My older sister was diagnosed with depression about 2 years ago and ever since then i feel like she's been getting away with things, like not doing her share of the work, taking the car (OURS)without promission exct., and whenver i talk to my parents they get upset and tell me that she has a problem. Not to metion it puts a ton of pressure on me to be perfect! What should i do? is this wrong to be mad at her?
2006-07-28 11:20:56 · 21 answers · asked by *only~wishful~thinking* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know my parents are doing what they can.......and she does take meds
2006-07-28 11:25:40 · update #1
it's only natural to get upset and feel a little left out. She might not even realize what she is doing ... try talking to HER . Avoide saying things like youalways i never get too. try telling her things you think you need to work on first, then things you feel left out about. And most of all be sure to start off telling her how much you love her. And don't mention the illness at all, not only will it reminder her it will give her a hard out.
2006-07-28 11:24:07 · answer #1 · answered by F.Duke 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
It's absolutely not wrong for you to be mad...but, knowing your sister has a "problem" should open the door for you to have some help as well...if you don't want to ask your parents, ask your guidance counselor at school for info re: counseling being a sibling of a sister w/ depression. There s/b services out there for you. This counseling should offer you suggestions on "outlets" for your fustrations. If you don't deal w/ your fustrations, you'll end up having "problems" too. Your parents no doubt probably are having stresses dealing w/ her too making the whole family walking on "egg shells"...I am sorry life is difficult for you. I understand. I have 5 children. 2 are bipolar, 1 is a heroin addict.
I wish you the best. 1 thing to look for might be "family intervention services", .....they have case workers that come out and help the families w/ members of depression ...
2006-07-28 11:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by diane b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel about the chores! My sister once did a hand stand and fell and pretended to get hurt! Then 10 minutes after that her friend came over and they both played a video game(with her hands) and my sister won. After that my dad comes in and tells ME to do like 10 different chores and then my sister complains about her hand and says I don't think I can do it with one hand so he made me do it! But back to your question. Well this is a hard decision I mean It's not you sisters fault, but your parents should understand that you need to talk about it. Make your parents sit down with you and let you talk without being interrupted, and no you shouldn't put soo much pressure on your self because nobody is perfect other than God, and if you can rely on him pray for him to send you an angel to help you so good luck.
2006-07-28 11:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by messjess5816 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No honey you have every rigth to be. I don't know how you can fix it. I was the same way when I was younger, I played the bi-polar thing when I needed too. Sorry to say but I did. I am sure your sister is too but your parents are worried about her with good reason so there isn't alot you can co about it. Just keep telling them about your poblems with her. If hse is on her meds she should be evened out inb a month so she can't use it forever. Unless the meds don't work which may happen they may need to give her different ones. Good luck and sorry you have to suffer with her.
2006-07-28 11:25:39 · answer #4 · answered by Kookie M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it's wrong to be angry but it's going to eat at you. When I was growing up my brother was very bad. I mean really bad causing my parents grief beyong belief. This made it hard on everyone because just like you I felt I had to be perfect to make up for my brother. It's very stressful trying to be perfect all the time, because no one can ever reach perfection. We were not meant to be perfect. It was only a couple of years ago that I finally talked to a psychologist, which I recommend because they are honest with you. a non-bias party to tell you the truth. It worked for me, maybe it can work for you too becuase my parents like yours did not want to hear my story either.
2006-07-28 11:27:31 · answer #5 · answered by what do you think? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong to be mad bu should really do some research on depression and you can see how much pain it causes emotionally and physically. Just try to keep your head up. Or maybe you can sit down and have a nice firm conversation with them and tell them how you feel.
~Rickeisha
2006-07-28 11:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by Rickeisha AKA Keisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have dealt with depression and panic attacks for a while now and it doesn't mean that I get to do what ever I want. It's not fair that your parents are treating you badly. Maybe you should talk with your parents about going to family therapy.
2006-07-28 11:26:26 · answer #7 · answered by candis h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you're upset. I'm not sure there's anything you can do, because it seems as though your parents are spoiling her b/c they feel guilty about her illness. I'm assuming your sister sees a therapist? Maybe you can find out if all of you guys can have a family therapy session, and you can air your grievances.
2006-07-28 11:30:40 · answer #8 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry hun. That is your lot in life. Oftentimes life can be unfair and at this point in your life you are experiencing grief, the youngest always suffers the most and it almost always goes unnoticed
2006-07-28 11:26:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know but the no succh thing as depression its bs its all in your head you just think that way. act how ever you want and talk to your parents and tell them your feelings and thoughts.
2006-07-28 11:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋