Now come on kids, no body knows who we are on here - it is going to be like Group Therapy - just cheaper !
Personally for me, I am happy go lucky around 95% of the people i meet, however when i meet someone that i like i become very nervous and almost lost for words. This is a real problem for me as i have a job where i meet loads of people on a daily basis. and there can be quite a few people that you have that certain spark with. You are just powerless to do anything about it !.
Dont get me wrong i am not a reclusive, I have hobbies and intrests that take up a lot of my time. however there are times that being single sucks and days like this are one of them.
Be honest kids, as i said nobody knows who we really are on here.
If some of you want to take the piss then so be it, grow up and get a life yourself.
2006-07-28 11:20:02 · 14 answers · asked by Ross B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
*stands up* I'm Sinnedfairy and i AM single...
lol sorry though i was at an AA meeting then!
i'm single as whenever someone shows a remote bit of interest in me i convince them they don't like me or find me attractive.... and i am pretty darn good at it!
i am too scared to let anyone else in and end up hurt again, especially now i have kid to think about too...
and having a kid has made me less confident and feel less attractive (though i didn't feel it before anyway) due to my stomach being covered in stretchmarks and everything being of a different size and shape....
had too many knocks to my self esteem and my heart....
so there you go, everyone feel free to take the piss out of me too
but hey thanks for the question, gave me a chance to let out some stuff!!
and here's hoping we all get through it and you're next question will be, isn't it fab being in a couple?
:)
2006-07-28 11:42:06 · answer #1 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is an issue of self respect and self worth. We tend to "curl up" ,if you will, because we are afriad what people will think of us. We happy most of the time, espacially with those few who actually become close to you. The only to get out of this rut, is to make yourself more confident. Confidence can be gained in different ways, but the only true way to become more confident is to believ in yourself. Don't look over your shoulder at that girl sitting in the corner thinking "she would never like a guy like me". Instead, tell yourself to go over and at least try. Even if you fail, at least you won't be kicking yourself later. This is also the only way you will get feedback as well. By learning through ecperience, you can eliminate what is good for you and what is not.
2006-07-28 11:29:00 · answer #2 · answered by lonely_wolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to think that i would be single for the rest of my life! I thought that i would never have a date for the prom or ever get married! You just have to have confidence and put yourself out there! I'm not the prettiest person in the world and i have a slip personality! I used to think that no one wants to date a prep/goth chick, but i was totally wrong! Now i find myself in some on the best relationships that a person could ask for! Just go out and be social...there might be someone right under your nose, thats waiting for you to make a move! Don't be shy and just be yourself....you'll find the perfect mate !
2006-07-28 11:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by nagas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not single anymore but i was single from about 2000 - 2004 with short term relationships in between. reason?.. finding your long term companion is NOT easy nor should it be. Before people begin lamenting their sad lives (not saying u are doing that) its important to recognise that just as we have been rejected we too have ALL done our fair share of rejecting. Its life.remember that the time you spend as a single person (dating losers for want of a better word ha ha) helps you to fully define what u are looking for in a long term relationship. Acknowledge that there are GENUINE pros and cons to being single (e.g. i love my partner and baby but i cant drop everything and go out with the girls when i want, or go travelling when i want like i used to).
so dont feel glum keep yo head up andgood luck!
2006-07-28 11:32:45 · answer #4 · answered by Chimera's Song 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people are more comfortable meeting others as part of a group - like church, Sierra Club or something. If you have a common interest (bowling league or whatever) you automatically have something to talk about that isn't "are you attracted to me?"
2006-07-28 11:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Catspaw 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know why i'm single, i have fun when i'm out but i guess no one wants me at the moment. Being single kinda sucks, especially when all those around you have that special someone.
Its annoying at times, but i try not to let it get me down.
2006-07-28 13:46:58 · answer #6 · answered by Chappers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coz I have been too shy to speak to girls, coz I have moved too slow or too fast, coz of I what I did or didn't do. Coz I have failed to truly socialise and let people know me when I went out. At the end of the day - it's coz I have failed to cease the moment.
But that was the old Me.
2006-07-29 08:45:41 · answer #7 · answered by omoatayo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally for me i have only been single for about 4 weeks so its not that much of a problem at the min.
i think theres someone 4 everyone you just haven't met them yet.
2006-07-28 11:35:58 · answer #8 · answered by Donna D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think we are, because nobody's interested in us, or nobody who is, wants commitment. In my case, though, most the women who hang out are younger than 21.
2006-07-28 11:23:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r the one who needs to grow up bc those r just feeling we go thru when we meet new ppl so just deal with it n learn to talk to them
2006-07-28 11:26:21 · answer #10 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋