Should i initiate contact or forget about this woman?

Question

I am a lesbian female totally infatuated with a woman that works in the same building as i do. she is beautiful and stunning. one day some time ago we had eye contact and i felt something. and i can;t let go of that moment and the romantic fantasies have started. this is not usual for me. I have never had a conversation with this woman but i asked a friend about her and i found out she lives with a boyfriend. I usually don;t take an interest in straight women or women living straight lives but i can;t let go of my thought of this woman. i am not obsessed just very intrigued by that feeling i felt when we had eye contact. Should i let it go and move on or should i atleast try to initiate a conversation with this woman just to introduce myself and see what happens ?? I myself was once a young woman living a straight life.

Answer 1

let it go. don't break up someone else's home.

Answer 2

There's nothing you can do about it without risking her totally rejecting you and deliberately avoiding you after your initial approach if she's reviled by your offer. The risk is up to you. How you go about it is left to your "style" of that sort of thing. You shouldn't impose yourself on her, just as any other man shouldn't do that either. If a man felt that same attraction, and he found out she was living with someone, more than likely, he would slightly stalk her to see just how devoted she is to the man she's living with, after all, she's not married. Most repsectable men would respect her and her relationship. Most adults would accept the action as an effort that was just unsuccessful and move on with their lives. With same-sex attempts though, you yourself know, I'm sure, just how volatile that situation can be. I'd weigh it very carefully before you approach her. Some women would freak out and report the incident as sexual harrassment, even quicker than they would with a man. I personally would graciously decline any offer of that nature and expect that woman to respect my choice and be able to have a continuing professional relationship afterward, with no recriminations from either party.

On the other hand, if she's intrigued, then there you go. Just don't push her. That's my opinion. I hope this helped you. Good luck!

Answer 3

there is no harm in starting a conversation and maybe start a friendship. bear in mind tho, she is straight and may not have felt or feel the same way. only by talking to her will you know for sure if you should persue this the way you want to.

in my opinion, i doubt it will turn romantic. but at least you'll gain a friend.

Answer 4

Life's too short, Lil Sister - go for it!! Look at the anquish you're going through by doing nothing! That should be a sign that you need to do something - so why not go up to her and say hey!

The worst that can happen is she shuts you down and you'll move on.

Don't think about it, just do it!!

Good Luck!!

Aloha!

Answer 5

If you are that into her, you should talk to her and get to know her better. However, you should keep in mind that she is living w/her boyfriend and may not be into you.

Answer 6

u can talk to her if u want to, but think about the long run. if in the end she is still straight, ur hopes would be crushed and u'd feel pretty low. if she does change her orientation, congratulaltions. but i think it would be safer to ache now and forget about it once and for all.

Answer 7

I'd say let it go too. She has a boyfriend. Sounds like your obsessing.

Answer 8

I guess it doesn't hurt to initiate a conversation with her. Maybe you will find out then why you are so fascinated by her.Or maybe your fantasies will finish. Try it and find out.

Answer 9

i think you should forget about it! she has a boyfriend! and you should never get inbetween someone elses relationship.

Answer 10

If she has a boyfriend, it's not your place to interfere.