my husband has had a few siezures b4 he deployed a few months ago & we didnt tell anyone, what should we do?

Question

he is deployed right now overseas and before he deployed he had a siezure a month b4 he deployed and then a couple spread out over the last year and he loves being apart of the army and doesnt want to tell anyone afraid that he might be medically discharged for "epilepsy" which it seems he might have since theres no other reason as to why he would be having them, he never had them b4 the army, just since hes got out of basic 1 year ago...and im sooo worried he might have one while hes overseas at the wrong time, i talked to him about telling someone and we arnt sure what to do, will he be kicked out the army if we tell someone or will he get sent back here to the states for claiming hes been having these seizures??please someone help me with this!!! i am so scared for him right now.....

he is deployed right now overseas and before he deployed he had a siezure a month b4 he deployed and then a couple spread out over the last year and he loves being apart of the army and doesnt want to tell anyone afraid that he might be medically discharged for "epilepsy" which it seems he might have since theres no other reason as to why he would be having them, he never had them b4 the army, just since hes got out of basic 1 year ago...and im sooo worried he might have one while hes overseas but they are only happening while hes asleep! i talked to him about telling someone and we arnt sure what to do, will he be kicked out the army if we tell someone or will he get sent back here to the states for claiming hes been having these seizures??please someone help me with this!!! i am so scared for him right now.....i need someones opinion that actually has been the military and is high highhhh in rank and if this situatuion arised, how would u handle your soldier??

Answer 1

How about someone who not only has a husband in the military, but has been in the same situation?
Last July, my husband had a grand mal seizure. He had never had a seizure before, so we pretty much ignored it. About two weeks later, he had another one. The final one was in last September. He was diagnosed with epilepsy shortly thereafter.
He is still in the military, and it doesn't seem that they will try to med-board him, because he hasn't had another seizure (at least not any grand mals) since last September.
So you don't have to worry about him getting med-boarded if a doctor diagnoses him, and puts him on medication.
Now what you MIGHT have some problems with is some of the other guys claiming that your husband is "making it up", even if they see him having a seizure. Another issue is finding the right medication for him. My husband tried two before settling on Trileptal, which works great.
Your husband should have told BEFORE he went. But it's too late for that. He should not be medically discharged, but if it comes to that...contact me. I have some options for the two of you. Actually, whether you choose me or someone else for best answer, contact me anyway. I've been there. I know how you feel.

Answer 2

WHAT!!!! he should have been checked out! it might be something easily taken care of! it doesn't have to be epilepsy.
Also, what if he is put in some kind of command position and has a seizure he could be responsible for the deaths of others. this was really irresponsible of him and he could be putting others at risk with his selfishness. I suggest as his wife if you care about what happens to him then urge him to have a physical and tell the docs all of his symptoms. I would not want my army buddy having a seizure and risking my life or his. You know how much trouble he could get in to if his seizures endanger others and he did not disclose this? I love my husband and i would rather see him and his buddies safe and him medically treated. there are other things it could be that might not mean his discharge. Maybe he will have to change his MOS or maybe not?
He should tell how many he has had and over what period of time and when asked why he didn't say anything say he was affraid or that he didn't think it was a real problem or something.
I hate for him to lie, but he must be checked incase the next one is fatal to him or a buddy, and could have been prevented. How bad will you feel then?! and what kind of man do you think he will feel like if he knows he is responsible for the death of another because of a seizure he could have prevented. Get checked before it is too late.

Answer 3

I think it is important for your husband to come clean with his C.O. about a history of seizures and let whatever consequences there may be follow. I know that I have had two seizures in my lifetime and the Army recruiter told me I would not pass the physical because of that. Your husband unfortunately will probably be medically discharged, and he should probably see a doctor about these seizures, as they could be a symptom of something very serious. If he doesn't do anything about it what you described about your fear of him having one in combat or some other potentially hazardous situation could easily come true.

Answer 4

He might be medically discharged but you need to really do what is best for him if he went over the the mid-east the heat could make his siezures worse, heat after all does make epilepsy spark up. You need to tell someone that could be very dangerous. He might not be discharged they might just keep him state side instead of over seas but it just isn't safe.

Answer 5

To put is simply - your husband could get into himself into quite a bit of trouble for not reporting a medical condition that adversely affects his ability to carry out his duties. Not only is he putting himself in harms way, but he could be putting his fellow soldiers at risk. He needs to fess up and report his condition as soon as possible so he can get proper attention, and get him out of the threat of danger.
Whether he gets discharged should come second to whether he is a danger to himself and others with this condition.

Answer 6

I think you have to decide between your husband's love for the military and his health. You should go to a doctor and tell them about the seizures. He should have a checkup just in case, especially since he's in the stressful environment of a warzone.

Answer 7

To begin with let me say God bless your husband for doing what he does. But... with him having seizures and all, doesn't he endanger all the other soldiers? I really do think that one way or other he needs to tell his superior. It's not right for him to be there health wise, and for everyone else there trying to do a job.

Answer 8

he should have told someone before he left. now hes overseas, in a stressful place and it could trigger another one. he needs to stop worrying about being discharged and tell his chain of command, his health is more important. if you really love him you need to convince him to tell someone NOW.

Answer 9

First of all, the army isn't that important to risk his health for, he will be discharged, NOT KICKED OUT, the proper term is DISCHARGED, he needs to tell them, maybe they can do something for him, but TRUST ME! the army ain't all that great to risk your life for, they will give a rats *** when you bury your husband...so please, both of you, cut the crap, and tell someone.

Answer 10

If someone dies or is seriously injured because your husband had a seizure at an inopportune time, will you be asking what you SHOULD have done?

Answer 11

getting medically discharged would really kill his career....., might want to talk to him to have it looked into to help whatever it is before it gets worse, but dont tell anyone for him, he would be pissed.......best wishes, need support im starting a suport group!

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