i have been dating a woman for 3 months now. a couple weeks ago she ran into someone she dated years ago and had not seen in a while. i called her one evening and found that she had gone to the movies with this guy. i told her i had a problem with it. she did not feel it was a big deal. she said she was just get reacquainted with an old friend. is this a problem or am i just obsessing over nothing?
2006-07-28 11:45:33 · 12 answers · asked by rjleclerc 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
dude we do that. get over it. i mean u break up with a dude and u don't see him for like 5 years and all of a sudden you run into him at the super market, we are currious and wanna see how he has been and tell him that we have sooooo moved on....its a girls nature
2006-07-28 11:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well three months in a relationship is enough time for you to have a right to be mad (even more if you've had sex). I'm a girl and based on what I know she could either be telling the truth or she is still interested in that man!! Me I personally do NOT hang out men I used to go out with EXPECIALLY if I have a man!! Thats so disrespectful to the person you are with @ that time. It makes the ex think you are not serious with your partner and leaves the possibility of that ex making a move on you. You know how men are and how they think!! I don't know but if she thinks that that is normal then don't be surprised but it will happen again. Some girls think differently than others.... I don't think it sounds like you both are on the same page as far as how to act in a relationship. Pay attention to these small things because they will be the end of your relationship. You need to tell her how you feel...if she don't like it than whatever. Other woman will understand and would never do anything to disrespect their boyfriend or the relationship period. Good luck, remember girls are more like men than you think. Sometimes better and slicker @ the game unfortunatly :(
2006-07-28 19:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Amber 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah, I don't think your obsessing. You have the right to feel the way you were feeling when you found out about it. So, I agree with 'Sweettoni37'. She should've at least called you to tell you she was going somewhere with one of her ex's. I would've felt the same if it would have happened to me. But also, you do have to trust her as well, because she could have just wanted to hang out & just catch up with an old friend. Plus, if you know her well enough, & know that she doesn't fool around with other people while she's in a relationship, then, you have nothing to worry about. It just all depends on what she's like & who she is.
2006-07-28 18:58:42 · answer #3 · answered by Donna H. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, so you've been with this woman for 3 months? Have you solidified your relationship? Meaning, have you made it clear to her that you only want to be with her? That you want an exclusive relationship?
Then again, even if you have, you don't really have a claim over her after only 3 months. She shouldn't have to call you and ask permission to visit with an old friend.....
Would she get mad at you if you met up with an old female "friend"? Pose that question to her, maybe she can better see your position??? Good luck!!
2006-07-28 18:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is NOTwhat we DO! Im sorry but she still likes him and went out on a DATE with him buddy. You have the right to be upset. But its a good thing its only been 3 months, you could just leave. Infact, why dont you tell her that youre going to go have dinner with an EX see how she feels. I bet she would have been mad. Shes stupid. She act like youre overreacting, when she knows damn well what she did. Tell her that since it is okay to hang out with ex's or other guys, you will be hanging out with other girls too. And just act like its really nothing and do it. See what she says. IF she gets upset and says its different, tell her " how is it different, you hung out with a guy, who happen to be an Ex, which is worse! How is that different?"
2006-07-28 19:13:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have every reason to feel the way you do. But know this She's FARE GAME. She is not married to you, so She is free to do whatever she wishes, Same for you. Everybody Plays the fool sometime it's NO exception to the RULE, TELL YA WHAT STOP WEARING YOUR HEART ON YOUR SLEEVE AND YOU FIND/START GOING OUT WITH SOMEONE ELSE, AND IF FOR SOME REASON SHE GETS UPSET, THEN YOU TELL HER THE SAME THING SHE TOLD YOU. I PROMISE SHE WANT LIKE IT. Free Spirited People Act this way, But when you really care for the other persons feelings you want be this way. TAKE CARE
2006-07-28 18:51:26 · answer #6 · answered by sweettoni37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women have no problem being friends with guys weve dated before, we'll still be friendly, doesnt mean a thing, unless she doesnt come home after one of these friendly visits, then you should be worried, but if she told you where she went, or didnt try to deny it, you should be fine! dont stress about a little thing like that hun. good luck and i wish you guys a lifetime of happiness!
2006-07-28 18:55:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just obsessing over nothing. You have to trust her that she is just trying to hang out with an old friend.
2006-07-28 18:55:25 · answer #8 · answered by banana_splitt00 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you have some sort of committed relationship...then you have no business expecting anything exclusive. You aren't married...you aren't engaged....you're dating...
She went to the movies...get over it. Even if she did more than that...do you have an exclusive relationship?
2006-07-28 18:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't at least mention to you she was going to the movies with him then there is a problem. Dishonesty for one.
2006-07-28 18:48:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋