Why get married?

Question

Marriage has been whittled down to nothing but a piece of paper in todays societies. It deals with property and nothing more.

Can we fix this? Or is it too late? Was marriage ever about love?

I'm not cynical about marriage, im pointing out a mere fact. If marriage was so sacred in these modern times then why is the divorce rate at 50%? I'm pointing out a serious problem. That is all.

I'm also a 22 year old virgin holding out for marriage. I'm Catholic and maybe not the best catholic ever, I do have morals and try to do the best I can everyday. So don't judge me based on my question. Thanks.

Answer 1

When it's done right friend, it's all about love. Not property or just having a piece of paper. Today though, your right, just like everything that used to be wholesome and beautiful....it has changed into something that doesn't hold anything more than a pre-nup. What a shame huh? For many though, it still is that exciting and wholesome experience. The union of two people who have found each other, committed to each other, and have decided to marry each other. I hope you find that someday, but, do it right and don't cheapen it by rushing ahead into things that only belong to those who are married. Many don't like to hear that. That's why marriage is what it is today AND why it lasts as long as it does today. Over 50% divorce rate in the U.S.A.

Answer 2

I ask that question all the time to myself...I'm still single. And no marriage was NEVER about love....pls look at history. Women from ever culture and period of time has always been traded like cattle either for the betterment of the family or the betterment of the husbands family. It was a business contract and if love came about after wards more power to them.

I don't agree with the women not having a choice or say in who they were to be married too, but I do agree with looking at a marriage as a business contract. I think if you look at that way I think it would be longer lasting because the heart isn't involved and it would lead to alot less drama and divorce.

Answer 3

Why get married?
For both legal and reasons and love
Historically marriage was ALL about property and marriage was often arranged and often was done to secure lands and property by the bride and grooms families.

We have evolved in what we view marriage to be.So why should there be limits to it and why should it be anything more then to protect the love of two people and make them whole in the eyes of the governments that grant them their legalization of marriage.Religions can also do their version of marriage.But since I am gay I don't think I will try to go through a church unless it is gay friendly.

Answer 4

Maybe to the rest of the world, but Jehovah's Witnesses hold marriage in high regards as it was instituted by God himself. It's sacred and should be maintained that way and the marriage arrangement should contain God to hold it together without defilement. Marriage should not be taken lightly, it is a life long commitment to a unity of love and as an arrangement for the benefit of the family.

Answer 5

I got married because of the people around. My parents, his parents and our friends think it is wrong in the eyes of God to not get married when having children or when living together. Having sex when not married, wrong wrong. Personally, I agree with what you said. The marriage thing is nothing but a piece of paper, nothing more. I woudn't have gotten married if the people around weren't mocking on how very wrong and how very sinful it is to just have me and my boyfriend to live together and have baby together without marriage. I dont think we can ever fix this. I think it's too late. Some marriages are about love.

Answer 6

Marriage shows that you have both commited to make the marriage work. Yes the peice of paper still means something to me. Been married longer than I was ever single and would not want to be single in todays world at all. They have made divorce to easy. Its too easy now to give up and find somebody else than it is to try to stay together and try to fix it.

Answer 7

Yes it is. It must be great to come home and have someone waiting for you everyday. Then you can start a Family yes there will be problems always is I just think our society has become too concerned with what feels good than things that matter. Most of the problems we experience today crime rate, lack of respect. Intolerence. I think stem from the failure of the modern marrage.

Answer 8

I've been asked this, before I got married. And I told them, because To me, It's showing your partner how much you feel for someone, that you would bound yourself to thier side, forever... As creepy as that sounds, If you truly love the person, and are connected to them , it won't be any different then when you were just living/dating with ther person. I have always found marriage to be about love, and thats what I did, was marry for love. I Don't care about the paper, All I care is that I know That we are bound to love and care for each other.

Answer 9

I think marriage is companion (i dont know if its the right word) .. i mean like a friend.

If you have someone that you share a lot of good moments, if you love her, if she is a good friend for lots of good and bad moments, if you enjoy talking to her.. if when you think of something that you would love to do.. and in the next moment you think: "Who would go with me there?" and you also think of her... i would say that this is someone you would be happy, if married with.

Of course there are bad moments, things that you disagree, things that you dont like.. and so on.. but .. its part of life.. and everyone has that...

So.. i think one should marriage other.. if they like each other very much, and always want to be together.

Thanks !

Answer 10

I'm 18 so i think our parents ruined marriage for us. That's pretty much when divorce sky rocketed. I think though that maybe for some of us because we had to go through our parents being separated or divorced that it made us hate it and hopefully it wont continue