to spend the quarter for cussing,
maybe when you are home, have that cup and make him give a quarter each time.
by the time they are 16yr, they have learned quite a bit of cussing from friends, family and neighbors. so would be hard to stop cold turkey. or start with nickles or dimes if that is easier.
maybe when he thinks you cant hear say: and i heard that.

Answer 7

You need to get control back of this kid....You cuss as well so it doesn't help. You need to put your foot down and tell him if he feels the need to cuss, to cuss with his friends, not around any family members and NEVER around the little ones. Of course you would love for him to never cuss at all but that's never going to happen..give him limits...and if he does continue to cuss around the little ones then start taking things aways from him, ground him, slap his mouth.

Answer 8

I have a son that is over 6 feet tall and his height don't mean jack **** to me when it comes to showing him just who the boss is around here. He's knows better than to disrepect me in any way, shape or form. This is MY house and I set the rules and he knows it. He can talk anyway he wants in his house but don't try that in my house.

Answer 9

Tell him that he's going to use his own language in his own time around his own friends, and there's nothing you can do about it. But, as long as he is around his younger siblings, or, small children, or, especially you it's bad manners. Tell him it's really important that the kids don't pick up on it. And, tell him if he doesn't cut it out, he's telling you he doesn't respect you, and he's gotta go! Good Luck!

Answer 10

Check out who he hangs out with 99% of the time its his peers, and dont just stop after like one time keep up the interest and be involved in what he does.